i am 24 and i have gone out with several girls to date... but i have a problem. you see, none of those relationships ended on a good note. the girls like me well enough, but i have this attitude problem that just makes me the most obnoxious man at times. i get irritated by simple things the girls do and i become mean to them, ignore them, become rude for very silly reasons. i become an *** and ignore the chick on the street even. i dont think the problem is with the girls. it must be me and i need some urgent assistance here guys coz i want to marry this girl and i'm afraid i'm gonna do the same crap to her too. i really love this one. what can i do to make my character stay the same. why do i have to vacillate between being an extremely fun charmer to being a ******* arsehole?
2007-01-25 02:49:08 · 2 answers · asked by Moyo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You really need to ask yourself WHY you are behaving like this. Are you scared? Is there a chance that you are pushing people away, cos you don't want to be rejected?
Well done on recognising that your behaviour is unacceptable, now that you know that you will loose friends and partners because of this, it should be easier to change your behaviour. You probably need to work on your self-esteem - you say you are obnoxious and mean - this is usually because you are scared of being hurt. You don't feel worthy of the girls you date - you need to start being who you want to be - a nice guy. Try and stop feeling scared - yes, you might get hurt, but at least you'll have given love a chance.
2007-01-27 04:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your already half way there, you know yourself what your problem is so, if you can't solve it yourself, try getting some help from a hypnotherapist, it will help. !! xx
2007-01-28 20:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sierra One 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋