For example, if he is in a long-term relationship and says things like,
"People like me. I am a good person."
"I am a nice guy. I have a nice house and car and I don't think I am better than other people."
Over and over again, all the time (not just once in a while).
Honest and thoughtful answers please!
2007-01-25 04:24:55 · 25 answers · asked by Jay Jay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was completely 100% serious when he said these things, was not joking around at all and would get very mad if you ignored what he was trying to say.
2007-01-25 04:35:50 · update #1
It sounds like he watched too much Stewart Smalley from Saturday Night Live.
On the other hand, it may also be that he is not so humble and just keeps saying those things to make others believe he is humble.
What I would do is to rent a Saturday Night Live episode with Stewart in it and play it for him. Tell him that he sounds like Stewart and you were wondering why he keeps repeating himself. After he explains his words, you will know whether you want to stay with him or not.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-25 04:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends on his personality, like does his seem "snobbish". If not, then he was probably being humble. I have guy friends who say they are good people and they are. The only thing that sounds odd is that he says it all the time. Maybe he's trying to get people to believe that he really is a good person. I mean does he come off as rude or mean, because he may just be trying to prove other people wrong. Try asking him why he does that and maybe he can tell you.
2007-01-25 13:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like he may have a self assurance problem. That may not be a bad thing though. If he says it enough maybe he is trying to convince himself that this is how he wants to be viewed.
Maybe you can get him to focus on other people and less on himself. Tell him this, "If you really feel that way, you should get involved in ...(some community activity) to show how good a guy you really are. He may be up for the challenge. If not, he will keep on "convincing" you he is a good person, and people like him. If that happens, he is really trying to cover up something.
Good people do not have to convince others they are good. In this case, actions speak louder than words.
2007-01-25 12:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by gratifythespirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if a person said that over and over again, then it sounds like he is somehow trying to convince you of these things because he is either insecure about whether or not you believe him, or he somehow is insecure about himself and needs to validate to himself in front of others, that he is a decent guy. Either way, if he IS a good person, then you can tell him "look, you're a great guy - your actions speak for you - you don't have to convince me or anyone else, and if others don't see it, then that is THEIR problem". Then you let him know tactfully that it bothers you to hear him saying this over and over again because it comes across as if he doesn't trust you enough to believe that you already SEE him as a good person. I don't know. This is just my opinion. Either way, I personally would feel sorry for someone who constantly has to validate themself because it shows their self-esteem is low.
2007-01-25 12:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, its dual sided. For instance, he could really be a nice person, and have a nice house and car, and he is very humble. Or he could just be saying that in an attempt to get into your pants. Most humble people wouldnt even say things like that, ut then again this is just my opinion on the matter.
2007-01-25 12:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by JPCarter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's incredibly insecure and is trying to convince not only other people but himself that he, in fact, is/has these things...like he's concerned that people won't realize that he's a good person if he doesn't point it out.
2007-01-25 15:00:23 · answer #6 · answered by strmabruin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hey girls, don't bite the poor guy haha, i myself am a very confident guy and theres nothing wrong with that, confidence sells. Personally if he repeats it then well he is a little full of him self but if what he is saying is true then whats the problem?
2007-01-25 12:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Lord of Love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he doesn't believe it himself and is trying to talk himself into that. Sounds like the dude may need some help. He is looking for assurance and acceptance because he didnt get it somewhere and he isn't giving it to himself so he is looking for it in others.
2007-01-25 12:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by itsjustme12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depend on which manner he says that, I mean to say I too say some times like I am genius or something like that but I really don’t mean it I just say this words to tease me girlfriends just in a joking manner if he say in this manner its okay or else he is too proud guy.
2007-01-25 12:34:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's hiding something. If he has to tell you all this stuff that you couldn't find out for yourself, he is hiding the fact he doesn't have friends and people may not like him and he is trying to hard to convince you to like him. He's pathetic.
2007-01-25 12:31:57 · answer #10 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋