Lately, he's been hard to get intouch with because he says he hanging with the guys. I have no problem with this, it's only when he does it and not tell me. Like, he'll be gone all day and not call until the next night. Then when I get upset it's all my fault, because I'm driving him crazy with arguing and crying. Most times I get mad and appologize later like it's my fault, but mainly to avoid the break-up. Just this morning, we got into one of those arguements he was gone all night, and ignoring my calls again. I really needed to get in contact with him, because my work uniform was at his place. Called all night finally, this morning he calls an hour before I have to get to work and acts as if nothing is wrong, I blow up. He threatened to break-up with me if I didn't stop getting on his case and crying, I didn't because this is the hundredth time that we've gone through this. Then he tells me he wants out of the relationship. I leave and cry, I'm not sure if this is the end, do you?
2007-01-25 01:44:58 · 12 answers · asked by SEXY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sometimes I go a whole day without hearing from him, no call, no text. Then I'll call him and even leave a message and he'll ignore me completely. ESPECIALLY if we've gotten into an arguement the night before. Yesterday we got into a little misuderstanding, but nothing big and that's the reason why he said he didn't call all night, to avoid "conflict".
Most times I come running back to appologize and say how wrong I was and he'll take it back, but I'm starting to wonder if this is a game he plays because I let him.
I thought for a second that he was cheating, but I can't really see that happening. I don't think I'm needy, just want a little more respect and consideration.
Do you think he said he wanted out of the relationship out of anger or because he's tired of me? Or he has someone else?
Oh, we've been together for over a year now.
2007-01-25 01:50:54 · update #1
Normally, I don't worry about calling and he'll call and text throughout the day. I only get that way when I really need him.
Plus, I cheated on him towards the middle of our relationship, so I've still got that guilt.
2007-01-25 01:54:00 · update #2
You are an emotional basket case. He's bored with you. End it already.
2007-01-25 01:49:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey. First of all if he just started this "lately" then something might be up. If it has been the way he is since the time you got with him then he probably isnt going to change. Its hard to have these answers for you without a conversation. Guys in serious relationships like space sometime, they like to go out with the guys and it just be the guys to do guy stuff, or for him to just have him time. If you have allowed him to do this thats great. You have your time, he has his time every once in a while. BUT! From experience I will tell you this. If he just started this, he probably has distanced himself from you a little, if he doesnt answer his phone while he is with his guys there is probably a reason why he isnt. If he was an honest careing bf for you, then when you called he would answer just to let you know what was going on. He could be doing something he isnt suppose to is why he isnt answering. ON THE OTHER HAND.....if in the beginning he always answered, and u r just constantly calling and calling and calling then I wouldnt answer the phone either after a while. But he is taking advantage of you by not telling you he is being with friends and being unavailable for days at a time. Im a guy and if you want my ananamous yahoo opinion, he could be cheating on you or seeing/talking to someone else. All I can tell you to do is if you feel he is doing those things, back off and give him space, u go out and do your own thing, go out with the girls, dont answer his calls for once, dont tell him you are hanging out with your friends and just do it, and dont call for a day. If he starts griping about it, then simply say "this is what you do to me." He will either realize finally how he is treating you, if he doesnt realize it and gets mad and expects you to answer when he calls....then he is probably doing bad things you dont know about, and wants to keep you in your place until he gets done doing whatever it is he is doing.
2007-01-25 01:59:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's probably not the end, I'm sure he'll call back when he's desperate and lonely after his numerous escapades with random women. As it sounds you'd probably take him back too, because you'll be lonely as well. However, I'm sure that won't last long either as he'll just end up breaking up with you again once he feels secure and wants to fool around with other women.
Sorry if that sounds a little bleak but it's the absolute truth, the guy is an absolute douche. Get a bowl of ice cream, surround yourself with your friends and move on. If you don't you'll just get sucked back in and spit back out.
2007-01-25 01:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by Tyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lose the guilt--it's NO WAY your fault...and lose the guy. he's obviously NOT your boyfriend--I'm sorry, but it's easier to see the big picture when one's not inside it--nagging, crying, etc., is just going to drive him away--which you NEED to do--he doesn't seem to care about you in the least, and he only has anything to do with you because you're AVAILABLE. And easy to use. I'm so very sorry you hooked up w/this a**hole and he's treating you this way. Please, just dump him w/out saying him, don't take any of his calls, if he calls you, and move on to someone who knows how to be a friend, let alone a boyfriend. This creep isn't for you...and prolly not for anyone else, either.
2007-01-25 01:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by Iseult 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound overly emotional. If he wanted to hang out with you, he'd call you. Do the same. The "obligation" stuff kills every relationship. I think any couple that constantly argues (never mind ones that end in tears) are probably not good ones.
Break up or simply decide to relax and I bet things will be great.
2007-01-25 01:50:52 · answer #5 · answered by The Smuggler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guys point of view,leave him.He is taking you for granted and he may have done something bad already,like cheated.In most cases men will use this "I want out" thing,because they screwed up and just won't admit it.I think relationships are a 50-50 thing (well 100-100 really) but it seems to me that he cares little if at all due to the way he is acting. Be strong,think of you,like he does when he is out with his "friends"...he obviously thinks of no one but himself.
2007-01-25 01:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by ERIC R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, he's sending you all of the signals. he's avoiding u, not calling and threatening to break up. when guys do that, they really want to do it. BELIEVE HIM. you continuously crying and pleading for the realtionship on ly gives him more control over you. and only u should have control over yourself. if he wants out, u need to let him go. if u know u were a great girlfriend, he'll probably miss that when he finds someone who is not so great later on in life
2007-01-25 01:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by dabelizeanmami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 05:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your bf wants his cake and to eat it, I suggest you break up it sounds to me that your not treated as you should be and not given the respect that a gf should, he obviousley hasnt got time for you so you shouldnt waste your time chasing him, there are plenty of decent guys out there so sack this one and get someone who appreciates you
2007-01-25 01:51:52 · answer #9 · answered by simonted 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure sounds like it. You guys don't seem like you even like each other anymore. Move on.
2007-01-25 01:49:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋