ok, me and my ex-boyfriend were very happy with each other. but everyone always told me not to go out with him cuz he was not the kind of guy that a girl like me should date. (talking about he was too bad of a guy for me) he is two years older than me and he is still in school and everything. i love him very very much! my parents wont allow me to go out with him though because just like everyone else, they think that he is not the kind of guy that i need to be dating. what should i do? should i go out with him without my parents permission or should i just look for someone else that they will like? please help me.
2007-01-25 02:36:29 · 14 answers · asked by cheerleader for life 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's always a tough question, as no one can help whom they love. You'll always need to follow your own heart, and pave your own road through life. Even if it turned out to be a bad experience, it's always something to learn from on a personal level.
That being said, sometimes parents can be very perceptive. You might not think so now, but in the future you'll appreciate your mother more. On a personal note, my mother didn't like nearly any boy I brought home in high school. I always went against her and saw them anyway. You know what? Months later, I usually had to sheepishly tell her she was right - after I got burned.
In retrospect though, parents are only human, and want the best to protect their daughters from pain. They may be acting only on heresay. Perhaps talk to them, and find out any personal feelings as to why they don't like the boy. But either way, it's your life, and you need to live it on your own.
2007-01-25 02:46:05 · answer #1 · answered by Karma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you right now that your parents are right. I did this exact thing when I was 14/15 an the guy was simply not a good guy. But he gave me attention and made me feel special and it was the first time I had felt like that. That does not erase how I was treated. If everyone thinks that he is a bad guy for you, face facts- he probably is.
2007-01-25 02:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Despite it being hard to admit or face up to...parents are usually right. It took me a couple crappy boyfriends to find out that mine were able to see something that I couldn't. They are probably concerned for your emotional wellbeing and just want to keep you safe. Older guys also bring into a relationship a lot of extra issues (that I don't need to go into) so I'm sure they are worried about that. You're young and there are plenty of good guys that you'll like/love.
2007-01-25 02:44:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always remember...your parents are older, wiser, and they were born before you...if you were suppose to be the parent you would have been born first.....when people are in love, the tend to see only the good in a person, and can't quite get past what others can see from the outside looking in, though its hard.....I would trust your parents...and "everyone" elses intuition, if he's the guy for you he'll be there when the time is right..and if he really is a good guy, and really loves you and its really meant to be, he'll step up to the plate and prove to your parents he's the right one.
2007-01-25 02:43:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh..it's the worst when your parents don't like your boyfriend. They will make your life hell! Is it really worth it? Has he treated you poorly? Do they have a really good reason not to lilke him? Think about all of these things and you figure out if you think its worth it or not. Only you should make the decisions on who is right for you or not. People are always going to have their opinions but what makes you happy is the most important! Good luck!
2007-01-25 02:42:19 · answer #5 · answered by Kara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're thinking about movin on and listening to your parents then that means he's not a necessity in your life. And if he isn't then go ahead and look for someone else to avoid the b.s. from your parents. If you can't live w/o him then screw your parents. They'll eventually (very far down the road) come around. That's what happened to me.
2007-01-25 02:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by stephyrose87 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because of the fact that all of your friends agree that he is not the type of person that you should go out with, I would look for someone else because they are all more objective than you in looking at this guy.and probably see things about him that you do not see because of your feelings. you are still in school so you have plenty of time to find someone good for you and they all will be in favor of that then.
2007-01-25 02:50:10 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no man is ever going to be good enough for your parents "little girl" You can't let anyone tell you who you can love. If you really love him just tell your parents no matter what I am going to see this guy.
Just be smart about it don't go out and get pregnant just to seek revenge on your parents. stay safe and persue your feelings
2007-01-25 02:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to decide these things for yourself and your parents are looking out for you. Date someone else.
2007-01-25 02:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn’t go behind their back to date him. But talk to them and come to a compromise. Perhaps having him over for dinner one night so they can see what type of person he is first hand. If they still don’t agree I wouldn’t lie to them and sneak around behind their backs with him. But don’t feel like you have to give in so easily.
2007-01-25 02:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋