Why do people cheat?

Question

Even though we know its wrong and we know how it feels to be cheated on then why do we do it?

Answer 1

Because we enjoy the instant gratification that it brings (instead of considering all the long term consequences that this action could or will cause).

Answer 2

I think it stems from childhood, call it not getting enough attention, not being loved, not being cared for...whatever it is it makes the person feel like they are not being loved, even when they are in a loving relationship ---hence they go out looking for more love, but cheating and multiple lovers will not fix the hurt that has been done by the parents in the past. I've cheated, I've had people cheat on me, I've also spent several years in counseling and guess what? I don't cheat anymore, and I hope I'm not still picking broken and hurting souls who feel the need to find "love" when what they don't know is they are really looking to heal the wounds of the past.

Answer 3

People can cheat for numerous reasons.. For instance, they might not be getting what the need in a relationship with their significant other .. (sex, attention, praise) or they could just not feel the same way about the person as they once did. The "cheater" could also just like to see what and how much they can get from whoever, or like the challenge of having a girlfriend/boyfriend and messing around with other people.

Answer 4

Some people cheat because they feel like they are missing something. Basically being selfish thinking about themselves. There is never an excuse for cheating as so many try to justify it in their meinds.

It's never worth it.

Answer 5

Too many reasons. I've never cheated on any of my girlfriends nor my ex wife but the one girl I truly loved more than my own life did cheat on me. For this, I have deemed that every cheater isn't worth the dirt I walk on. Man, woman, girl, boy it makes no difference. Every single one of them could have said no but chose not to.

Cheaters are the scum of the earth.

Answer 6

To Fulfill His Biology: You know the old anthropological tale. A man's main job, besides killing the saber-tooth, is to spread his seed in order to ensure the survival of his genetic legacy. It's a man's biology to want to wander. Does that mean he should, or that he can't help it? Of course not. But it does mean that a man is going to have strong-extremely strong-biological urges to knock on the doors of neighboring huts. I have had this argument/discussion/conversation with dozens of men and women: Are men predestined to cheat? My answer is no, they're not-despite their biology. But often times, they do have to fight it. Especially after a pitcher and two shots of Jack.


To Get the Attention: News flash: Sure, some guys cheat because, well, maybe the sexual frequency has slowed a bit, and maybe hot-and-heavy happens at home about as often as Rob Schneider gets nominated for an Oscar. But the truth is that plenty of men who are having regular sex with their partner are also having sex with someone else. Why? Because cheating isn't just about the sex. Just as a woman who cheats may be seeking more affection than what she's getting at home, a man often cheats because he's seeking the attention that he no longer gets at home. Part of the allure of the mysterious woman isn't just to find out what she looks like naked; it's that the woman showers the man with flirtations, with seduction, with advances that make him feel like he's worthy of more than just fixing dents in the drywall.


To Get Out: I know lots of guys who simply don't have the strength to end it. They may try ("I'm just not happy"), or they may take other tactics to drive a woman away. A lot of guys simply have trouble breaking off relationships because they don't want to be perceived as that bad guy, the jerk, the insensitive lout who ended something good. So they tiptoe around the issue in hopes that she'll get so frustrated that she'll back out first. Well, if that doesn't work, then a man knows that the only way out is to commit the relationship sin that drives a woman away for good. It's not right, but it's what happens.


To Change Up His Play List: Think about what's on your iPod. You have your favorite songs you play over and over, but every once in a while, you're in the mood to hear something you haven't played in a long time. You don't need to hear it but once every month or so, but still, you appreciate the changeup. Relationships need to be like good iPods lists. You're comfortable with your routine and you like your routine, but it's always nice to change things up. What men really want in relationships (and what I suspect women also want) is to be able to take comfort in the routine of a long-term commitment, as long as there are some surprises that make it feel like a new relationship every once in a while. In order to keep the relationship strong, you've got to change the songs every once in a while. That goes for in the bedroom and out.

Answer 7

Same as "Why eating fast food?". Cheating is the easy way to fulfill a need, yet the main dish is more palatable, but takes more time to prepare and appreciate.

Answer 8

It seems to become part of us once the barrier of sin is breached by us. Lust is one of the most powerful forces that bring people together only to hurt the ones we really love and take for granted. This has always happened and will always happen, it takes the few, wise people to overcome all negative temptation and say NO to evil beauty..............

Answer 9

Usually cheating means there are deeper problems in the relationship that haven't been dealt with.

Answer 10

it depends on the situation sometimes,sometimes people cheat becuase there partner neglected them,or forget that they have an obligation towards there half,ans sometimes people cheat because they succumb to temptation with the flirtatious opposite sex who likes them