I was just wondering, because I'm almost 33 and I'm single. I lived with a guy for 3 1/2 years, but I broke up with him, because I wasn't happy. I'm not bad-looking, but I'm not Heidi Klum, either. I'm also intelligent and well-educated. However, some have said that I am too picky. The guys I like are usually either uninterested or unavailable. And the guys I go out with or who approach me are never the right ones. That being said, though, do you think that people tend to assume that a perpetually single woman is somehow defective instead of guessing that she perhaps just hasn't met the right guy?
2007-01-25 01:29:51 · 7 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not about being defective. AT ALL. Some women prefer to be single.
But your statement: The guys I like are usually either uninterested or unavailable.
Um, you should prob stop trying to get on "uninterested or unavailable" mean. It means that:
a. you like a married guy or attached guy (NOT COOL) or
b. like people you have nada in common with.
You are setting yourself up for disaster.
Just give a chance to the guys you go out with and approach you. You never know. Something great could come out of it.
2007-01-25 01:34:38 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The prevailing assumption regarding single people over thirty five or forty is interesting. Those ages are an arbitrary time frame I picked but I think it has some stock.
Men who are single most of their life (Hugh Hefner) are living the bachelor life, they are almost promoted as this definition of male hood.
Women certainly are not given that accolade. They are considered spinsters, or lesbians when they choose that lifestyle for themselves.
And it is a lifestyle choice. Certainly anyone could "settle" for just anyone.
Frankly, I think 33 is a little young for these concerns. You have most of your life in front of you. You sound like a woman men would be interested in. Maybe you should evaluate your standards. Not lower them. Just examine them.
2007-01-25 01:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes. Not enough people have grasped the concept of living a happy single life. They believe that everyone needs a relationship, and whoever can't get one is (to quote Modern Woman: The Lost Sex, worst book EVER) "deeply ill."
2007-01-25 08:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your still young ,myself i been alone a long time {my choice} don't like head games . I know what i like and dislike . Try thinking about what makes you uneasy and what was missing in your past relationships? Then what is it that would make you Happy, and you need ,and don't need ? Then meet someone that has those interests
That person is out there if you are looking . It is better to be alone than to be with someone and be alone. Keep Smiling
2007-01-25 01:50:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think there is a negative stereotype concerning this, however your friends and family know that you just have found the right one.
2007-01-25 01:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not defective...just that men are not a priority for you right now.
2007-01-25 01:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by norwood 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋