My problem is very complecated and please only competent answers,not scams.I have this friend(J)-widower with an 11yo daughter(R).This year R doesn't go to school because she is pregnant(now in 5th month).When I heard that I was like "WHAT?!How can R be pregnant!She's 11 a baby herself,where were you,what happened?!"And I heard that 2 weeks ago.After the shock I really tried to find out what happened.It turned out that when R misbehaves instead of spanking or time-out,J rapes her horribly(she described me how).That has been lasting already 2 years!She is scared and very ashamed of that and even though she is pregnant,she is still being raped when misbehaving.J locks her at home and there is no how she can run(I looked and didn't find a way).I'm planning on taking her out and going to the police and I need really helpful advice on how to avoid J understand what happened and just be arrested.Every advice is welcome.I have a way to unlock the door and just want to help the poor child.
2007-01-25 05:11:16 · 45 answers · asked by katie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'm 22 but R has no other relatives around and after going out I will take her live with me
2007-01-25 05:14:02 · update #1
Her father(J) is 29
2007-01-25 05:14:56 · update #2
In most states,(almost all) if you know of child abuse, especially sexual abuse (or stronglt suspect it) you must report it to CPS or your states equivelent. Knowing and not reporting is a crime in many of these states too. You need to do this. Your identity will not be known. The law protects that. You should not take her, then you run the risk of being in trouble. Once CPS has her out of the home you can let them know that you want her and they will consider that, I'm sure, but do not try to do this yourself. You need to call Child Protective Services 5 minutes ago.
2007-01-25 05:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen you need to do this as soon as possible this man is sick and needs to be locked away asap (people like him will never get better so keeping him away forever is a good idea). His daughter needs help from professionals to understand why this has happened and that it is not her fault or she is going to grow up with some serious issues and may even become an abuser herself, or very depressed, maybe even suicidal. The authorties will help you a lot, they have ways to pay for things you need, put you in a half way house if need be and protect you and the child. Do not hesitate, the longer you wait the more abuse you are allowing to go on. This most evil thing at all is when good people stand by and to nothing to stop evil. So go now!!
2007-01-25 05:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by mickyd_girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is about the saddest thing I have her this week. The poor child. This first thing you should to is go to the police. MAKE A COMPLAINT. First off she does not go to school. There is a law requirement that all children under the age of 16 has to go to school or the parents can get fined or get jail time. Also stop being friends with this person. My advice for you is to make a plan where you want to take her out (that is what you tell your socalled friend) then take her to the hospital. DONT LET HER GO BACK TO THE MAN. HOW WOULD YOU FEEL 11 YEARS OLD PREGNANT BECAUSE YOUR FATHER RAPES YOU ALL THE TIME. I cant belive it. IF YOU DONT DO SOMETHING FAST YOU WILL SURELY GO TO HELL. Go with your gut here. this is a little girl who is five months pregnet. go to the police right now. stop reading and go now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!HOW DARE YOU ACTURALLY ASK A DUMB QUESTION LIKE THIS. YOU SHOULD AREALDY KNOW. THIS IS A BABY. CALL 911 RIGHT NOW.
2007-01-25 05:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Raven*~ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not that complicated. And "sexual abuse" is putting it mildly. Regardless of what happens to young Dad, the girl needs to be out the house immediately. Call the police or Child Protective Services at once.
My neighbor used to whip his teenage stepson with a belt regularly while his child bride was beating their 7 year old twins, until I got involved. When the jerk police lieutenant I called refused to do anything ("I wouldn't want anyone to stop me from punishing my child!"), I called the newspaper. The next day the stepdad & Mom were hauled before CPS and "counseled".
Teenage son later became a police officer, so it had a happy ending. For your young friend, any ending will be happer than what's she's had to endure so far. Be her hero and call NOW.
2007-01-25 05:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry and ashamed to read this. You don't need to do this by your self. Call the local police department and explain to them and seek their help. It seems like the dad is really getting a kick out of raping his daughter than ponishing her for misbehaving. He can go to jail for a long time for rape charges. Also check law offices. Some can help you in details on getting help for this poor girl( housing, clothes, doctor for her, and most important of all put the dad in jail.) It is not going to be easy for you to do this because you are not a member of the family. But you can put your foot down and try your best. You can take her to your house and keep her there..... but it will get you involve badly. The dad might hurt you in some way. Go through the legal way and get this son of a ........ God Bless You for doing this.
2007-01-25 05:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by Nina 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming that you know of how your friend is being treated because she has confided in you. If not then you need to let her know that you are aware and will listen to and support her. You can re-assure her that nobody deserves to be treated this way and that she is worth so much more than this. As has already been suggested, research what local services and refuges are available for women who are suffering abuse. Also you can find out from your local police station what the name of the WPC is who is trained to work with victims. You can also find out from them under what circumstances you can make a report to which they can respond and provide protection. Give these names and numbers to your friend. You don't say if she is living with this guy. If so, she may being finding it difficult to just walk away. Get her to leave her most important documents (passport, ID papers etc) with yourself and to slowly build up changes of clothing that she can leave with you and might need if and when she does leave.
2016-03-29 02:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. OMG. OK, you need to contact the police and child protective services right now, BEFORE you take the child away from her father, or he can get you on kidnapping charges. Tell them that you are willing to serve as a foster parent and possibly adopt this little girl if you are found competent. Also let them know that you are afraid the father will be violent, and that the girl and her fster family will need police protection.
Godd luck!
2007-01-25 09:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by baby_savvy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult with knowledge about a child being abused? You have not reported this to the authorities? Knowing that she is being harmed and doing nothing NOW is akin to being an accessory to the crime. Call the police. Tell them you are concerned about R and want them to do a welfare check on her. Hell, tell them everything you know. They will do what needs to be done. She needs to be taken out of harms way. What if she were sitting on railroad tracks and a train was coming? Would you leave her there or help her get out of the way? Don't try to sneak her out yourself. You don't want to get involved with J. You need to call the police and/or child protective services. NOW!!
2007-01-25 05:34:20 · answer #8 · answered by Geenahh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you must get her out by any means neccesary. Where da f*ck is the mother????????? She needs to step up and protect her child. If the child is willing to tell the whole story then take her to the authorities. If she is afraid then try to set up a spy cam and catch that AZ HOLE.
If he is locking her in then call the police that alone is abuse and they will take her out of the home and the rest can follow.
MOST IMPORTANTLY YOU NEED TO GET HER OUT OF THERE. Are you capable of taking care of the child yourself? if so then take her away from the misery for the time being....I mean do anything you can to get hinm arrested, try provoking him to hitting you so you can call the police and have him arrested.......while he is locked up the child can tell her story without fearing he would do more to her.
I hope you figure out something soon.
2007-01-25 05:27:12 · answer #9 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. They will believe R because all they have to do is a DNA test to prove he is the father of that baby. They can even do DNA test while R is still pregnant....I think you should just go over when the father isnt home and take her. Dont let her spend one more night in tha house
2007-01-25 07:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋