been staying sober and trying to let my man know i am really in to this and he has agreed to sobriety also and has now doe this for the 3rd time and went out ot drink and wants me to accept this one more time and i am not he knew he was wrong for taking the first beer and wasn't drunk when he took it so i am done finished the end but what the heck does he try to play me like this when he knows im gone at the first time of unhappiness. just needed to vent
2007-01-25 03:44:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Best of luck in trying to achieve a live of sobriety one day at a time. It is very difficult sometimes for our partners to view us in this new light and at times hard for them to understand. But if substances are a problem in your life then trying to do something about it will not only make yourself feel and look better about yourself, but will also have others respect and admire what you are doing. I remember when I first sobered up and all the people that I ran with said "I wish I could do it also". Fact is though they did not want to clean up or they would have given it a shot also. Since then I have lost three friends to China White and more to alcohol abuse. If your partner is not being honest about attempting to get sober you cannot worry about that as you have your own hands full trying to stay sober yourself and that's all you need to be concerned about at present. Loved your rant and I honestly can relate to what you are saying. I have been sober for many years now and realize that it is not always easy and that you need to change your lifestyle in order for this to be successful, as it sounds like you are also aware of. Good life and happy sobriety are my wishes for you.
2007-01-25 03:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you took him back the first time, and the second, so he figures since you did it once you'll do it again! Good for you for trying to stay sober, but you need someone who can support you, not put you in danger of "falling off the wagon". You are only strong enough for one! And that one HAS to be you! My best to you on getting it right!
2007-01-25 11:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a ruff one. Just remember you are the one who is in sobriety, your man did not choose this as in his actions. it is a ruff one to be supportive of when only one in the relationship has made this commitment. Is drinking a problem for him? If not than maybe you need to search your inner self and ask will I abandon all people who drink. I wish you all the luck in your relationship and way to go for choosing to stay sober. your support group may have some answers for you. If you are not in one join one. it will help you understand.
2007-01-25 11:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by mellow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like this has possibly happened before and you stuck with him, so over time a guy grows comfortable with the fact that if you stayed once, you'll stay again. Can't blame you for splitting though.
2007-01-25 11:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay strong your health and well-being are not worth risking for someone else. He can't care about you until he cares enough to stop the drinking when he knows he has a problem.
2007-01-25 11:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never easy, compassion has its limits too and I think you have reached yours. If you wish to get over the troubles in your life you need to heal and recover from the drink first.
2007-01-25 11:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
And vent you did. At least you're strong enough to resist temtation!
2007-01-25 11:48:56 · answer #7 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vent on, ask him for some respect!
2007-01-25 11:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi
just let him know that you are not going to have it. you are doing what you have to do for yourself to make you happy and healthy and if he can not understand that then he has to do0 what he feels he need to do to be happy.
2007-01-25 11:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey! You have no periods, pauses or anything! Its just a run-on sentence!
Congrats!!!
2007-01-25 11:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by howardlee1977 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋