I was part of a team of contractors working at this large company. One of our team had left about half a year before to take a job at a different company.
Anyhow this guy who left was back in town and we decided to go out to dinner. The people going were me (contractor), my team lead (contractor), the guy who left (former contractor), and our project boss (regular employee).
All of us knew each other on a very friendly basis. My question is this. Near the end of the dinner, My team lead stated that he would pay but ONLY for the project boss and the guy who had left leaving me to pay for myself.
I know there are other things that maybe come into play like contractors having "per diems" and so but I was silently fuming and thought it was embarrassing even. I just thought it was wrong to say you would pay for everyone at a table except for one person regardless.
Your opinions?
2007-01-25 02:17:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Completely rude! You either pay for all or none. A person with etiquette would never choose who they should pay for. Either they should offer to pay for the whole table or have everyone pay his own way. I would be embarrassed too. This person needs a lesson in manners.
2007-01-25 02:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Engagement parties are not gift-giving occassions. Giving a lovely congratulatory card is the best choice. Gifts should be given at the bridal shower and for the actual wedding. Thats just the right thing to do and proper etiquette. As both a person on a budget and a bride-to-be, I would certainly lower the amount that would be spent by someone in your situation for gifts at the shower and wedding. Paying for the outfit can get expensive and you've got a big time commitment because your daughter is in the wedding party. Since you are very close, I'd say do something nice/personal for the couple for both the shower and wedding. Maybe a gift certificate for their favorite restaurant. If you know the couple and don't think they would mind, maybe you could buy them an entertainment book for 2009 for their area ( this is something I would love to get as a gift because I buy one every year). A personal and thoughtful gift doesn't have to be expensive. Good Luck!
2016-05-23 22:13:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude in that you should have been told upfront, while being invited.
I have been a contractor and have been told that I'd have to pay for my own lunch, but always in advance, always with the option to back out of the lunch/dinner.
Frankly, it should have been up to the boss to pay for all of you. Alternatively, the three of you should split the dinner for the guy who left.
2007-01-25 04:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Developing Minds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is rude and poor professional form. Unless it was stated or made known when the dinner plans were made, there is no proper justification for handling payment of the bill in that way. I have also been a contractor at large companies and I would have had the same reaction to similar behavior. Sorry that this frustrating thing happened to you! People can be so boorish!
2007-01-25 02:25:47 · answer #4 · answered by Shibi 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I think it's rude to announce that at the table. Personally, I think you pay for everybody. However, if he only planned on paying for the former contractor and employee, then he should have discussed that with you ahead of time. Perhaps the two of you could have split the entire bill or you just pay your share and he pay the rest. In any event, it should have been resolved ahead of time.
2007-01-25 02:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by Apple21 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It was a friendly meal, not a business dinner. Did you actually expect someone else to pay for your meal? I don't see the problem, at least there wasn't any confusion. There may be company rules about him buying your meal, he may have only had enough money for some, there are many different reasons for his actions and it is doubtful it was a snub. There was no reason to be embarrassed. Just pull out your credit card and say something flip like, "Okay Jim, but since you didn't buy me dinner tonight, no funny business at the office tomorrow!"
2007-01-25 02:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds a little rude to me. I don't see why everyone just didn't pay for there own food.
2007-01-25 03:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that was extremely rude. He should have either just paid for himself, or paid for everyone, unless you volunteered to pay.
2007-01-25 02:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by Jessy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Bad deal guy ....could you still use it as a write off your taxes? business meeting
2007-01-25 02:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Jip Jip 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋