basically a loner. Sometimes I think I am ADHD because they drive me nuts for no real reason. Anyway, they gossip about me because I do not come out and socialize with them. Am I doing anything wrong by going to work, doing my job and then going home?
2007-01-25 04:13:35 · 15 answers · asked by just me 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Providing your doing what your employer is paying you for then no you are not doing anything wrong. If you don't wish to socialize with your co-workers that is your decision. Fact of live is you go to work to complete work and not for a popularity contest. It's nice when people can be friendly towards each other at their places of employment but this is not always so. As for having ADHD I haven't the foggiest as I am not a doctor, but I'm certain that the majority of people would say their co-workers drive them nuts the odd time. As for them gossiping about you why not try talking with them and let them know that you don't appreciate this and your life is none of their concern. Do so in a mature manner and do not lose your temper. If you feel that these individuals are creating a poisoned work environment then you may want to let your employer know. Best of luck.
2007-01-25 04:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in management for 16 years...people like "YOU" were EXACTLY what I looked for. A dependable and dedicated employee that did not start or get involved with the clique gossip! There is nothing wrong with employees conversing! But, it is a huge problem when "cliques" are formed. I don't believe you have ADHD, there are different personality work types. The ones that you are talking about truly disrupt the atmosphere and emotions of the hard workers. With that small of an office, you really can't discuss it with your employer because they will know. Then you will only have more problems with the clique. (unless you have a manager that you are close to) I'd suggest friendly hello's, how are you, compliments on their clothing/hair/whatever. Another thing that may help, Explain to them that you aren't socializing because you don't like them. What about the other 2 people that aren't tight? Have you discussed this with them? With myself being in upper management, I just CANNOT believe that the management is allowing the majority of their employees to be socializing so much. BOTTOM LINE: YOU ARE DOING NOTHING WRONG BY DOING YOUR JOB AND GOING HOME. YOU ARE THE TYPE OF EMPLOYEE THAT EMPLOYERS WANT!!!!
2007-01-25 05:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are actually the smart one. That's how I feel about work - you keep a low profile. Go in, do your job, go home - and not get caught up in office politics. Have you explained yourself? Not that you should have to. Just tell them it's nothing personal but you're not the social type that's all.
If they can't respect that then the problem lies with them - not you.
2007-01-25 04:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by Freedspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not doing anything wrong but by you never saying anything you have them confused,they don,t know if you are friendly or snobby are what,they are totally at odds as to what kind of person you are...I would not gossip with them but I would speak and be nice and let them get a touch of your personality,and smile whenever you can but its fine to keep to yourself,if they try to involve you into their conversation Just smile and say I don,t know or somwthing that lets them know you are not unfriendly...You probably do not have ADHD you just might not be a big talker,just be pleasant and if necessary just tell them,that you are not a big talker...You don,t owe them any explanation but it would best if you have a nice working realtionship,but you don,t have to chime into their conversation,when they find that you are just quite and friendly they will let you be yourself...
2007-01-25 04:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with going to work, doing your job and going home, if you are doing your job well. However, there is also nothing wrong with developing relationships with the people you work with. Just saying "Good Morning" and going to lunch with them once or twice a month might make it easier...and make your work environment more pleasant.
2007-01-25 04:18:42 · answer #5 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just dying for your attention and see how much self-esteem you have because you don't keed them or cling to anyone for dear life like they do. They are jealous. It is okay to be a loner or to not like certain other people. They are just not your type of people. Besides, they will eventually get burnt out on each other and move on.
2007-01-25 04:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by stella b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel because it is the same for me. I am a senior in high school and i have no friends. I am in a vocational trade school and there are groups of people in my shop that are friends and I am sorta a part of one of the groups but all i do is sit there and listen because none of them actually talk to me or invite me anywhere.
2007-01-25 04:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a 40-year-old virgin???
Sorry you're story made me think of that movie.
I don't see anything wrong with going to work, doing your job and going home. That's what I do.
2007-01-25 04:18:36 · answer #8 · answered by michaelyoung_airforce 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are certainly not obliged to socialize with co-workers. Personally I hate socializing with people from work.
2007-01-25 04:24:45 · answer #9 · answered by Cracker 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do you think "just me". Do you tink your doing the wrong thing. Going out, making a decent living??? Come on now, your dong fine. Let them have their little "click". Just as long as it is not one of those girls who sign your paycheck, your fine. {smile}
2007-01-25 04:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Leneki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋