I am in a serious relationship with a girl and we are having trouble with being so far away. We both went to college together and then moved back home and continued our relationship. It's been 3 years since and she lives about 2.5 hours away. Our issue is not one of trust that you normally see in these relationships, it is life situations. Her father has an illness and is in a permanent care home. She does not want to move to where I live because she feels like that would be abandoning her dad and her mother, who is obviously having a tough time. I understand this. However, I cannot move down until September because of career issues, I just got a raise and would hurt my career by bailing now. Plus there are no jobs where she is. We are stuck apart!
We've tried to just be patient, but we are tired of this and she is getting lonely. All of our friends are near where I live, that was the plan to move in together, but her dad's situation has really made things hard. Suggestions?
2007-01-25 02:55:22 · 3 answers · asked by mark 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If it is meant to be, be patient. My wife and I were seperated by MANY miles, myself in Virginia and she in northern Canada, but we have been married for 5 years now and are expecting our first child in 5 months. It can work, but be prepared for HUGE phone bills, a few trips to see one another, and get flowers sent to her from a local florist just because...
Keep the faith, keep the love, and good luck!!!
2007-01-25 03:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by doctor_76 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am kind of going through the same thing. We are stuck 2.5 hours apart also. He has a great job, and I just got a great job here that I can't leave until the probationary period is up. It is very lonely. I suggest giving each other space, so that when you do finally talk, you actually will have something to talk about and not focus on being apart. Focus on the long term and not being apart right now.
2007-01-25 03:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by precious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really love each other than this is just a small test for you too
she can never leave her father alone&you can`t leave ur jop so i think you should wait tell septemper till you make sure ur in good position in ur work,than you go to her like in avacation &set together &think,u can put in ur mind her moving with you& if she can make her parents move with her in a more near place to her so she can stay with you & take care of them too.
2007-01-25 03:11:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋