My dtr is getting married in July, I had a lady telll me to have people dance with the bride and groom for a dollar and to have a money tree. I have not ever heard of this! I do not need help paying for the wedding nor does my dtr or her hubbie to be need help with the honeymoon, which the lady says its for. My question is have you ever heard of this? I told the lady I did not feel this is right for us to have and she says it is all the rage! My thought is its a celebration for my dtr and hubbie we want to share with friends, not ask for money!
2007-01-25 02:24:21 · 16 answers · asked by sweethometexas2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Its an old Lithuanian tradition, its called, what else? The Dollar Dance.
Some people think its fun, some dont. If its not done in your social circle then I really strongly suggest not pulling it out for the first time at your daughters wedding. Most people dont know what the heck it is and its kind of off putting.
Just nod at this woman and say "they hadnt thought of that idea" and move on. Dont even bother mentioning it to your daughter because you are just going to get a horrified sounding "Mom...No" along with a face that will make you think you have just spurted a 2nd head.
Have fun at your daughters wedding!
2007-01-25 04:31:56 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have actually never been to a wedding with a money tree; nor have I heard about it until I was on Y!A. The Dollar Dance, as it is called when people pay a dollar to dance with the bride or groom, is fairly common. I have been to quite a few weddings with this. As a guest, I HATE IT. You line up like cattle to dance in one little circle with the bride/groom. You wait in line for five minutes and by the time it's your turn it's awkward and you can't think of anything to talk about for the whole three seconds you're dancing. If you don't do it (pay for a dance) you look ungrateful because you won't pay a buck. In my opinion, it's stupid. It is up to the bride and groom, though. If your daughter doesn't want it, don't do it. End of story.
2007-01-25 03:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DJ wedding and have heard of both, and it's really up to the bride and groom as to whether or not they want to do them. The money tree is VERY RARELY done anymore. In fact, it's been about 2 years or so since I've seen a wedding do one. The Dollar Dance (as it's traditionally called and known as) is done about 50% of the time. Basically, the Bride & Groom choose about 3-4 slow songs to dance to. They stand in the middle of the dance floor while the maid of honor and best man stand near them, controlling the line and collect the money. It can really be quite funny as you'll often get a fun uncle or guy friend that dances with the groom and etc. Money is used for various things and I've even done when where they announce they'd like to donate their money to charity.
I hope this at least answers your question as to what they are and that yes, they are common in today's weddings. If you do or don't do them, that's completely up to the bride and groom. Hopefully, their wedding DJ will go over these options with them though. Best of luck and congrats to you and your daughter!
2007-01-25 02:46:31 · answer #3 · answered by osuguy978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of the money trees, but I have never heard of paying to dance with the bride and/or groom.
I think it would be rather tacky if you are all financially able to pay for the wedding/honeymoon yourselves.
Tell the woman if she wants to do that at her family weddings...go for it...otherwise you will pay for your commitments yourself.
Some people put money on a money tree as an alternative to a gift, or even in addition to one, but that is your choice. I would just set it on the gift table among the gifts and start it off with a couple one dollar bills so they know what it is, and if anyone wants to add to it, they can.....then, if the couple wants to...they can donate the money to their favorite charity or some organization that needs it.
This is all up to you. Do what you feel comfortable doing.
Congratulations !!
2007-01-25 02:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by lildragonlexi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At every wedding I've been to there was a money tree (or in some cases a wedding "hat"... Dollar Dance). I think it is a cute thing to do even if you do not need the money.
It also gives people a chance to dance with the bride and groom and talk for a few.
2007-01-25 12:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the dollar dance. It is originally a Polish traditional and is more regional in the U.S. (more common in the South than the North), so it is not suprising that you aren't familiar with it.
The dance serves two purposes. First, for the couple to have some spending money for the honeymoon. Second, for the couple to ensure that they have a chance to spend time with every single guest at the wedding.
Leave it up to your daughter and her future hubby. If your daughter hasn't mentioned, she probably isn't aware of it or doesn't want it.
2007-01-25 03:38:11 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been too many weddings with the dollar dance...its a fun way to losen up and little kids really enjoy taking a dollar up there to dance with the special princess. I'm planning on doing it on my day and then we are using the money for a charity..haven't decided which one yet. If your dtr doesn't want to do it its her choice...but a lot of people have fun with it.
2007-01-27 07:48:47 · answer #7 · answered by Hailey B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%, I have heard of these things but i barely ever see it happen. I think that its best not to do these things, it looks cheap and people are not going to be wanting to give out more money than already, they can give out money by the wedding and shower gifts. But doing the dollar thing and the money tree looks cheap and stupid to be honest. I wouldnt do any of that and just keep it the way you want. Its not her daughter getting married, so intill it is than she can do what she wants, but in the mean time she shouldnt give out bad ideas.
2007-01-25 07:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard of both wedding customs.
I'm not sure where the money tree comes from and I've attended a wedding that one and felt appalled by it.
Pinning money on the bride is in a lot of customs, here is a couple of links for wedding customs.
http://www.formalbride.com/wedding_traditions.htm
http://www.louisianafolklife.org/LT/Articles_Essays/cajun_wed.html
2007-01-25 02:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by doodles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard of it, but never been to a wedding where it is done, and in my opinion, i do not like the idea of it. The guests are there to celebrate, they are already giving wedding/shower gifts, they should not be asked for money too. I agree with your thoughts completely and would skip it!
2007-01-25 02:29:20 · answer #10 · answered by strtat2 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋