I have been having contractions and I am 2 cm dilated also on bedrest. My husband is leaving this weekend for a training for work over 2 hours away. He doesn't understand why I am so scared about this. We have two children under 3 at home and the closest relative is 30 minutes away so if I go into labor I have to sit and wait for someone to get to me. He keeps telling me that I should go stay with my parents who are over an hour away and will be at work 30 minutes from their house and the closest hospital to them is also an hour away. I have really fast labors and I am afraid that I won't make it to the hospital in time. He doesn't understand my fears and won't even discuss any other options and is really cold about it and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have any suggestions I need help!!
Also I don't have anyone that can stay with me.
2007-01-25 01:24:52 · 17 answers · asked by Summer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I live 10 minutes from the hospital and there is no one to take the kids overnight because everyone works. The closest friend or relative is at least 30 minutes away. Also the doctor said i could go into labor anytime now.
2007-01-25 01:38:44 · update #1
i know how you feel i have five kids and each labor was faster than the last your husband needs to help you make arrangments if its for the weekend maybe one of your parents could stay with you or if you trust one of your neighbors make arrangments for you children if you do need to go to the hospital thats what i did if i was home alone while my old man was at work.your husband seriosly needs to consider everything that could happen if you go into labor and he should really be more understanding bout the situation...you should not be left alone especially if you are supposed to be on bed rest and have other kids at home...make him understand
2007-01-25 01:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by cnwhab4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a neighbor or friend who can take your kids if you go into labor? I would start making some calls today, to see if there's someone who can take them on a moment's notice, at least until your parents can get there. If you go into labor, call an ambulance. If needed, once the ambulance gets there, they will find a way to make sure your kids are taken care of until your parents can get there. Let your parents know the situation ahead of time, so that if something happens they can be contacted immediately and can get to you as quickly as possible. Good luck.
P.S. Being alone with two small children doesn't sound like bed rest to me. Where is your husband's head at???? I'm sure that if he explained your family's situation at work, they would let him do the training later or something. Are you sure there is NO WAY your parents can come and stay with you? Have you asked them?
2007-01-25 01:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband that you will just call an ambulance if you go into labor and to have a lovely trip. I don't know why he's acting so horribly but you need to make sure your stuff is ready to go now and call 911 if you go into labor before he returns. Also, try to line up your sitter for the other 2 children or ask your parents to be on stand by to come get them. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-25 01:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's away, there's noone else to help you and you're on bedrest, who looks after the other kids??
I suspect you are. Look, if you think you're in labor and need to go to hospital, pack up the kids, phone a cab and go. You can phone ahead now and let them know what's going on, so that they can try to be available while hubby is away. And you need to be in tune with your body so that you're not leaving the phone calls to the last minute.
Also, if you're having a baby - could the parents not take some holiday time to be with you and make sure you get to hospital?
I find it hard to believe that there are no co-workers, friends or family that you can call to be with you - you just need to ask.
2007-01-25 01:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...you say you have fast labors, and two small children at the house, and are on bed rest...understandable that you are concerned.
Take a deep breath.
As to the first concern (you going into labor), unless you had your other children super early, I would relax just a little bit. I'm more concerned that you are on bed rest with 2 very small children in the house. Either they are not being watched, or you are not getting bedrest.
Calmly (the operative word being CALMLY) explain to your husband that you understand he needs to do the work training, but that you also need bed rest, and who should be watching the kids? Have him help you come up with a solution (unless the grandparents work on the weekend, my vote is to ask Gma/Gpa to take them.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-25 02:45:17 · answer #5 · answered by Julia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is get rid of the husband!!!!
Seriously your contracting and he's not staying with you. Your husband should be more supportive. Ignore the comment by BiancaV... he's not the one that needs the support right now, YOU do.
It's hard to give advice when I don't know the whole situation but I feel for you. I assume you have to take care of your small children as well as having contractions? I can't give much advice other than keep the phone handy if you really don't want to stay with your parents.
You sound like an amazingly strong and tollerant woman.
Best of luck
2007-01-25 01:42:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your OB say? You could be having braxton hicks buy not be ready for delivery. I say be a big girl and if you go into labor and can't wait the 30 min call 911 and ride in the ambulance. They will make sure your children are cared for until someone gets there.
Good luck and relax.
2007-01-25 01:30:47 · answer #7 · answered by herbsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my!! Your husband really needs to be more supportive in this situation. Do you have any friends that you could call in case you do go into labor? Have you went into labor early with your other children? This is very concerning. Have you spoke to your doctor about this? IS there any possible way your husband can reschedule this training?
2007-01-25 01:31:48 · answer #8 · answered by crystalnunley2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're on bedrest, who is going to take care of the other kids? I think you need to drop the kids off at a friend or relatives and go stay at a hotel close to your hospital. If all else fails, your husband needs to put his family, before his job. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 01:30:20 · answer #9 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its time to take a bundt cake to your nearest neighbors! there has to be someone who would be willing - in an EMERGENCY situation to get the kids out of the house...you can call an ambulance for yourself...(make sure the phones are fully charged) I'd be more angry at your husband for leaving you alone so pregnant and still having to care for 2 small children!
2007-01-25 02:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by motherhendoulas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋