My bf and I have known each other since we were 10 yrs old on and off but we never tried dating. In Sep. 2006 we started dating and now we are saying the 3 words to each other the only things is that he has a lot of girls that are friends and he does things that I consider flirting. When confronted he assures me that I am the only one and that we have known each other for to long for him to cheat on me. Should I believe him and wat should I do about his lil friends that believe enjoy flirting back?
2007-01-25 01:46:44 · 14 answers · asked by babyyaya86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust him, just because he flirts doesn't mean he's cheating. don't show him that you're jealous. if it really bothers you flirt with some guys and see how he responds.
2007-01-25 01:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't known each other too long for him to cheat on you. Doesn't mean he is, but there is no such timeline.
Judge him by his actions and not his words. Some people simply enjoy the attention that comes with flirting. They have no intention of ever allowing it to go beyond that.
It isn't necessarily a great idea to flirt because it may put you in a comprimising position. Things could happen if wach person doesn't understand the line.
Still, if his action are less concern then his words then there is probably nothing to worry about.
2007-01-25 01:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on you have known this guy since you were ten. I don't know how many years that has been but don't you have some faith in him. I say just put that trust in him and believe in him. Has he ever lied to you? If not that right there is a reason to trust him big time.
If he loves to flirt. Why don't you try flirting with him. Guys love it. I am currently flirting with a guy on line and I know I have totally got his interest. Just be there for him and be honest with him. Put your faith in him.
2007-01-25 01:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by Sexie Gal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would believe him until you have a reason not to. It could harm the relationship if you treat him as if he's always cheating on you. The trust issue won't help your relationship and in turn with probably break you up. If you really do care for him, trust him and he will trust and respect you.
2007-01-25 01:52:40 · answer #4 · answered by ashylee921 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you consider flirting. If all he's doing is looking, and if nothing comes of the flirting, it's ok. I'd trust him then.
However, in my last relationship, my ex boyfriend would brag to me about all the women who'd hit on him when I wasn't around. He even gave this one girl who asked him to sleep with her his phone number and e-mail. She called him all the time when I was around, and then he gave me "the talk" about how we weren't working out and "needed a break."
If something like this is happening, you need to have a talk with him. I don't think your situation is bad like mine was.
I hope it works for you--I know how much it hurts to have the man you love say he loves you in one breath and then pull stunts left and right.
2007-01-25 02:02:57 · answer #5 · answered by curiogirl84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno what you can do about his lil friends that are flirting back, maybe just be there and give dirty looks haha....but you just gotta trust your boyfriend and let him know that if he cheats on you the relationship is over. With that said he should be more aware that if he cheats he's gonna lose you and that should be something he doesn't want to happen.
2007-01-25 01:53:58 · answer #6 · answered by missinmybaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people flirt naturally and don't even know it. Love is about trust, so trust him as much as you can. If he slips, then you'll know he didn't loved you.
2007-01-25 02:01:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanna know what i suggest i have been cheated on but i dont stand for it so you need to not take no for and answer and set him straight put him on a leash and don't let him go get him sprung just like T Pan say okay well just mainly follow your heart and tell those bi**hes to live him alone! LOL
2007-01-25 01:57:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people just flirt. I am very guilty of this. I flirt with everyone, however i know where to draw the line. So with some people this is just who they are. You need trust to have a relationship and if you dont trust him then you dont have one.
2007-01-25 01:52:00 · answer #9 · answered by Paige 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart.. I am 43 yrs old and let me tell you. Men can be the biggest flirts in the world.!! My husband is by far one of the biggest flirts I have ever known. And at first this really bothered me. But I realized something... he never told these other women.. I love you.. he was always faithful to me ( mainly because I told him I would make him a euniche if he ever cheated on me) lol... but I trust my husband and his love for me. He makes me feel reassured enough that when he flirts in the harmless way he does.. it doesnt bother me. This relationship with you and this guy is new. He is going to take time to settle in to it as much as you are. Granted, we women settle in to realtionships generally much easier then men. A guy says I love you and we are picking out linenes and silver service!! LOL.. its in outr genetic makeup!.. There are three key ingredients needed to make any relationship work... and they are LOVE, TRUST,, and RESPECT. If he respects you.. then he will remain faithful to you. He says he loves you.. you need to trust him. Until he does something to make you think otherwise.. you have to trust his love in you enough to allow him to be who he is. But dont spend your energy looking for signs of him cheating, you will see nothing but pain by doing that. DOnt try to change him and make him stop flirting... he will begin to resent you. Just allow him to be who he is but knowing he loves you and he wont hurt you. And that harmeless flirting isnt going to bed with someone. It is just him trying to be the charming man you feel for.
2007-01-25 01:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by aurora1963_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋