Should I tell her or not?

Question

When my husband's ex-girlfriend calls his cell phone again, would I be wrong to tell her to not call his phone because he is now married. My friends told me that I shouldn't do it, let him do it. Are they right or am I right in this particular situation and why?

Answer 1

Your husband should do it. If not she won't take it seriously.

Answer 2

Well, when I 1st got married a ex called my husband. I simply asked him to ask her not to call anymore. I brought up [in a nice tone] that he would not like me talking to ex's. It is something we agreed upon and we are happy.
I see no reason that you cannot answer, maybe if she hears you she wont be so ready to call. Your presence is known :) As far as telling her that is something he has to want to do so it is up to him. My husband told me that he would take care of it and he has. No more calls from "her". :)
A happy wife though makes for a better marriage - :) :)

Answer 3

I had a similar situation not too long ago. My husband said that he told her not to call (per my request) and she continued so I picked up his phone and told her not to call. One day she called and I made him tell her - right there in front of me - not to call. That he was happily married and that if she continued we would report her phone. She never called again.

I think that you need to tell your husband to do the same thing. I don't know if he says he has already told her or not, but you need to have him do it and if it continues have him do it in front of you.

Answer 4

I would first talk to your husband about it. I assume that she calls him on a regular basis (not just once and awhile). Tell him you feel uncomfortable with his ex-girlfriend regularly calling his cell phone. Hopefully, he will tell her to stop, or at least assure you that there is nothing going on between the two of them.

Answer 5

Your friends are right it is up to him but I would ask my husband why his ex g/f is ringing him now that he is a married man - the only exceptions would be if there was children involved

Answer 6

He should do so. However, make sure it's genuine. Even if he tells her to never call him again (and does so while you're in the room) doesn't mean he didn't tell her earlier that he still wants to chat from time to time and that he's just lying when he says that he doesn't want to talk to her. Ex in the picture is NEVER good news. Good luck!

Answer 7

You have all the rights to intervene since you're HIS wife. And if he hasn't gotten rid of the ex himself, is because he's seeing her secretly. Why else would she call to his celular phone? Don't play innocent here, you'll end up divorced if you don't make your husband respect you. About his friends, they CAN'T tell you what to do or what not to do. He is YOUR husband, not theirs.

Answer 8

I would sit down and discuss it with your husband and tell him why it makes you so uncomfortable. Why has your husband not told her that he is married? It seems as though that would be one of the first things that would come up- "Hey what's new?" "Oh I got married, you?" I mean come on. He needs to do it but talk with him about WHY he needs to.

Answer 9

No you would not be in the wrong telling her, and yes i also agree with your friends that he should also tell her. the reason why is the respect of your marriage. no married couple needs their ex-partners causing them any trouble. No couple weither you are married on not needs that kind of a problem.

Answer 10

It is the right thing to do if either you or your husband tell her. But I feel it would be a more direct way if your husband were the one to tell her. Then have him change his number.

Answer 11

This is a tough one, you should tell him how it makes you feel first and let him have the chance to tell her not to call anymore but if you do that and he chooses not to end her calls I would definetly give her a call and tell her to knock it off. give him the chance first though.