Serious questions...read to understand part 2?

Question

ok...people who will forgive their significant other for adultery...since u guys married, it was an obvious statement that you 2 are exclusive to each other thus ben faithful, he chat and you forgive..when u 2 decide to be intimate, have sex, do u use a condom? some people said that no because they're married and you should forgive, but if he/she lied to you before and did it outside, isnt your risk of geting and STD higer? i dont know if you udnestand what I mean...like he/she took a vow to only be with you, he/she lied and cheated, would have that much faith as to expose yourself to STDs, or even worse AIDS?? this is a honest question, please answer honestly...thank u

Answer 1

It really depends. Whether you use a condom or not is up to you. If you are worried about STDs, then have him checked.

Answer 2

Honestly, is this something that you want to worry about from now on? If someone cheats on you before marriage, wouldn't you always worry that they would cheat on you after wards?
Sex before marriage is wrong any way you look at it, at least from the Bible's point of view. That's why it talks about safeguarding your heart, being chaste. You are very right to worry about STDs and such. My 26 year old daughter just had a radical hysterectomy and chemo and radiation for 6 weeks because of the papilloma virus that is an STD. She is just so mad at herself for having sex with more than one person when she was younger, and for being with guys who had been with other girls that way. This is so common now and it is a horrible ordeal. That is why applying Bible principles (God's standards) to your life now can make your life so much happier and better, not only for now, but for the future as well. Cheating is cheating if there has been any kind of commitment made, but also seriously reconsider being with someone if they have had sex with anyone else. I wouldn't want to take the risk, and 9 times out of 10 kids still aren't using protection, even if they tell you they did...they will tell you whatever you want to hear...is it worth the risk? I know that to my daughter, the risk was not worth it...it became a reality.
Your question is a good one, and it shows that you are really thinking about all the consequences, so I think you already know what is right in this situation. Go with what you know. It is a lot better to follow your head, and be reasonable, than to follow your heart and be sorry later!

Proverbs 4:23 -27: "More than all else that is to be guarded, safeguard your heart, for out of it are the sources of life. 24 Remove from yourself the crookedness of speech; and the deviousness of lips put far away from yourself. 25 As for your eyes, straight ahead they should look, yes, your own beaming eyes should gaze straight in front of you. 26 Smooth out the course of your foot, and may all your own ways be firmly established. 27 Do not incline to the right hand or to the left. Remove your foot from what is bad."

Jeremiah 17: 9: "“The heart is more treacherous than anything else and is desperate. Who can know it?"

Answer 3

My first husband cheated on me all the time. I didn't have proof until our second son was born. God protected me. I personally am allergic to condoms. What would I have done other than abstain? I did just that but the damage could have already been done. One of my ex's friends told me the x cheated on me the first month we were married. I am now the wife of a man that honors his commitment to me for 16 years now.

Answer 4

The possibility of STD is one consideration, but certainly not the only one, or the biggest one. I told my wife to either return to me and be a wife, or leave. She asked for a couple of weeks to think it over. (The implication is that she had NOT thought it over before) She accused me of being unforgiving. I realized that I could forgive what she had DONE but the Almighty Himself could not forgive WHAT SHE WAS unless she chose to change, so HE could give her righteousness in exchange for her filthy garments. An STD you could pick up anywhere, and you would have to deal with it. To be sure if an unfaithful spouse brought you one it would be an added stress.

Answer 5

If I were in this situation I would make my husband get checked for STDs and there would be NO unprotected sex until all tests verified that he is clean. With HIV though, I think it can take a while to show up so I would make him get re-tested to be sure. This isn't about trust, or punishing the cheater. this is about straight up facts, which are, you cheated, you could have a disease, and I need to protect myself from disease.

Answer 6

My husband cheated on me when we was dating and when we was in our early stages of marriage. I didnt know for many years that he had. I wanted to leave but didnt either cause I loved him. I made us both have test and used a condom till all test came back clean. Ever since then we have grew from that mistake and trust one another completely.

Answer 7

If they're worried about STDs, then have some tests done to make sure there aren't any.

Answer 8

Well... Im pretty sure IF i decided to get back with the cheating whore... i wouldnt be having sex with her skank *** until the STD test came back. And the pregnancy test. Until then... she would be giving all oral.

Answer 9

I think it's very fair but does he/she know that he/she knows that he/ she cheated? Well, if you love each other you should care about each OTHERS HEALTH. You should have a serious conversation and even go to a doc and check for STD.Good luck!

Answer 10

you can be forgiven and still have consequences. That's part of every part of life. If my husband cheated on me, I would ask him to get tested first, and use a condom until I knew it was safe. It doesn't mean I didn't forgive him- it means I don't want the consequences of his actions to make my body sick.