Can you love someone a way in your life? can you be to nice and helpful. I can't help but be nice and love with all of my heart but i think that it scares people this day in time to find that kind of love. I'm i wrong?
2007-01-25 02:58:49 · 30 answers · asked by MICHELLE T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In life, there's "givers", and "takers". You and I are "givers" by nature. We love with all our hearts, and therefore tend to get them broken real easy when things don't work out for us. Yes, you CAN love too much....but then the alternative for people like us, is to get hard and bitter....and not love at all. I wish I could be a "middle-of-the-road" person myself......love, but with some common sense there also. I live in a very, cut-and-dry, black and white world......I either give 110%, or none at all!
2007-01-25 03:07:18 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you can. And you are right. It does scare most people, especially men, away. Sometimes you love so much that you tend to suffocate a person. When you show too much love too early in any kind of relationship, the other person can believe that they have to give that much love or more in return and that you may expect that much love in return as well. That's a pretty high expectation for anybody. Sometimes people think that a person that grabs a hold of them and puts that much effort into loving them may seem extremely needy and codependent. Most people would not consider that a very healthy way to start a relationship, whether it's a friendship or romantic relationship. It's not a bad thing to love, but it is not healthy to be so loving that you seem to have to be dependent on someone for your own happiness instead of creating your own. Too much of anything, whether it's good or not, is not always a good thing. Have you ever heard of the phrase "everything in moderation"? Well, it's the same idea with loving someone. Too much too soon is scary and sometimes if you just take your time to love, it can be that much more appreciated in the long run.
2007-01-25 03:15:51 · answer #2 · answered by shortydolphin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The behavior you are describing is not "loving too much". You can do unwise things because you think you are in love with someone. You can stay with someone too long or do things that are not good for you because you are being too nice and you are afraid of hurting the other person's feelings. You can be too needy or clingy and drive other people away. None of this behavior is very healthy. But none of this behavior can necessarily be construed as "loving too much". You may need to slow down and reevaluate what you really need and value from your relationships.
2007-01-25 04:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes... is called "having an obsession".
Either with helping people, with having an excessively nurturing attitude (to the point of hurting yourself for others), or simply over one person you can't stop thinking about.
It's normal to feel in love or "a bit obsessed" with somebody at some point of our lives... I've been there myself.
However, if you reach the point where it's interfering with your life and happiness, that of others, or simply is starting to worry you too much, it doesn't hurt to seek some counseling.
There's a blurry line that divides love from serious obsession...
2007-01-25 03:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Somebody, somewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be codependant. Are you being so nice that you bring your alcholic boyfriend another beer? Are you buying things to win someone over after they've asked you not too? Is your way of being nice and "watching out for them" mean that you stalk them and send creepy love notes?
If not it sounds like you just haven't met the right person. Someone out there will adore you and genuinly appreciate the kindness you extend. Someone out there will love you like you need to be loved!
2007-01-25 03:00:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can love too much but like every thing made in excess, it will harm, but you're not wrong at all doing good things just because many people around you isn't the same or feels the same as you do.
2007-01-25 03:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Eduard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong to care or to love. But you have to be able to depend on yourself at the same time. People are skeptical in the world today and usually assume there are secondary reasons for the kindness.
2007-01-25 03:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am like you in this, and I can tell that people just mistrust it, they think nomore can anyone be so loving and sincere, and unconditionally helpful and nice. The bad side of people has now become the norm.
2007-01-25 03:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Chichou 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was way tooooo much in love. It was kind of obsession. But it's over. There's nothing wrong with it... I can't describe this wonderful feeling when u are in love. Especally when it is obsession.
2007-01-25 03:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by lsd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love too much-No. What you're talking about sounds like you gain your self confidence and self worth from others reactions to you. Work on loving yourself and the rest just happens.
2007-01-25 03:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sassy Pants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋