I understand it is "bad form" to ask for any kind of present - but i have all i need for the house so 20 toasters really wont help. I want to put someting so people dont feel obliged to give anything - but to give them a point in the right direction if they chose to do so.
2007-01-25 02:39:50 · 27 answers · asked by GARAGE FLASHBACK @ ZERO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you could say "all gifts will be greatly appreciated but not as much as you being there on our special day. however if you're stuck for an idea of what to get us, we can only suggest "travel vouchers or money" as we have all the little things that are generally needed for the house. i hope you don't think i'm being cheeky but this would make us very happy."
Or something to that extent. if you don't ask you really don't get. give it a whirl. people may think it's a little cheeky but at least you will be getting something you want.
Hope you don't get too many toasters and cutlery sets!
:D
2007-01-25 02:49:48 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Tickle 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
In my experience, if the couple does not include a wedding registry for gifts, they will either ask someone who knows or assume cash is fine. To be honest, at my sisters wedding last year, there were very few gifts, most were cards with either cash or Gift Cards. They had a Wishing well...but it's safe to assume that everyone does a wishing well of some sort..even a decorated box, so there is no need to specifically say so on invite. Just relax, and enjoy your day with all your guests and what ever is presented to you, IS a gift...always.
2007-01-25 03:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a list somewhere, then the best thing is to just put a note in with the invitations (not on the invite itself v. bad form!) that says something on the lines of...
"Although your presence at the wedding will be a lovely gift, if you wanted to buy us something we really want vouchers from (x) or travel vouchers from (x) so that we can put them towards a honeymoon."
Never ask for money, its really common. Pick somewhere you can get loads of stuff you want for vouchers (like a department store or shopping centre).
2007-01-25 02:47:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi just say exactly that im going to ask for money as we dont need anything either and there money will only be going to waste. But im sure if you are wanting a holiday just say for people to donate money to your honey moon. Or if you would rather have the money just say we have all we need so would if be ok instead of buying a gift could we have the money to get something we really need or save it for the future. Im sure people will be fine at the end of the day they wont want there money to get given to someone else or thrown in the bin because like you say noone wants loads of stuff they dont have room for.
I accidently told my sort of father in law when they asked for if we wanted a present and i said we dont really need anything but would rather have a money gift and they thought i ment vouchers. So please let me know what you right in your invites or what you are going to say as I think my money gift thing isnt going to work.
2007-01-25 08:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain that you have everything you need or have room for, and therefore you like money to help pay towards something big.
I had a small wedding list with Argos, if someone really did not want to give money. But asked for money to go towards a new bed and carpets.
Friends did this.
"Details of our wedding list are below.
This space has been left blank on purpose
As we have everything we can fit into our flat, the next thing we need is a larger place to live.
Please could you help us to do this by paying money into our moving home account(Bank Details) or sending us a cheque.
Thank you."
2007-01-25 21:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by FUGAZI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously don't address it, just don't register and pass the word along with word of mouth that if anything, you would prefer $$$.
its REALLY tacky to mention gifts of any kind in any way on wedding invites, they are to invite people to celebrate your union, not solicit or prevent certian gifts. if someone gets you a toaster, be grateful, write them a nice thank you note about how much you love it and take the thing back and get store credit or a refund. a little more trouble yes, but you don't have a right to dictate what people do with their hard-earned dollars and their free time that they spend picking something out for you....as I said, seriously let word of mouth do the talking,
I fear you will come out a lot worse if you try to dictate what people give you b/c I would personally be pissed at the thought and wouldn't give you much of anything. Not all guests will feel this way, but lots will, so bear that in mind! you have the right idea in knowing that its rude to ask, and not expecting it, but follow through and do yourself a massive favor and just leave it off.
2007-01-25 03:25:26 · answer #6 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Up to the individual. I wouldn't to it. Also a lot would depend on the types of families and friends you both have. If they have a modern outlook on life go for it. However, if they are mostly straight laced and old fashioned but perhaps loving relatives could be quite alien to them and you would need to decide whether or not you minded offended them. Guess they would give the money/vouchers but inside feel it not right to ask.
2007-01-25 03:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How tacky.
Sorry, but I paid for my own wedding, requested NO gifts, had a wonderful reception with friends and family and that was that.
Why do people expect to "get back" when they have a wedding?
I can't believe how rude people are.
If I am invited to a wedding where the invitation states what to buy or what to give....I send a congratulatory note and that's it.
I find it absurd that a guest (in response to another poster) should feel thankful for being invited to a wedding. Guaranteed mediocre food, boring & routine speaches, watching people dance....pretending to be oh-so-touched, a lousy DJ or run of the mill band...and guests have to buy a new outfit, are expected to fork over for a gift and probably a shower gift. It is a sick display.
It ain't about the wedding....it's about the marriage.
2007-01-25 03:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by ssssss 4 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Create a wedding list at a shop like John Lewis or Marks and Spencers. Asking for money or travel vouchers is bad form and there is no way of asking nicely.
2007-01-25 02:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by h 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
We just put "we have decided not to issue a wedding list but any vouchers for either House of Fraser or John Lewis would be gratefully received."
Or issue a wedding list with a department store, you select what you want to appear on it.
Don't be scared to ask for what you want it's your wedding, who cares about 'bad form', it's the 21st century not the 1950's.
2007-01-25 02:48:05 · answer #10 · answered by RRM 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heres the long and short of it.
You cant.
Its rude to include any kind of gift "hints" in an invitation for a party you are throwing for yourself nd asking people to be your guests at. If you dont register, people will call either you or your parents and ask what you would like. You can tactfully then tell them that you are in no need of anything for the house. Then let them give you what they want to.
The only "acceptable" time a registry information card can be given out is with your shower invites that someone is throwing for you.
2007-01-25 04:18:04 · answer #11 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋