ok here goes, this really annoying me and i need some help.
Im scared of having sex with girls.
i am NOT a virgin i have had sex three times before, I lost my virginity whilst off my head on drugs to a firend and lasted ages but couldnt feel anything so it wasnt exactly heaps of fun.
There was a girl who i was kind of in love with but we were friends for like a year before we went out, that lasted about two weeks before she dumped me, we didnt have sex.
Then i found another girl who i really liked and trusted, i told her i was scared and she didnt mind, we had sex and it was nice but i lasted literally one second.
She dumped me because she was cheating on her boyfriend with me and didnt like it (obviously i cant help thinking it was because of the sex)
I met a girl recently who was good but i came from a HAND JOB in like a second. I dont mind licking ***** etc. I am good at talking to girls, good looking etc. I know its a confidence problem but what do i do?
2007-01-25 04:48:13 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Whatever you do dude dont think that being "off your head on drugs" is best! Yes sure it lasts longer but the only person that gets anything out of it is the person that you are having sex with, yes this may seem good but at the end of the day you are still losing out!!
i myself had the same problem, and i am sure it took some nerver to post your problem, and to actually ask for help makes you a bigger man.
i personally feel that i cannot satisfy a woman without the aids of condoms that numb the end of the penis so that your nerves dont get to envigorated to quickly, or in some cases alcohol!, don't, i repead DO NOT let alcohol give you the confidence you need!. viagra helpes some men, if you feel a bit uneasy which is expected, then take thsi on the sky, without your sex partner knowing. but for an altenative method seek mediacl advice, i am not sure if there is a cure for this kind of thing as i am a bit shy to endever into such aspects of the health servise with me being only 19 : ( .
2007-01-26 19:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm not sure what it is you're scared of, is it that it doesn't last long? you've said you don't mind other aspects of sex so try not to worry too much, wait until you find someone you love and are having a good relationship.
when you're in a secure relationship you can focus a bit more on the sex thing without feeling threatened. the first time might be really quick but you can do loads of other stuff then try again. the second time will probably last longer and so on.
x
2007-01-25 21:00:02 · answer #2 · answered by aria 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just find a girl that has big ears, no teeth, and a flat head, then you won't have to worry about sex?
2007-01-27 02:21:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋