im in love with my wifes co worker?

Question

i dont know why but i have very strong feelings for my wifes friend, wich she also works with her. she likes to flirt with me when i go pick up my wife and she always likes to talk about how miserable her life is with her husband, and how i am a very good husband. her husband is now in jail and will be for a long time. does she feel lonely, or does she really like me, because like i said, she always flirts with me, and when i call my wife on the phone she likes to start conversations with me. what the hell should i do, i have always felt something for her ever since i met her. but now that she talks to me more, i feel like going up to her about how i feel about her.... i know i shouldnt cheat on my wife, but me and my wife are going to through not that very good times.... let me know what you think...

Answer 1

Talk to your wife about how she feels about experimenting with another woman.Ask her casually about this,not as if you already have someone in mind. If she is game than plan a nice evening out and when you get back to your place have a bottle of champagne waiting and take it from there. Do not cheat on your wife behind her back though. Imagine how you would feel if she did that to you. If the marriage is over end it first before moving on.

Answer 2

You said it yourself ... "I know I shouldn't cheat on my wife"... so there you go - you KNOW it. Then - you added that BUT - "but me and my wife are going to through not that very good times"

Well - when you have a problem with your spouse - the way to work on that problem is not to have an affair with her friend/co-worker. The way to fix the problem is to go to counseling or maybe just read some books about how you can make your marriage work - and TALK to your wife. If she is your WIFE then you took a vow to spend the rest of your life. If you have integrity - and I'm sure you'd like to think that you do - and if you are an honest person and a good guy - and I'm sure you'd like to think that you are - then you will try to fix things with your wife.

Now - if you CAN'T fix things with your wife - then get a divorce. But until you do that - it's not okay to have an affair with her friend/co-worker. And actually - it would be kind of a creepy thing to do even if you waited until after you split. Put yourself in your wive's shoes. How would you like it if she divorced you and then started dating somebody you work with????

As for the co-worker of your wife - she's an insecure homewrecker. Stay away from her.

Again - you said it yourself... "I KNOW I shouldn't cheat on my wife"

If you want to be a lousy, dishonest, scumbag - then go and have an affair. It's your choice. Hope you do the right thing!!

Answer 3

Are you stupid? First the woman is probably just playing with your mind, and Second do you think she is gonna want you after your wife get half your stuff in the divorce? The woman may be lonely but how long do you think the affair will last before your wife finds out. I would say five minutes after you make a move on this other woman.

P.S: If you don't want to be married to your wife tell her so, put don't mess around with anybody at her job.

Answer 4

STAY AWAY FROM YOUR WIFE'S CO WORKER! The reason most affairs start is opportunity, if you try and avoid her you prevent the chance of an affair starting. Plus, you could be mistaking her friendliness for flirting, if you make a move on her all you will do is make thing awkward between all three of you. But if she is interested your only making things awkward between you wife and ALL the other co-workers. No matter how good you think you are the will know, and have to decide if to rat you guys out to your wife. Remember its not good idea to "poop" where your wife ( or you) eats.

Answer 5

Well if you can’t stick it out with your wife through the “not so very good” times, then you aren’t as good a husband as this woman believes you to be. Your wife may have already picked up on the sexual tension between the two of you. But either way tread lightly and figure out what you really want to do. Honestly with the fact that her husband is in jail, the woman is probably lonely, so if you do decide to rendezvous with her don’t be surprised if you get dropped when hubby gets out of the slammer.
But let me repeat myself when I say think about this long and hard. What is more important to you? Your wife, your family, and your integrity? Or a fling with this woman, who obviously is willing to cheat on her husband so if a relationship between the two of you did start she wouldn’t think twice about cheating on you. This really is all in what you decide to be your morals.

Answer 6

You married your wife FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE. Next time you go home, look deep, and I mean deep in your wifes eyes and realize you are going to violate her trust for you. She doesnt have a clue what your thinking about doing and she innocently looks @ you like you would never possibly cheat because u r her husband. Think back @ the good memories of you too.....if you can look into her eyes think about what your going to do and not feel bad in one bit then here we go....

The coworkers husband is in jail, eventually he will be out of jail and u may have to deal with that. Dont crap in your backyard as the saying goes. What you do, you live with. She is flirting because she is probably lonely. I mean you have your wife to go home to, she doesnt have a husband to go to. She can try and get you and its not the same as you trying to get her. You are experiencing the "thrill". Someone besides your wife. Something new. You like the chase, the flirtation, the unknown....the lust to experience this new person. But remember once you get with her, you have your orgasm, and you lay there......you are left with all of those thoughts....and you go home to your wife and you lay down beside her with that on your mind, and no matter how deep u push that thought down to forget it, it will linger and u will feel guilty and it will eat away @ you. Trust me on that. If you dont feel guilty at all....then you probably should be looking at divorce papers.

Also picture your wife, at the office, flirting with another Man. His wife has gone, in jail, not around. Your wife has sex with this man. You find out another mans ***** been inside your very own wife.....how r u going to feel?

Answer 7

You can't start something with someone else until you finalize your current situation. You will only be making your current relationship worse, and god forbid you do start something with your wifes friend and your wife finds out. Your divorce will get very messy. If you want to save your marriage start counseling or couples therapy. If not let her know you want out before anyone unnecessarily gets hurt. It's always easy to feel something for someone when your not happy, especially when they aren't refusing the attention. But do what's right instead of being impulsive.

Answer 8

Do the right thing! What you feel for that woman is lust. Is it worth destroying your marriage over that? What she feels for you is lust and a bit of a challenge also. Once she gets you, you will be so dumped. All that will cause is a big mess at your wife's place of work. Are you ready to put up with all that drama? Why not try to work things out with your wife. Find out where things are going wrong and try to fix it. Marriage is honorable. Keep it that way!

Answer 9

I think you should leave it alone and try to work things out with your wife. It's your wife's friend. Think about it. It not only would affect your wife's friendship with her but they work together and that would make it even worse. I think the woman's just lonely not having her man around and envies her friend for having a husband there for her.

Answer 10

This woman is bad news. She is a cheater and a flirt. Do you think you are the only one she is going after? She is trying to replace her jailbird husband. Tell your wife that this woman makes you uncomfortable and keep away from her. She is trouble with a capital T.