I have two older children 10 &11 and am due for another in August. Whats it like having such an age gap between them. Feels as though ive forgotten everything.
2007-01-25 02:06:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It may feel like you've forgotten everything, but trust me- it will all come flooding back! Plus, now you have two able helpers :)
2007-01-25 02:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your impending arrival. To begin with it will be a huge shock to the system. You do forget how dependent a new baby/what a horror a non-eating, bed-wetting toddler is. Speaking as a mother with a 13, 10 and 2 year old - yes the 2 year old was a lovely surprise, but a shock nevertheless. You just cope and it is as if she has always been there. Ok she is 2 going on 13 - doesnt like toddler toys and much prefers bothers games workshop models/lego/barbies, but hey shes ok. I feel this time I am more relaxed as I had a toddler and baby first time around, this time I can just concentrate and enjoy her - yes she may be an utter brat who gets away with murder, but hey she is the baby of the family!! Well thats my excuse!
2007-01-28 17:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by LAURENCE B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 11 year gap between my 3 boys and then 2 girls has been truly wonderful and rewarding, with the older boys adoring there little sisters, feeding , changing, bathing them and taking them for walks, never tiring of playing with them, reading to them and more. Now they are all grown up there is still a wonderful closeness between them all. Sometimes I have even felt a bit left out but watching their joy together soon makes up for that.
I am sure you will easily remember everything you need to....it comes back like magic.
Good luck!
2007-01-25 17:27:22 · answer #3 · answered by pol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a big gap between my eldest two and my youngest, they ranged from loving him to hating him in the space of 30 seconds. Allow them to still have their space and time with you where possible, involce them in the pregnancy, if they want to come to scans and appt with you, try and facilitate that. Dont use them like little slaves, draw up a chore chart for them and pay them for their help, either in money or treats. The biggest change will probably be for you, you have some sort of independence now and it will all change again.
As for forgetting everything, lots have changed since you had your last baby in terms of equipment, weaning etc, but the basics are still the same, the level of care is still the same, trust your instincts, they will all kick in once this little person arrives.
Congratulations to you all xxx
2007-01-25 10:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by Denise H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 6 children ages 17,15,13,9,8 and 5. They will feel as if their home has been invaded by a jelly covered alien. They will have a love/hate relationship depending on the day of the week. Don't do what I see others doing and make them take care of the baby as if they are new parents. Continue to respect their free/alone time. This baby is your responsibility not theirs but older siblings always get these new responsibilities as if they were the new parents. They won't resent the baby as much if their lives are not drastically altered for the worse.
IT's like riding a bike....you never truly forget how to do it.
2007-01-25 10:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by CHERI S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh, trust me you havent! I have 11, 9, 4 1/2, and 9 months in my house. The only thing that may feel overwhelming is that you now will have someone that you have to do EVERYTHING for again, and not the independants that the older ones have.
Have no fear it will all work out! You didnt forget it, its like riding a bike, you may take a little longer at first, but you still know how to do it! Have faith in yourself! I do!!!
Congrats, and best wishes for you all!
2007-01-25 10:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by ,,!,,baddest~lil~b!tch,,!,, 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you'll be fine. You'll also have "extra"help with your older 2 kids. My sister and I were 10 and 12 when our brother was born. We had so much fun, and my mom & step-dad didn't have to worry about doing ALL the diapers, feedings, entertaining, etc. It was great. Plus, as an added bonus, i NEVER wanted a baby until i got married. i knew what having a baby involved. I am now married 4 years, and 31 weeks pregnant with my 1st.
2007-01-25 11:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Kirsten 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sons were only 6 year apart. But I felt like I had forgotten everything as well. Don't worry everything will come back to you. I would suggest that if you have friends or family memebers with younger kids maybe you could ask them. I would also suggest joining a mom's group/playgroup in your city/town. Congrats and Good Luck to you.
2007-01-25 10:17:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife is expecting our 3rd baby but we only have an age gap of under a year and so I am not in your situation how I think that once your baby is born everything will come back to you and that you will be a great mum to the new baby. If your really worried and anxious then why not buy a pregnancy and baby book to remind you of what to do and not do. good luck
2007-01-28 19:10:58 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 children and their 5 years apart. You know with every child that I have I too seem like I forgot everything. But, everything came at ease right after. My youngest was pre-mature and of course I was scared to hold him, but motherly instinct told me to just hold him.
2007-01-25 10:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lana G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋