I have a freind of the family that has had major removal surgeries for cancer that has spread to the lymph nodes. I live far away so I picked up a get well card but the more I think about I am wondering if I should send a card to get well when they may not make it. They haven't been told there is no chance but it doesn't look good. What is an appropriate way to let them know I am thinking about them?
2007-01-25 02:34:57 · 19 answers · asked by sshaner892000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Send them a "thinking of you" card instead, if you think the "get well" card is inappropriate. Sorry about your friend.
2007-01-25 02:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by leslie 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Get a card that says I'm Thinking Of You. People with cancer, and those who face death are often abandoned by their peers because they don't know what to say or do and rather stay away. The ill person won't care whether your card says Get Well Soon, or something else. They will care that you took the time to write and send a card and think of them. It think it's great of you to do and you should go ahead. I wrote a letter to a dying person telling her that I know she is close to death and then mentioned all the memories I had with her. After her death, her daughter approached me and said, that her mother wanted my letter read to her over and over again. The person knows they are sick. By a miracle they might be healed, but it's okay to even admit how you feel about an impending loss and get well wishes are also appropriate. God bless.
2007-01-25 02:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay to send a card. It shows that you care. It's always the thought that counts. But maybe the card can say "thinking of you". Or you can buy a blank card and write that or whatever else you have to say. You can have flowers sent. Send pleasant pictures (maybe nice scenery) or postcards. Doing 'anything' for someone sick is thoughtful. Bless your heart. May there be a chance for survival!
2007-01-25 02:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by Ladywisdom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of the family could take exhilaration on your thoughtfulness. it could appear like an prolonged time after the girl's death, however the grieving actual hasn't stopped for the family. that's going to take years earlier they actual experience greater desirable. of their difficulty i could actual be very grateful on your card. that's lots greater desirable to deliver a card to instruct which you care, whether you're late, than no longer sending one in any respect. just to be well mannered, you need to point which you in user-friendly terms found out those days so as that they comprehend why you have at the back of schedule sending them a card.
2016-11-27 01:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the "Get Well" card for another occasion. Send your friend an uplifting "Thinking of You" card instead. A week after you send the card, give this person a quick phone call to say again that you are thinking of him.
2007-01-26 04:41:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone close to me was going through the same situation, I got a "thinking of you card" and wrote a personal message in the card letting the person and his family know how important they were to me and that I was there to support them in any way that I could through their difficult times. I do think it is insensitive to send a "get well soon" card when someone is, in all likelihood, dying.
2007-01-25 04:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by JenV 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a funny card! How many get well cards and thinking of you cards can you look at while you are sick before you get depressed? Forget that! Go to the store and find the stupidest and most random cards you can, send once a week. It will really cheer them up.
2007-01-25 02:59:00 · answer #7 · answered by BetsyLauren 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Return the "Get Well" card. Then go to your local Hallmark store and look in the card section dealing with health concerns. They have cards that are written specifically for the terminally ill.
I am sure that a thoughtful card from you would be welcomed and treasured.
2007-01-25 02:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Heart is my Art 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very inappropriate. Send them a thinking of you card or best friend card better. Or some flowers.
2007-01-25 02:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A Thinking of You card, not a Get Well card, one that's blank inside, or a pretty blank card that says nothing. Tell the friend you've heard about the trouble and you're sorry to hear it. Say since ________(some personal experience you've shared) ["in '95"] you've always felt close, and always will, and look forward to seeing her/him soon.
2007-01-25 16:27:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dinah 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋