I know that its okay to have friends. But friends should respect that you are in a relationship. If you are committed should you be spending more time talking with so called friends, flirting with them, with intentions to get with them or be with them in the future? Is this harmless flirting, because they are so called internet friends, but you allow them to call you at all kinds of the night. Is it okay to continue arguing over these so called internet friends and ex's or should you introduce them to the loved one so that they would feel comfortable. Or just stop communicating with them on a level as if you are single period if your woman is uncomfortable. Please help a sista out? Am i wrong to be mad if my so called man tells another woman that he wants her back, tells another woman how thick they are and send them flower emails daily or if an internet groupie is allowed to call him at midnight?
2007-01-25 03:53:43 · 7 answers · asked by mz_elegant_1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also....there is no trust issues. But why would a man want to disrespect his woman having these conversations anyway.
2007-01-25 04:32:18 · update #1
Wow thats a tough one. At the begining, I was okay with the whole friendship situation. I do think that it is okay to be friends with the opposite sex when your in a relationship. But at the end when you talk about him telling other women that he wants her back and sending flower e-mails, thats not right. That is taking it way to far. The only way that that would be acceptable is if you had an "open" relationship or were just dating around and you were doing the same with other guys.
I think you need to tell him that he needs to decide if he wants to be in a relationship or back into the single world. Becuase he is acting like a single guy that dates around, not a guy in a committed relationship. You deserve better than that. Good luck!
2007-01-25 04:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by Krista P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay you ought to ask yourself how much of a committed relationship are you in when you're significant other gives this attention and says these things to other people. If your man has been honest about keeping friends with ex's then there shouldn't be anything to worry about. But if your man is telling that ex he wants her back, seems to me he needs to work through some issues. Never sell yourself short sweetie. Even if this guy is just looking for attention, once he disrespects what you have he's crossed the line. A man in a committed relationship is proud to hold his woman in high regard and vice versa. Find someone who will respect you, be honest about his intentions and hold you in high regard.
2007-01-25 04:02:59 · answer #2 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No of direction it is no longer incorrect. Married people go with acquaintances too. i extremely can't fathom why those form of people seem so damaging about it. i do not see the priority extremely, in any respect. Neither of you're doing some thing incorrect, there is not any flirting or sexual chat, you're only being acquaintances! replacing emails, sharing notes, %., jokes, protecting in contact ... those are popular issues that acquaintances do!! there is no longer some thing incorrect in any respect with him saying that he enjoys your friendship and likes speaking with you - it is a common component for a chum to assert. there is fairly no reason to ascertain some thing sinister into that in any respect. you recognize, only because someone receives married does no longer propose that they are in the recent day withdrawn from the pool of people obtainable for friendship. He has given no indication in any respect that he's searching for some thing more desirable than that with you, no longer even once you've met up. he's being a good chum to you. do not throw that away only because those with questionable ethics are identifying on to ascertain some thing into it that frankly isn't there. i imagine you should have a good time with his friendship. genuinely it would properly be sensible only to easily be particular you at the on the spot are not being saved as some form of sordid secret ... if he knows that he's doing no longer some thing incorrect, then his spouse would note of the relationship. although the actual incontrovertible actuality that he hasn't explicitly reported so does no longer propose that he hasn't advised his spouse ... it is just one in all those issues that looks somewhat ... retentive, perchance, to point. yet when he has advised his spouse about the friendship you percentage, then please do not hyperfocus on the actual incontrovertible actuality that that is an opposite-sex friendship; it can make him sense unnecessarily uncomfortable in case you draw interest to the entire "ooh ought to or not it is incorrect?" debate. in accordance to what you've shared with us, there is no longer some thing to signify it is incorrect, nor even optimal that way. it is no longer. have a good time with!
2016-10-16 02:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by weatherford 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with the person you are in a committed relationship with.
That's something that isn't written in stone. I've known people in 'committed' relationships that could sleep with other people and it was alright with their partner/spouse. I've also known people who considered being flirtacious as bordering on cheating.
Communicating the boundaries of your relationship is important. Boundaries made by assumption are a very dangerous thing.
2007-01-25 03:59:42 · answer #4 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's all good....But I know that most women feel that it's not. I have gotten into trouble one too many times about doing just this. It does not stop me. Just know that the chance of getting into trouble is 60% or more
2007-01-25 04:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there's trust that having friends regradless shouldn't matter cuz you know the other person's not doing anything, and vice versa...
2007-01-25 04:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by musicman_1829 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
2007-01-25 03:58:00 · answer #7 · answered by OMG 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋