im in a long distance relationship havent meet yet, he loves me and im still have mixed feelings when i think to myself if i like him its an yes but whenever it comes too meeting him do you think so?
kinda scares me cuz sum days i dont have feelings for him at all whenever thinking of him so help
2007-01-25 05:00:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first step would be to meet in person. If you spend a little time together it will either help to affirm whether or not you would like to move forward in your relationship. It will be a good thing if you leave sex out of the relationship as it will confuse and complicate the processing of your feelings. At some point one of you will need to make a move if the relationship will become permanent.
2007-01-25 05:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by Heatmizer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not meeting him yet means that the love is still very much at the beginning of its development. I think whe he claims he loves you, he can really only mean it in an infatuational sense.
He doesn't know your habits or hasn't seen you in real time where you cannot edit what you are thinking.
I think you are wise for having mixed feelings about it. You feel this way because you want it to love, but because you really haven't interacted with him in person, you can't be definite.
Guys tend use the word "love" too easily. That is because females make us feel so good inside when we interact with them on a positive and romantic level.
The only time you know its love is when over a long period of time, you realize that even though at times, you hate him to death, you just accept him committingly anyhow.
The romantic side of love is only one part. The day-to-day interaction is the reality of love. Let's face it, the day-to-day aspects of life are a bit boring and mundane unfortunately. The right person is that person who you can share those boring days with and still somehow feel as if the next day is better than the previous one and that you somehow find that person more attractive to you than the previous day up until the day they die.
2007-01-25 13:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on your age. if your a teenager then i am sure you still want to leave your options open for other guys too. if your an adult then it seems like you should know the answer already. if there is any question about the how your feel are what to do look at what you wrote in your question, you said you dont feel for him sometimes when your thinking about him. if you liked him he would make your stomache do flips just by the mentioning of his name.
2007-01-25 13:10:45 · answer #3 · answered by crystal b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kristen, as a rule LDRs don't have good track records and you are having conflicted feelings as well. I think your fears are justified. If you meet him, you need to have control of the environment, because you really don't know him never having met him. I would not "let the cat out of the bag" so as to speak and play it safe.
2007-01-25 13:18:12 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you meet him , meet him in a public place. Maybe meeting him will settle your thoughts on whether or not you love him. Make sure to tell him how you feel.
2007-01-25 13:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven’t met him, it isn’t love. Give it some time. You’ve got your whole life ahead of you. Don’t screw it up. Get to know a person—Find out how self centered he is before you make a decision.
2007-01-25 13:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Caveman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you can't wait to spend the rest of your life with someone, and you want the rest of your life to start now.
That's what my Mother always told me. Think about it.
Good luck and Best wishes!
Betty
2007-01-25 13:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he love the online relationship you have. how can anyone love you when you havent' personally interacted. you're not that desperate are you? and he sounds pretty psycho for telling you that.
2007-01-25 13:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tacyella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were in love, you would know. There would be no doubt in your mind that he was the one for you.
2007-01-25 13:05:52 · answer #9 · answered by Small Town Gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be in love if you haven't met. This is crazy.
2007-01-25 13:05:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋