i was seein a lad 4 4months but we split!!!! i found out i was pregnant obvisly scared i told him but then he didnt wanna know>>>> then he did well he was playing wiv my emotions i think n e way i lyed 2 him and a few of my friends and said i took the abortion pill when i didnt some 1 found out now every 1 knows i lyed about it but im still pregnant and my ex dont wanna know im just scared and i guess only human cos i had a abortion when i was 17 not a pleasent thing to do alone i ave a abortion booked 4 2mora and my friend is takin me ...... why is my ex being like this??????
2007-01-25 04:38:38 · 19 answers · asked by nyomi l 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You both are obviously too young and immature to raise a child. If you can't stay off drugs and alcohol long enough to carry this child to full term and put it UP FOR ADOPTION, then have an abortion. I do NOT agree with abortions but in your case I think it would be better than letting someone like you raise an innocent little baby. Why do idiots insist on using abortion as a form of birth control? Do you not realize that you are MURDERING an innocent BABY??? Learn how to use contraception! If you don't know what that means...it's stuff like condoms, birth control pills... What's so hard about that. Instead you choose to be a murderer? There are only two ways that I agree with abortion...That's if there is something really wrong with the baby and it wasn't going to live long after birth without suffering or if the mothers life was at a huge risk. Then they should have the choice. Otherwise, it's nothing more than murder. Swallow a pill, it's not that hard! Who cares about your ex and why he is acting that way. Think about the baby inside you that you are about to murder because you are too immature to be a parent.
2007-01-25 04:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by cutesy76 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you could have taken the time to lie about being pregnant still it's because you want this baby, so why are you letting others bully you into getting an abortion? this is your body and your choice, it you had such a terrible experience then keep this child, find someone who will respect you and move on with your life. You can always opt to give the baby up for adoption or have another family member raise it.
2007-01-29 12:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by angel h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your ex doesn't want the responsibility. Forget him, he isn't worth it.
I now assume that you have now had the termination. I will not judge you for having the procedure but it may be a good idea do discuss your future contraceptive plans once your body returns to normal. I know that the contraceptives are not always foolproof, so get some expert advice. Forget the negative comments on here - turn a corner and give yourself some self respect in your next relationship.
2007-01-29 05:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's probably too late to tell you not to have an abortion because unless you changed your mind you've already had it.
Abortion is not a method of contraception.....
I am not judging you. I do agree with abortions under the right circumstances.
You were wrong to lie, but perhaps you are young and confused and in turn too immature to take on the responsibility of a baby.
Abortions can prevent you having children later in life and in my opinion that is you being punished for having the abortion in the first place.
2007-01-27 08:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by lynn a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget the man, sorry boy, if you are considering the future I would concentrate on your wants and needs. Even if he was interested there is a chance he wouldn't stick around for a full 18 years so at some point you could end up without him anyway. Ultimately the decision is yours and only you know what effect either decision would have on you but if you are unsure delay the op until you are. you don't want to end up living a life of regret due to a hasty decision. all the best whatever you decide
2007-01-25 16:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by scupper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to sound mean but a lie like this should never been told in the first place, and i read in another answer that the boy should have used contraception why couldn't you have used something too, and maybe you wouldn't be in this position
2007-01-29 09:37:49 · answer #6 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not an easy decision for you to make. However unless both of you are commited then the poor child might suffer. You seem a little confused about what you want. If someone does not want to be with you and it seems he doesn't then face up to that and unless you a able to bring up a child on your own then you are probably doing the best thing. One day you will find the man you deserve and be able to have your family you desire. After tomorrow speak to your friends. I am sure they will understand. During pregnance our emotions and behavior go crazy.
2007-01-25 12:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Miss RoZy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ok 1st of all Get on the pill or some kind of Birth control.You are killing Innocent life's because you din't take precautions.you can not just go and have sex and not even worry about getting pregnant and then say ooops after wards and then go get rid of the Baby because you want to.I got pregnant at 14 had him at 15 and now he is 21 yrs old I took care of my son and I would not have traded him in for the whole world!!
2007-01-25 12:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Immaturity, plain and simple immaturity--that is the answer.
Beyond that, consider adoption. Many couples would LOVE to have children but can't. Also, even couples that can have kids sometimes add to their families by adoption. Infants are always HIGHLY adoptable. Check with a local crisis pregnancy center and no doubt they can put you in touch with the resources required to do the MATURE, responsible and humane thing.
If you aren't in a mature, loving, responsible and committed relationship and aren't trying to cultivate that kind of relationship then you can expect to repeat this scenario over and over again. Only you can decide when you are ready to say enough is enough. But, don't you think it is time for that? You are only hurting yourself and your innocent, unborn kids. Have respect for yourself. Have respect for your kids. You will thank yourself for it someday.
2007-01-25 13:07:03 · answer #9 · answered by Charlie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do you want the abortion??? yes you were wrong to lie but you are only human you are having alot of emotions right now. If you don't want to have an abortion don't you would become a good mum all it takes is alot of hard work and lots of love.
Your ex is mad with you for lie to him just for get him and get on with your life.
Good Luck with everything
2007-01-25 12:50:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋