I am a divorced man, I want a life of my own and i finally met the girl of my life but she do not accept i had married before and she knows i am married when she know me but now she thinks she can't be with me cause all i did with my ex wife before is no longer d first time i can do with her n my parents do not accept her as my parents thought i divorce is her cause which is not n because i was young n big ego i just wish 2 b d best in d family so i got married not because of love but more of a sis & bro love n feel that could make my parents happy but then when grow older n more mature, feel 1 2 live a life my own n 1 2 find a real love 2 b with n not just to make parents happy but never care about own life and feelings... Now I am just very lost as I love my girlfriend now so much that i would do anything for her and do not wish to lose her, she said she can't get what a girl always wanted is 2 b normal see my parents n normal marriage... I can't go back in time n change my life! =(
2007-01-25 04:57:47 · 16 answers · asked by Lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Move on due, find a grown up to share your life with.
2007-01-25 05:22:09 · answer #1 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this family is going to be a part of either of your lives if you are to marry. For any couple this can be a source of tremendous strain. It happens with straight couples all the time. You may have to deal with the fact that this family will never be a part of your lives again. Can your gf deal with that? It may come down to a choice between you or her family. Or she you will both suffer with the bittersweetness of being with the one you love but having to sacrifice something very important, unless some miracle makes them come around one day. I'm sorry.
2016-05-23 22:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by Diana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck! I wish you all would learn to type!!!
Ok here it goes.
First sit your parents down and tell them your GF had nothing to do with your divorce. Then tell them you will be with your GF for awhile/forever and let them know that they should learn to accept her.
Second find things that your GF is interested in that you did NOT do with your wife. go do them. Involve your family in some of these.
Third, explain to your GF that even if it is not something new that you are doing it is the FIRST time you are doing it with her. If she can't get by all this then I guess it won't work out.
2007-01-25 05:06:39 · answer #3 · answered by rcbricker33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend is being very immature about your past. She needs to understand that the past is the past and you moved on with your life! If she can't accept the fact that you've been married previously, then you need to let her go and move on!
2007-01-25 08:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend your past does not belong with the two of you, tell her to understand two people can have true love and a relationship without a piece of paper. You did marry for the wrong reason to please others now you do deserve to be in a relationship for the right reason which is what you said love.
2007-01-25 05:04:35 · answer #5 · answered by sweetladytease 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend wants to be with a man who's "firsts" will be with her. You can't change that, I suggest you let her go and move on with both your lives because neither one of you will ever be happy in this relationship.
2007-01-25 05:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you can't. the harsh bitter truth of your situation is if she can't accept who you are now, then how do you expect to be happy with her in the long term? look 5, 10 years down the road of life, and visualize the reality of living with someone who never fully embraced who you are. Our life experiences; past, present, and the future make us who we are, and no, you can't change who you are. You can, change who your with...strive for equality in your life companion.
2007-01-25 05:05:25 · answer #7 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb she feels like this becoz she thinks u stil have feelings 4 ur ex- wife or mayb she feels 2nd best. if u want her bak then u need 2 convince her. make her feel special n the most important person in ur life.
2007-01-25 05:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by minxi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she can't accept your past, you need to move on. She has some immature ideas on what love and romance are.
2007-01-25 05:02:43 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question, you can't change your past. She either accepts it or doesn't, and if she can't..mabey she's not the girl of your dreams after all huh?
2007-01-25 05:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋