will he want me back?

Question

bf of three years dumped me. always had fights and breakups before but i've always been the one to say sorry and accepts all as my fault knowing that he has some faults too. we always make up but this time he won't budge. i asked him to come back several times before but he's not listening to me anymore. do you think he'll want me back if i don't beg or contact him anymore? it's been 2 weeks since he broke up with me

Answer 1

Why do you want him back? He never admits responsibility for any of the fights? I doubt that your relationship could have been such a one way street.

Really think about it: if your relationship was so full of fighting, why would you want it back? If you yourself always seem to fight in your relationships, maybe you should address why that seems to happen on your own before getting together with anyone else, so next time there will be less fighting. If you don't seem to have a problem with fighting yourself, why invite someone who always fights with you back into your life? Don't stay with someone to take your mind off of your own personal growth / development. You can find a better guy!

Answer 2

The question is, why do you want him back? If your relationship has been plagued with fights and breakups, and he never accepts ANY fault or responsibility, you're reduced to begging and accepting what you know is an unfair amount of blame... this isn't a healthy relationship.
By staying firm on his decision to break up with you is actually doing a big favor. You need time on your own to take a step back, look at the relationship and your role in it, and discover how you became so desperate for this man's affection. Once you realize what is driving you, you'll be able to treat the source of the need, instead of just treating the symptoms.
Walk away and don't let yourself contact him anymore. Focus on yourself and your own needs for awhile. Be brave, be strong.

Answer 3

Why do you want him back - he has only ever come back because he felt sorry for you by the sound of it - if the relationship keeps breaking down all the time it will eventually break completely which is what has happened now - perhaps your b/f has realised this and that is why is doesn't want to come back. It is hard to accept as you were together for 3 years but perhaps it is time to move on and meet other people - don't waste your life waiting for something to happen live it as see what happens in the future

Answer 4

He does not want you back because maybe he knows there is nothing to get back because you keep breaking up when you keep breaking up there is a problem and lets just put it this way once the first break up happens the relationship is not the same. You need to move on and find a guy that when you fight does not want to break up and does not let you take all the fault~~

Answer 5

I say play the waiting game...... but if you're always fighting, then why stay miserable together? It doesn't make sense. He also may be using this as an excuse to go after someone different. All I can say is for you to be prepared for the worst. If he goes for someone different.....then don't stay home depressed. You go out with your friends and have a great time. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

chick move on and find a real man. one that will appreciate u and accept u flaws and all. if u keep calling this guy he's going to know that he is in control and will keep acting like he dosent care because he knows that you'll always come back to him. show him whos in control and dont call him anymore, besides if all u guys did was fight, what is the point of the relationship? seriously move on give it time, date a little, and who knows u might me a guy that will be ten times better than ur ex.

Answer 7

Hi Mavie: Do you really want to be with someone where your always the one to keep the relationship together apologizing for any mistakes ..... honestly, would you want to be with someone who apologizes for mistakes you made? I wouldn't have respect for a 'weak' person.
I was forever 'apologetic' to a boyfriend in high school - yes, he dumped me and I did the boo hoo thing it seemed like forever. I've built up my self esteem, recently saw him again (still a total hunk) we dated and he kisses the ground I walk on - not what I want though!!
If you had a best friend with the same situation your up against, what kind of info would you give her? Your advise is the best cause no one knows you better than yourself. Good Luck honey!

Answer 8

If you play hard to get he will probably want you back but then again why would you want him back. Several break ups and you always take the blame and say sorry why do you let him off the hook when he should be taking responsibility for his part in these break ups.....You should just forget the bum and find someone better.

Answer 9

Okay, going with your "I want him back" theme, I would recommend distracting yourself, don't beg him, don't contact him. Try something new or something old you haven't had a chance to do in awhile. Get busy, stay busy and have fun! The problem with women in relationships is we let our identities get caught up with them. Think about why you feel you can't stand to be without him, chances are it's because of the way he makes you feel about yourself. Find out the kind of woman he made you feel like. What types of things does this woman think about? What does she do? Try to remember who you are without him or who you wanted to be before him. Be her because that is probably who you really are, not this needy woman who cares about a man who walked out and didn't look back.

If you do this, you know what will happen? You won't want him back anyway.

Answer 10

You need to get out of this relationship and care more for yourself. Always being the one to apologize shows that you let him get away with a lot, and that you don't stand your ground. Let him pursue you if he still wants to be together, but if I were you I'd get out now before this pattern of fights and breakups become more serious. Let him go.