I have a problem with my sibs, I'm trying to help my mom out since my dad is deployed, but My sibs wont listen to me, I've tried everything, house, barbies, movies, music, dances....they're girls...HELP PLEASE!!! I want to help my mom out because she really doesn't need all of the presure of trying to handel 3 kids [[not including me]] at once, while I the eldest of the four can help.
2007-01-25 03:35:35 · 16 answers · asked by vtang.angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
That is so sweet of you wanting to help your mom i am sure both she and your dad are proud of you. Just try to talk to your sisters and explain to them that they need to behave a little better so things can be a little easier on your mom. If you can try to help her out with some of the work in the home and see(if they are old enough if they can learn to help to -pick up toys--or any other work they can safely do. Just do your best that is all you can do!
2007-01-25 03:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? and all your other siblings?--as a child and being a girl, honestly none of that interested me--I was into sports, climbing trees, skipping rocks. Ask the girls what they would like to do. If they are old enough to understand that mom needs help and is stressed, talk to them don't treat em like babies if they aren't--You may find they are acting out cuz they are scared Dad isn't coming back, If you are young you may not be able to deal with this yourself, Get some other adults to help you, grandparents, aunts, uncles, neighbors, you would be amazed at how many people will help (even if it is just to take the kids to the park so mom can get some relaxation).
Now if you are an adult and are working--maybe you can hire a housecleaning service for your mom to go in once a week to clean up for her, or maybe you can take your siblings for a few hours a couple of times a week and let mom relax and unwind.--Or have her take the kids to the park and you clean up for her. You have many options. Explore them all and don't be afraid to ask for help.
2007-01-25 11:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by HappyGoLucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on how old you are and how old they are. If you are younger your Mom may need to sit them down and tell them during certain periods of time that you are in charge and they need to listen to you.
As best you can, come up with a schedule or routine for them so they will learn to know what to expect from you and when and they are more likely to comply after becoming used to the routine...maybe it is watch T.V. for a half hour, then a light snack, then a board game or story, then bath and bed, or what ever order works for you. Just come up with a schedule you can keep when you have to watch them and stick to it.
The routine will make them feel more safe and secure because then they know what to expect and probably even more important since your Dad is oversees and they have that insecurity to deal with.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 11:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to be strong for you all, while giving you all directives to be followed. If she leaves you in charge, then she needs to make your sibs strongly aware of this fact. However, it may be more responsibility than you're able to handle. I'm confident there are many other ways that you're able to help around the home.....more in the line of household chores.
Your concern is very commendable! ;)
2007-01-25 11:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your sisters down together and talk to them and tell them your mom needs help and is going thru a hard time right now and see if they come up with any suggestions.
2007-01-25 11:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a command voice and if they still dont be listening start woopin. If you aint that kinda person tho just ask them what they wanna do and most likely they will start listening right then.
2007-01-25 11:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by Apple Bottomz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your sibs to help your dad out not you. tell them your dad worries allot about their mom and all of you need to help your dad so he doesn't have to worry so much and he can concentrate on being safe.
2007-01-25 11:44:25 · answer #7 · answered by sammyjk1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit them all down with your Mother and you and your Mother need tor einforce that you are second to your Mother and they are to listen to you. They must hear it come from the Horse's mouth so to speak. Your Mother must say something to them to validate what youa re saying.
Good Luck.
'-)
2007-01-25 11:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard of www.clubmom.com its a mom site that helps with these problems and its totally free. They have helped me through a lot ( I have three children).
Good Luck
2007-01-25 11:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your kinda lucky I have 5 brothers and sisters.....all I do is find a game that all of em' like and give out prizes so it won;t get so boring.
2007-01-25 11:40:26 · answer #10 · answered by cortez_cheyenne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋