There are at times a few cute guys that catch my interest, but I no longer get "butterflies." I miss that.
I don't feel nervous around guys I like in the way that I used to. I know love isn't built on this sentiment, but it would be nice to have at least SOME infatuation in the beginning.
I guess I'm not so shy anymore and that's part of it, yet I don't feel anything for anyone; no passion, nothing. I feel empty.
With Valentine's around the corner, I just feel like there's something wrong. I see the couples walking around campus all the time holding hands...I guess it just makes me sad. Is there something wrong? Is there anything I can do to fix this?
2007-01-25 02:40:16 · 19 answers · asked by abby j 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that maybe you have gone through the "little girl infactuations" stages of life...You have entered into what I like to call "I don't have time for your BS" stage...The fact is, you know what you want in a life partner...and it's not a bad thing, because it helps to save you from having your partner walk all over you. I think that the feeling you want to have could be accomplished if your partner were to be a little more spontaneous...
2007-01-25 02:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, that's kinda funny..
i didn't know anybody ever felt that way.. i tot it's better to not have all those "butterflies" when u're a single cuz it only messes with ur brain..
well, i think it's kinda odd.. but maybe it's normal.. for us singles, valentine's day has always been a total insult, a sarcastic joke, and at the same time, a bitter realization.. if empty means lonely, then i feel it everyday when i see couples in campus.. u jus wish, but u know that it ain't gonna happen, or u don't have the guts to follow thru ur decision anyway... so u jus act happy bein single...
so maybe u might wanna see urself in a positive way.. i mean, u dun have to endure sleepless nights thinkin about someone, wreck ur brain findin the perfect present, or stalk ur crush to classes..
u know, maybe there's nothin to be fixed... i kinda feel the same way.. after wishin for girls too many times.. n get hurt jus by thinkin about it..
maybe it's jus u... and me..
who knows if it's actually somethin good?..
2007-01-25 02:56:06 · answer #2 · answered by deathbyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously haven’t met the guy that is just perfect for you. When that happens those butterflies will come back, that shyness, those sweaty palms, and that feeling like everything you say to him sounds stupid. Then you know you are in love.
What you are going through I refer to as the flood. For a while you have a flood of boys, some that just don’t catch your interest and you let swim by despite them liking you. Then you get into the drought and then you’re kicking yourself for not keeping some of those guys around. haha
2007-01-25 02:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes life gets that way. You are just a the low of a valley. Think of it this way- it is going to go up. You will meet an amazing guy and will realize why you didn't get butterflies with anyone else.
2007-01-25 02:44:18 · answer #4 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing is wrong . everything is right . you want a normal life good
make note of the fact that oh a few million men are out there thinking just as you do right now .
i think you need to go on some dates meet some new guys and one will end up sending butterfly's your way .
2007-01-25 02:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I missed the butterflies too... but they do come back. And not for some random hot guys- they arrive when you're near that special person...
So nothing wrong with you, have an overload of chick flicks (that's a temporary fix)
2007-01-25 02:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Girly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it depends. Are you taking any anti-depressant medicine, or are you depressed? It has been discovered that sometimes the chemical imbalances that cause depression also cause an inability to love and anti-depressants kill libido. Maybe you just need the right guy to stir the infatuation. It doesn't normally come along every day like the little 13-year olds experience.
2007-01-25 02:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by sick-ovit-all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need a break from the whole dating seen. You maybe settling for men that just don't do it for either to be nice and not let them down or just to have someone to socialize with. Stop seeing men that don't thrill you, the right guy will get you giddy.
2007-01-25 02:47:06 · answer #8 · answered by tonafun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no a don't think there anything at all wrong.maybe the right guy just hasn't came along best thing to do is just spend time with your friend and enjoy life as you don't know when its gonna pass you by and he may just pop up stop worrying and enjoy what you have go with the saying "whats for you wont go buy you".
2007-01-25 02:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by kayrin h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be different things. You may be in a mild depression. You could have a health issue, like being anemic or low thyroid. Those kinds of things will affect your attraction to guys. I'd suggest you get a check up and make sure your health is OK. If you think it might be a mild depression (I describe it like being in a fog), please see a counselor.
2007-01-25 02:49:04 · answer #10 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋