ok this is something i jsut dont understand. last night i posted a question about adultery and marriage and i gave an example that even though i'm not married if/when my bf cheated on me, i always leave. some people said well my bf wasnt married to me so it's not cheating...what the hell does that mean, i am a very religious person beleive me, ubt i dont get how someone can tell me that if we're not married it doesnt count as cheating? if i get this straight, if he cheats before marriage it's ok but during it's not? if that's my beleif am i ont setting myself up for a miserable marriage? i dont get this thinking process at all!
2007-01-25 01:21:31 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
some peeps are just dense
sex before marriage w/ someone else is cheating
sex after marriage w/ someone else is cheating
sex before marriage w/ anyone is fornication
2007-01-25 01:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by narco_polo47 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people form a bond and agree to be exclusive to each other and one steps out for a roll in the hay, that is cheating. If you two have just been dating and nothing was stated about being exclusive then there wasn't any cheating. If one assumed it was exclusive and one didn't then your at the mercy two differing view points. If your planning on marrying the other....might want to state that you are exclusive. Usually a year before marriage. Then if the other steps out...you know it is a bad idea to marry.
2007-01-25 09:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is cheating, married or not. Don't believe everything you read. Stick to your beliefs and dump a cheater. He cheats now, he'll cheat after. God gave you your instincts, keep using them. Before marriage, it's called fornication. If one of the people is married, it's adultery. Either way, it's wrong.
2007-01-25 09:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by gigglings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady,
I am sorry that I was not on here to answer your question last evening. HE did not commit "adultery" unless he was married, however he was unfaithful to you. If he is unfaithful to you now, then he will NEVER be faithful to you. I suggest that you find a new guy and move on. There are plenty of "fish in the sea" find one who swims "closer to home". YOU deserve that and GOD expects you and your spouse to be faithful to one another. I have NEVER CHEATED on my wife of 31 years even when we were 'going out' prior to marriage. She has always been the most special gift that GOD has given to me! I hope that this makes sense. Have a better day today than yesterday. Spend time reading and studying HIS WORD today.
Eds
2007-01-25 09:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Eds 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you sound like you got a good head on your sholders. Whoever told you that, im sorry, but they are an idiot. Thats ridiculous. Dont even waste your time stressing out. Cheating is cheating period. Whether you are married or not it doesnt matter. If he is cheating on you while boyfriend and girlfriend trust me he will do it while your married too.
I cant believe that. You go on girl..you know what your saying and stick to it!
2007-01-25 09:36:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not okay to cheat if you're in a committed relationship. Cheating is cheating but adultery is between married people who have made vows before God of fidelity.
2007-01-25 09:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dear he is cheating on you and anyone that says he ain't cheating on you just because you are not marreid has no clue what they are talking about.
Listen very closely to what I am going to tell you because it will help you not to make a really big huge mistake.
The fact that you are not married has no baring on rather or not his cheat is okay or not okay.
Because it is cheating rather or not you are married or not married, Cheating is cheating.
If he will cheat on you now as your boyfriend he most certainly will do it after you are married.
Take hed my dear do not marry this man once a cheater always a cheater.
2007-01-25 09:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Tom Sawyer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats while you're only dating, evaluate your situation and see if you still want to spend the rest of your life with this person. All can be forgiven, but you may be setting yourself up for failure in marriage if these matters aren't ironed out. That's between the two of you, and no one in here can settle it for you. Best wishes! Hope all turns out well.
2007-01-25 09:27:57 · answer #8 · answered by Char 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats now,he WILL cheat in marriage as well. He has no concept of covenent relationship and is undoubtedly very immature,at least emotionally.
Though his infidelity is not technically adultery at this point, I would call it a pre-adultery.
Please consider marriage counselling with your pastor or other christian marriage advisors.
2007-01-25 09:33:09 · answer #9 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged to be married, then he is with another woman, yes that is cheating. If you are just dating him, he is a free man. If you are living with him, you are living in sin. Adultery is ONLY if he is married. You know that old fashion thing you do in front of a minister or priest?
2007-01-25 09:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is hard to equate living in fornication with marriage. There is no commitment and no legal support, either from the govenment, or the church.
Living together is a very loose, worldly, and immoral position. The bible is very clear on this in both the old and new testaments.
2007-01-25 09:29:42 · answer #11 · answered by Jay Z 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋