My boyfriend recently tried to break up with me because he loves me and feels unworthy of me. He said "I am a dropout of a third rate university and am bad looking; you are good looking and Ivy League educated." He said he is in a bad situation, he is not making decent income, doesn't have a proper job, not living properly. He said I get nothing out of the relationship, I don't gain anything from dating him. I said that if he loves me, we should compromise. We decided to compromise, no phone calls, only e-mails, for a while (we're in a long distance reln). He has a mental illness and hates the phone. What should I do to keep him in a long term relationship, and eventually marry him? I thought I could answer his e-mails less frequently to show that I'm a bit upset with him, and to make him miss me and keep the mystery. What do you think? I would really appreciate your opinions on what to do to keep him in love with me. Please don't say he doesn't love me; I know he does
2007-01-25 01:50:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to keep reassuring him that he is worthy
tell him I love you often
since he has a mental illness you will never know what to expect
him to say.
be patient and understanding. supportive
2007-01-25 01:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a theater - invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is
holy enough and healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance.
It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, friendships, or fellowships!
Observe your relationship. Pay attention to: Determine if it
lifts you? Encourage or discourage you? Is on a path of growth uphill or are going downhill?
When you leave certain people, do you feel better or feel worse? Does it always have drama and mess? Does he know and
appreciate you and the gift that lies within you?
The more you seek God and the things of God - the more you seek quality, the more you seek not just the hand of God but the face of God - the more you seek things honorable - the more you seek growth, peace of mind, love and truth around you, the easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the FRONT ROW and who should be moved to the
balcony of your life.
You cannot change the people around you......but you can change the people you are around! Ask God for wisdom and discernment and choose wisely the people who sit in the front row of your life!
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Be Immensely Blessed!
2007-01-25 01:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by JK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're saying you're in a lengthy distance relationship? no longer declaring he would not love you yet are you actually effective you're the in user-friendly words one. He gave you larger than one reason to chop up with you, yet how demanding has he honestly tried to extra effective his existence? instead of each and every of the justifications, he needs to attempt somewhat harder if he needs to make issues correct. You dont income some thing out of the relationship, then why are you there? only for romance? You cant live on love on my own sweetheart.
2016-12-03 00:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would say that he loves you a lot...that's a tough situation. I would just make him feel really appreciated and let him know that the relationship is not about material things. I would just positive about it, make him at ease about the situation, say that you don't need a whole lot of money cause money can't buy you love haha I dunno I'm not much help sorry
2007-01-25 01:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by missinmybaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋