Help me I am having BIG problems???

Question

Ok now please do NOT answer my question with you need to get over him. I was going out with my boyfriend of 2 years named Daniel, Then he brroke up with me (i dont know why) Then Daniel told me leon his best friend would be good for me so i went out with him. Daniel asked out this girl named miranda! She was supposedly my friend...I still have feelings for Daniel so i broke up with leon yesterday cause i couldnt say i love you to him anymore it was just not right, well now i have been telling Daniel i still love him and he is like you have issues i already have a girlfriend so i dont care about you anymore (before i broke up with leon Daniel was my friend and we talked and stuff but now he is being mean.) Me and Daniel were perfect for eachother and then some girl asked Daniel out (he said no the next day but then everything got so complicated) Well now i want daniel back and i desperatly need him becasue he was my first true love and i think we should be together. What should i do???

Answer 1

It's sad that Daniel doesn't realize that you're perfect for him. He broke up with you, passed you off to his friend Leon started dating Miranda, and then said "You have issues!" Daniel doesn't seem to care that you love him because he told you he has a girlfriend and is being mean to you.
Now you're acting desperate and telling him how much you love him but he ignores you. The best thing to do is to make yourself less desperate and more interesting. First, stop talking to Daniel. I know you feel the need to express your devotion, but he's not interested. Second, get involved in other things so you look like you're fun and interesting. Let word get around school that you're doing fun, interesting things and then Daniel will see you in a new light.

Answer 2

You need to GROW UP! Okay, my 'real answer' is that you do need to get over him, but you said that's not the 'answer' you would accept. THAT is what tells me that you are 'far too young' (not your chronological age, but your emotional age) to have ANY BOYFRIEND AT ALL. SO WHAT if Daniel was your 'first true love' ... my 'first true love' was named MARK, and my 'last true love' is my HUSBAND, and his name is NOT- MARK! I could still be 'in love with Mark' but I'd have to be 'really emotionally a child' to do that ... I got over him (yes, it did take some time, and I still 'think about him') and moved on (and eventually UP to the TOP) with my life. I think it's a 'good thing' that you did break up with Leon, because you were only dating him in the FIRST PLACE so you could at least 'be friends' with Daniel ... and Leon is 'worth more than that' and SO ARE YOU!

So ... take however much 'time' it takes to get DANIEL 'out of your system' (you are OBSESSING on him, and you need to 'reduce that' to simply 'having the occasional warm feeling' about him), and then start doing something WAY DIFFERENT, and join in some 'group activities' where you can meet OTHER MEN WHO ARE ALSO SINGLE ... and BE A FRIEND FIRST and maybe someday you'll find your 'one and only' ... and HAVE FUN LOOKING ...

Answer 3

You are reacting on emotion and not with your brain. You really need to just get space from Daniel and think things over. Daniel is not "working" towards a relationship with you. It won't work now while you guys are hurting one another. Take some time apart and regroup. THINK about what's going on here. Would you do this to someone you love??? Why do you put up with this?? Not cool.

Answer 4

I hate to say this, but you do need to get over him. If he is telling you he doesn't care about you anymore, there is nothing you can do to change his mind. If he broke up with you for no reason, and then asked another girl out, she was the reason he dumped you.

This is your first true love? Well, there will be more. Trust me. He is not the one for you, there will be plenty more to take his place, and you will really find your true love. A guy who will love you just as much as you love him. A guy who won't leave you and date other women, one who will always care about you and love you no matter what, then you will know that guy is your true love.

Answer 5

first of all calm down. have you explained to leon why you dumped him? because if you havnt then he'll feel like you did after dan broke up with you. dan might want to be just friends, also you've got to ask your self does he feel the same way, its hard but he might really like his girlfriend. Also, he is being a bit harsh so i dont mean to sound horrible but i think hes telling you to back off. Try to talk to dan about it and if he still feels the same way spend loads of time with your friends, everyone gets rejected once in a while. I hope it all works out and if not there will be other specail lads.

Answer 6

I get the feeling from this post that you are very young. My advice to you would not be to "get over it," but to learn and grow from this experience. You're "ex-boyfriend" is behaving like a typical immature jerk. The only way you can come out on top is to try to be the more mature one in this situation. When you are older, you will look back on this and ask yourself why you cared so much. It may not seem like it now, but, trust me. When you are 25 you'll find yourself wondering why you gave this guy the time of day.
Also, you should try not to surround yourself with too many "false friends" as this could create more drama than is wanted. It's OK to have only a few very close friends who you KNOW you can trust. I realize when you're a teen is all one big popularity contest, but if you are true to yourself and look for lasting qualities in your friends, you may come out of it better off. Just a suggestion.

Also, keep in mind that your "problems" are not as BIG as they seem, in the scope of things...

Answer 7

Well, you know what you need to do....but if he's not interested in you, then you're really wasting your time on hoping he'll come back to you. You need to realize that this may not happen......ever. You also need to realize that you don't need to waste your youth waiting, when there is so many more guys out there, who are probably even more better than Daniel. Think about this, you only live once....and you can't wait for him forever....best of luck to you.

Answer 8

First of all, I don't think you should have dated his bestfriend. If you really wanted to be with him you would have just took time to get over him, not date his friend. If he was your true love he wouldn't have left you the way he did. I think it'll take some time but you definately need to move on and be by yourself. You said it yourself, he is your "first" true love, that doesnt mean you won't meet someone else who will love you better.

Answer 9

You need to talk to him and let you know how you feel. And tell him that you still have feelings for him and even though he may not have any for you, you need to just sit and take some time for yourself. He may have hurt you feelings but if you don't feel like he cares about you anymore maybe it's time for you to find someone else you can feel the same way about.
Good luck!

Answer 10

You need Him back,,,,fine.You still love him,,,very fine.I truely admire your love to someone that doesnt love you back the way you do.The best thing you can do is ask yourself these questions and answer YES/NO.
Does he need you back?
Does he truely care for you?
Is he worth your time,energy,emotions and all that love you are willing to give him?
Do you think he will get any better?
Do you think its wise to interfere into his current relationship with someone else?
Is he worth waiting for?
Does he love you the way you want him to?
Is he willing to fulfil your need for love?
Do you want to waste your precious soul,spirit,self and life on some one that is being mean and doesnt even care for you?
If majority of your answers to the above questions are ''yes'',its worth wanting to be together.
If majority answers are ''No'',you know what should you do.Focus on the reality not on fantasy.You have an answer.