like my closes friend we knew eachother for 3 years and he gets very upset when guys flirt with me....O.o i dont know why it's kinda weird because hes like a brother to me and out of the whole group hes like the alpha male.....he wont leave me alone!!!! hes crazy and annoying but i dont have the heart to say something to him i dont wont to hurt him or get hurt myself.... it's creepy cuz he choked and abused me because he claims that to many guys flirt we me and he wants me for himself i tryed staying away from him but it's not working!!!!what to do!?!?!please help me???
2007-01-25 02:04:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like what you need to do is contact the police dept and tell them that you want to file a temp VPO against him. Then follow up with it and go to court and have one instated by them for the longevity that they can instate one for. If he calls or comes by, CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY. They will arrest him right there on the spot. If he touches you again, call the police and have him arrested for assault, whether it hurt or not. He is attempting to FORCE you to go out with him. He is an abuser and once an abuser, ALWAYS AN ABUSER.
2007-01-25 02:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by protruckdriver71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who chokes and abuses you isn't your friend or your brother. He's just a guy who likes to hurt girls and then blame them for it.
How can staying away from him "not work"? Just don't be where he is, and that may have to include being around your other friends. You might need to get an adult involved. But abusive behavior just gets worse over time. Eventually, he'll do much worse then what he's done so far.
2007-01-25 02:10:13 · answer #2 · answered by Vix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hum?! My best friend is a guy and we hang out like all the time but he doesnt treat me like that. I do have to say that he is kinda protective over me and will get mad at me if he thinks im going out with a guy that will more than likey break my heart. I think your friend wants to be more than a friend though. I dont know, thats kinda wierd.
2007-01-25 02:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by CountryGirlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let a friend choke you and abuse you? This guy is not your friend! Your whole group of friends seems dysfunctional.
File a police report so they know who they're looking for when they find your body.
2007-01-25 02:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by ginger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 06:00:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is controlling and now it sounds abusive - it is time to get help. You can contact the police and file a report and get a restraining order. You should talk to family and friends you trust. Importantly, you should go to a Center for Abused Women in your area to get help. Below is signs and symptoms of abuse taken from the mental health guide online (link below). If you are able to answer yes to many of these questions - get help right now!
Domestic Violence and Abuse: Types, Signs, Symptoms, Causes, and Effects
Victims of domestic violence by intimate partners are five to eight times more likely to be women than men.
If you want to talk to someone, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at: 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE)
If you need help immediately, call 911.
The key elements of domestic abuse are:
intimidation
humiliating the other person
physical injury
Domestic abuse is not a result of losing control; domestic abuse is intentionally trying to control another person. The abuser is purposefully using verbal, nonverbal, or physical means to gain control over the other person.
How do I know if I am in an abusive relationship? What are the signs and symptoms of an abusive relationship?
The more of the following questions that you answer Yes to, the more likely you are in an abusive relationship. Examine your answers and seek help if you find that you respond positively to a large number of the questions.
Your inner feelings and dialogue: Fear, self-loathing, numbness, desperation
Are you fearful of your partner a large percentage of the time?
Do you avoid certain topics or spend a lot of time figuring out how to talk about certain topics so that you do not arouse your partner’s negative reaction or anger?
Do you ever feel that you can’t do anything right for your partner?
Do you ever feel so badly about yourself that you think you deserve to be physically hurt?
Have you lost the love and respect that you once had for your partner?
Do you sometimes wonder if you are the one who is crazy, that maybe you are overreacting to your partner’s behaviors?
Do you sometimes fantasize about ways to kill your partner to get them out of your life?
Are you afraid that your partner may try to kill you?
Are you afraid that your partner will try to take your children away from you?
Do you feel that there is nowhere to turn for help?
Are you feeling emotionally numb?
Were you abused as a child, or did you grow up with domestic violence in the household? Does domestic violence seem normal to you?
Your partner’s lack of control over their own behavior
Does your partner have low self-esteem? Do they appear to feel powerless, ineffective, or inadequate in the world, although they are outwardly successful?
Does your partner externalize the causes of their own behavior? Do they blame their violence on stress, alcohol, or a “bad day”?
Is your partner unpredictable?
Is your partner a pleasant person between bouts of violence?
Your partner’s violent or threatening behavior
Does your partner have a bad temper?
Has your partner ever threatened to hurt you or kill you?
Has your partner ever physically hurt you?
Has your partner threatened to take your children away from you, especially if you try to leave the relationship?
Has your partner ever threatened to commit suicide, especially as a way of keeping you from leaving?
Has your partner ever forced you to have sex when you didn’t want to?
Has your partner threatened you at work, either in person or on the phone?
Is your partner cruel to animals?
Does your partner destroy your belongings or household objects?
Your partner’s controlling behavior
Does your partner try to keep you from seeing your friends or family?
Are you embarrassed to invite friends or family over to your house because of your partner’s behavior?
Has your partner limited your access to money, the telephone, or the car?
Does your partner try to stop you from going where you want to go outside of the house, or from doing what you want to do?
Is your partner jealous and possessive, asking where you are going and where you have been, as if checking up on you? Do they accuse you of having an affair?
Your partner’s diminishment of you
Does your partner verbally abuse you?
Does your partner humiliate or criticize you in front of others?
Does your partner often ignore you or put down your opinions or contributions?
Does your partner always insist that they are right, even when they are clearly wrong?
Does your partner blame you for their own violent behavior, saying that your behavior or attitudes cause them to be violent?
Is your partner often outwardly angry with you?
Does your partner objectify and disrespect those of your gender? Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?
2007-01-25 02:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by Monkey Lips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont act like a hoe around them and you will be fine
2007-01-25 02:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to move on, tell him to bugger off already.
2007-01-25 02:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋