my husband has a low sex drive and I am working with it because I do not.In the past week he has been talking in his sleep and acting out sexual motions...(3 times this week) And Im not the one he is talking about...( it is no one that I know.)I dont think that he is having an affair.Normaly I would say its not a big deal ,we all do it.But he is waking me up in the middle of the night and Im almost to the point of sleeping in the other room. I only get 3-4 hrs of sleep and its starting to hurt my feelings..Should I say something to him? What could be the cause of it.
2007-01-25 03:17:15 · 18 answers · asked by french1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can see why it would hurt your feelings. He probably isn't having an affair or he wouldn't be having wet dreams but he might be thinking of it. Possibly his sex drive isn't as low as you think - maybe he doesn't want to impose on you, or perhaps he has psychological hang ups about it. I think I would try to have a discussion with him about it, and remember Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
2007-01-25 03:24:10 · answer #1 · answered by sick-ovit-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest sitting down with your husband and talking to him about what is going on and how it is making you feel. Is he aware of these dreams and the fact that he is talking in his sleep? If this is keeping you from sleeping and starting to drive you out of the bedroom it is really time to talk things over. If you move out of the bedroom things will just get worse, there will be a lot of tension in your marriage. It will go beyond the fact that your husband has a low sex drive, the two of you will grow apart. Maybe you should wake him when he is having these dreams and make love. If the problem seems to get worse or the two of you feel like it is a problem in your marriage, maybe your husband should see a doctor about it.
take care
2007-01-25 11:28:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that it is hurting your feelings because you are already sacrificing. I am having the same problem. I think that maybe your husband is obsessing over his low sex drive at bedtime until now he is wet dreaming. Why not wake him up and be his dream girl.
2007-01-25 11:24:21 · answer #3 · answered by newyorktilson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if this loss of libido is sudden, there is a high risk that he is having an affair, especially if there is little sperm when you actually do it, but then again this could be a medical condition, or aging. However the fact hes talkin about another women in his dreams again supports the theory that hes having an affair.. i think you should speak to him about it and ask him if hes having an affair, and why does he keep thinkin about these kinds of things.. if he is having an affair divorce him a flash
2007-01-25 11:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray and tell Jesus about it. God has promised that if you ask for help, He will give it to you. Have faith, keep your head up, and God will make a way (cuz it really is not nice, I'd be hurt too if I were you). In the Bible, whenever there's a crisis or a desperate situation,
those involved would go down on their knees,repent and pray, and God will hear from Heaven, forgive their sins (if they have sinned) and heal their land. And BLESS them too!
2007-01-25 11:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by child of God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you not spoken to him about it? I think he might well have something bothering him, our dreams are sometimes not what we think they are. Has he had therapy for the low sex drive? The 2 maybe related, maybe he has some hang ups that are expressing themselves in his sleep that he doesn't feel he can approach you about.
I think you really need to talk to each other.
2007-01-25 11:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go to any Hill Station .... Because of Change in Atmosthere he fill better than ever....Relase from Day Today Tensions....Donnot Say Anything try to Develop Good Relationship.
Best Of Luck
2007-01-25 11:25:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What will you say him when you're talking? "Stop dreaming hot things!" "Don't erect when you're asleep!" Phew, will be hard for that poor guy to follow. Personally I have no influence on my dreams. Only once in a lifetime I was dreaming such weird thing that I said to myself: "I must be dreaming this!" and then I really woke up.
2007-01-25 11:27:46 · answer #8 · answered by male4girlz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the lack of sex with you,try having a go at it before bedtime and tire him out a bit.
2007-01-25 11:21:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake him up by fondling him or even with a bj! When he awakens he will never forget that moment and might even start dreaming about you! And heck you'll get more booty to!!
2007-01-25 11:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by johnnynutzsc 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋