Too young?

Question

Ok Im 16 and my Bf is 19. We want to get married in 1 and a half years when i just turn 18. I love him so much and i could not imagine anyone else in my life only him. He tells me that he doesnt care if we ever do anything as long as we can be toghether..Were still both virgins. So what do you guys think too young?

Their is no if i will marry him i just want to know what ya think.

He is already finacially stable, and were not in it for the sex trust me he does not even care and we wont do that till were married and we will both be in college

Answer 1

Yes, its ok.

Answer 2

I really think you are too young. I'm not saying your love isn't real, but I feel that once you've lived a little more you'll appreciate the love you have for each other even more. I'm currently in a 3 1/2 yr relationship where my boyfriend is ready to get married and I just turned 22. I haven't even been single. And even though I love my boyfriend dearly, I feel that I need to live a little more before I make such a lifelong committment. I believe you shouldn't make a decision like this one before you have finished school and can support yourselves finanicially. You have time, and think it shows maturity that you are seeking advice. Good Luck.

Answer 3

When you both have CAREERS (not JOBS) where you make at least $6 over the minimum wage and you can support yourselves, THEN consider marriage.

You need to make enough money to pay for food, shelter, clothing, etc. You ALSO need to have a nest-egg in case any little ones come along.

Wait until you're financially secure before you get married. Go to college together, if you'd like, but get an education so you get a good job.

MANY marriages fail due to finances. MANY marriages fail due to being too young. If you at least wait till you have a good financial situation you will have one foot in the right direction.

Good luck.

Answer 4

OMG!! Don't do it even if you think your in love live a little there's so much out in the world to do. Why don't you two travel and just enjoy each others company. Maybe move in together instead that way you can get and idea of what it will be like. It's so much fun to have a boyfriend who's young and open minded. Trust me you can always get married later.

Well, Good luck in everything you do.

Think about it.

Betty

Answer 5

ok, this may not b wat u wanna hear, but I was in a similar position less than a yr ago, wen i was 16. We seemed perfect for each other, and we were, in every way. But people change as they get older and u guys may not even like each other in a yr & a half. You didn't say how long u guys have been together, but my advice would be to hold off on the marriage thing until u both have jobs & a place to live and are financially stable. Most marriages end b/c of fighting abt money. I hope u find wat ur looking for, and i wish u all the happiness in the world, but for now, just enjoy dating and being together. Don't let ur future plans consume ur relationship now. Wait until it gets a little closer to ur 18th & then decide if that's still wat u wanna do.

Answer 6

I know you guys love each other very much BUT do you think you're a little too young? You might want to wait a few more years to make sure that's what you want to do. Because you don't want to be 18 or 19 and getting a divorce that would scar you for life.....so just think about you

Answer 7

If you really love each other, it shouldn't matter how soon you get married, you should wait for each other. Get an education, grow up a little and you will change alot. if you are still so in love even five years from now, then i would say maybe, but now you should wait. also, how do you know there isn't someone better out there for you that you aren't giving a chance. how can you know he is the one when he is the only one you have been with?

Answer 8

i figure you both are too young.most people gets married that young ends in divorce.well it doesnt matter what we say,your bound to do it anyways.just make sure you both can manage on yourselves.it probably wont be very long till you get pregnant and he will need a good paying job.do you think you can manage with a baby and go out with your friends the same time.you better choose wisley before both of you jump into the marriage business.its a big step and both of you need to know what and how to manage.think about it dear,dont make the mistakes some young ones do.

Answer 9

Yeah, too young. I'm sure you love him like crazy and can't imagine life without him. But unfortunately, many young marriages end in divorce. It's because you're going to change soooooo much in the next 10 years. You can't help it. I'm not trying to say you're a child, but the experts all agree that adolescence ends at 25. I'm 32 and can attest to not being the same person at 18 to 25 to 30. And he'll change, too. Try to wait.

Answer 10

Absolutly! Life is so short and there are so many people out there. Definetly wait. People grow as they get older and they don't always grow together. You don't want to regret never seeing what else is out there. People seem to live in this fantasy world about marriage. The truth is, Love is not enough. It takes a LOT more than love to make a marriage work! What will waiting hurt? Nothing.......

Answer 11

I had 4 friends who married at 18 and 19 .They thought hey would be together forever too. None of my friends are still married. When we all talked about what happened they all agreed that they changed, matured and grew apart and wanted different things. All of them said they missed out on a lot of experiences such as parties, living on their own and being independent. If you are truly meant to be together then wait until you have had your own place and lived a little.