I have been with my guy for 1 1/2 years...he has never bought me anything..as far as clothing or shoes...he always tell me when the time is right or I got you....he doesnt have to spend his entire paycheck on me but damn just a little something would be nice...i on the other hand treats him very well..buy whatever he needs....for valentines day i was going to buy him a nice roca wear shirt..or eddie bauer colonge that he likes..i love to treat my man good..i mean he is a good guy but he just refuses to spend on me....like mary J blige song..fellas if you have a good woman..dont you want to make sure she stay fly....spend every dollar every dime....am i wrong for wanting him to buy me things....not all the time but once in awhile....
2007-01-25 03:01:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a very materialistic view you have. Relationships are not about "what I spend on you, you have to spend on me". I think you need to stop comparing your life to Hip Hop songs and get living in the real world. I would be happy in a cardboard box as long as I had my man.
2007-01-25 03:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if your guy is taking you for granted, and if he does that now in the dating phase (when ppl really try hard to impress each other) FORGET him EVER changing. I'm speaking from experience. I wouldn't accept it if I were you........anyone deserves better than that............and NO it is NOT selfish of you to expect things once in a while!!!! This is NOT NOT NOT a materialistic issue....I'm sure you'd be happy with some flowers he picked for you, or a sweet card he made, just ANYTHING to show you that he is thinking about you and is taking time to do something he knows you'd like, right? And I'm sorry, but if he has a job (plz tell me you are dating someone w/a JOB!!!), then he should be able to buy something for someone he loves once in a while. You're NOT asking too much, ignore all the ppl answering you that say that. I don't agree that girls deserve to be spoiled, but I INSIST that if he loves you, he WILL treat you well.
2007-01-25 03:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by blah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yah u are b/c ur relationship shouldn't be about material things but instead about love. Since he treats u good I would say don't leave. Some guys just don't like to have to go buy there girl things b/c they already have u so they figure whats the use. Most guys who do buy there girl things don't treat them right so be glade u do have a guy who will treat u right.
2007-01-25 03:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by sweety_8620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you forget you are the Lady. He should shower you w/ gifts
or at least buy you something on holidays. After 1 1/2 yrs he thinks is OK. You need to think over the situation and figure out if down road this is what you want.
2007-01-25 03:12:20 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls have to be treated now and then. Understand your frustration you're always the one giving out more than the other half. Try talking it through and make you opinions known and heard! If your partner is still selfish and think about themself then it can't be helped. Try taking things on a break rather than break up, if that doesn't wake the other half up you know what to do. Do what you feel is right for you.
2007-01-25 03:08:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should put at risk your relationship for a reason as vain as the the one your displaying. Has it ever gone through your head that he's not the type of person who gives material stuff? You say he's a good man, so why should you leave him? It's so hard to find a good man nowadays. If you give him something, don't do it because you want him to give you something back, just do it. That way you show him how much you care about him without expecting something in return.
2007-01-25 03:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No your not wrong at all its just a gurl thing we like to be spoiled well i do at least, well if he has the money to buy you things and doesnt then he sounds stingy but if he just simply doesnt have the money then i guess u cant expect it!!! But i can totally see where ur coming from because it does get old after a while we want to be spoiled!!! My man does buy me things if im there with him and tell him to buy it for me but he wont just come home with gifts for me!!! but i wish he did!!!
2007-01-25 04:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Priscilla R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to talk to him. Maybe he just dont know he doing you like dat, But me personally think that he aint worth ya time. If he dont ever buy u nuttin and you steady hookin him up with rocawear and stuff and he cant buy u a lil ring or something he mit just be using you. I say you should talk it over with him, and if stuff is still the same...leave him
2007-01-25 03:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Apple Bottomz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buying stuff isn't what relationships are about- their about love for each other. If you feel like he is giving you enough stop buying so much for him - take it from a guys position, if you stop buying him stuff maybe he'll buy you more or maybe you'll just have a couple of dollars extra in your pocket.
2007-01-25 03:14:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he is using you. Stop buying hi a thing until he buys you something - or moves out because he isn't gettting the things free anymore. The sooner you get rid of him, the sooner you will find someone better.
2007-01-25 03:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋