I have been let down so many times, usually after 4 - 5 yrs. Do i think how can i be single at 44 or do i say sod it and be with her?
2007-01-25 05:08:54 · 25 answers · asked by Danny D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In honesty follow your heart. My partner is 10yrs younger than me and we have never had any problems I'm not saying we are the perfect couple but after 9yrs we must be doing something right. Go for it if you both love each other and want to be together dont let it worry you. Age is but a number. Good luck xx
2007-01-25 05:17:57 · answer #1 · answered by spensmum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let this one go and see it for what it is - lust - not love. Lust is easily confused with love because the feelings are equally (if not more) intense.
She's 20. Think about that. This girl isn't settling down. Chances are - she'll hurt you. Honestly, I know a significantly younger girl really does wonders for the male ego - but this is just not very realistic. At twenty, she will not have your goals, your experience, your outlook on life, your values, your morals - nothing will be the same. It's not just an age gap - 19 years is a generation gap. Your old enough to be her father.
This is new to her right now and gives her a sense of power. . .she's discovering that her sexuality and youth can bring her power over others. She may toy with that for a while - at the peril of others. A younger man will pull her away from you eventually - and you WILL get hurt. She is not finished exploring life and all it's offerings at 20 - and YOU KNOW IT.
These idiots on here saying "tap it while you can" - are like 15. They haven't been truly in love yet - or hurt by love yet. They know NOT what they are saying.
2007-01-25 05:24:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you are 39 or 44. Either way - there is a big difference in age. That "shouldn't" matter if true feelings for each other are strong but given your history of being let down repeatedly I would suggest that you look for someone that has more things in common with you. When a big gap in age exists there is always a chance of a lot of areas being present in which you two don't have a common interest. At age 20 usually people are still more prone to want to party etc...basically still trying to find themselves. At age 39+ you should know what you want and might not be up for certain activities - just to name a few examples....music, movies, circle of friends - all would be different. Technically you could be her dad and we all know how different our parent's opinions are from our own - same situation between you and her is possible. Unless she is looking for a father figure or has a Oedipus complex...then it might work?
2007-01-25 05:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Yvonne M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What can you have in common with a twenty year old. She's a baby, you graduated HS before she was born. Get some sense and date someone your own age and then maybe you wont be let down so much. Why don't you date her Mom if she's single. I'm sorry but I come down hard on grown, supposedly mature, men dating little girls. You're asking for problems.
2007-01-25 05:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Ron P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you LOVE this girl that is 20 you dont like her. She is so young and odds are will dump you well before that 4-5 yrs. You shouldnt settle find someone that you can think long term with and odds are its not going to be some 20yr old kid.
2007-01-25 05:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should look at your question and realize that you said it right in the question. She's a girl when you are at an age where you need a woman in your life. Is she ready to do that? Is she ready to settle down that much? Im not saying it cant work but she will need to be a very special girl -very mature for it to work.
2007-01-25 05:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Ignore the comment about her being fat. Im 20 years old and my husband is in his 30's and i am not fat nor are we rich so can't be in it for the money. Age is just a number unless it's a huge gap in age.
2007-01-25 05:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi everyone is defer. some age gap relationships work ,some dont. i met someone at 22 he was 36. with him for 8 years got married 18months. age got in the way after a while i wanted to do things he wanted to sit at home. good luck to you get it while you can it may work for you.
2007-01-25 05:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sod it, age is just a number does not mean anything, if your relationship is based on love why the hell not
2007-01-25 05:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by xxDiStUrBeDxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo i say to hell with it life's to short.all our lives we suffer some sort of heartache we just have to except it and move on.the trouble is we all seem to be stuck in the past mistakes and our minds just dont let go.take it slow if it works then cool if not then move on till u find the right one for u
2007-01-25 05:20:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋