Why do I feel like I need a constant reminder that there is NOTHING wrong in my relationship with my boyfriend? The last 3 bf's I have had (including the one Im with now), I constantly worry about stupid stuff....like, weather he likes me or not, & weather he wants to be with me or not. I worry if I dont talk to him, or if we are on the phone and dont have anything to say, I worry that he's bored with me and plans to break up with me. He doesnt know I do this, I dont let it show, so Im not worried about freaking him out about it. But I have to keep telling myself everything is fine, and look back over text messages when I need a physical reminder. Again, Im cool, calm, & collected with Im with him/on the phone. Its almost like I cant think logically about things....I make stuff up in my head & worry about it!
I know this isnt normal..its psycho! Is anybody else like this? What can I do about it? Is it just some kind of insecurity within myself? Any SERIOUS advice would be appreciated
2007-01-25 03:16:46 · 6 answers · asked by annie 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is an insecurity within yourself. I do the same thing. I worry so much about things that don't even matter. The difference is he knows I do this. All I can say is try not to worry so much. If he didn't love you, he wouldnt be with you.
2007-01-25 03:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey....I am the exact same way!!! I felt like i was reading my diary or something...i feel so bad for you cuz i've only had one bf and it was so horrible cuz i would beat myself up wondering if i was pretty enuf of fun enuf then if he didn't talk to me so much one day i'd think it was something i said or did last time we hung out. I don't know how to change or what to tell you cuz i still am like that but just know that it's ok adn lots of other girls feel same as us(i hope) and you are great as you are or he wouldn't be with you. Go get a new outfit and hair cut so you feel sexy and hot then you'll just KNOW for yourself that you are great! Good luck and chin up!
2007-01-25 11:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like insecurity to me.I did the same thing just in other ways for years..You have to learn to like you , before you are going to think that anyone else does.Find 5 things in your self that you like and you think he cant find in someone else.Every time you get those crazy what if I did ------ thoughts , start reminding your-self of the 5 things.
2007-01-25 11:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by french1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you trace it down, it IS insecurity. We all have some of that in us, and we all battle against it. What you need to do is the same thing I need to do, and a lot of others as well....RELAX! Relax, and be ourselves. If they like us, okay, and if they don't okay......
2007-01-25 11:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loew self confidence u don't beleive your good enough
2007-01-25 11:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by simply_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea, that's a bit messed up. maybe you need yoga or something.
2007-01-25 11:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by shaun_empire 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋