Plz help.
I don't know if i am going crazy or whether i am selfish.
My b/f and i have been together to more than two yrs now, and our relationship was always exciting. We moved in together a couple of months ago and i don't know whether i am bored or whether he has changed.
He doesn't call me during the day anymore and he works on Saturdays aswell, so we only spend time together on a Sunday.
When we get home after work he goes straight to gym and only comes home after 8 in the evening, then he eats and goes to bed.
I am extremely young, and i am afraid that i am going to lose my youth, and regret it later, my b/f is 5 yrs older than me and i feel as though we are an old married couple. Is it selfish of me to want more spark or passion in our relationship (seen aswell we have only been together 2 yrs!!)????? Plz help
2007-01-25 01:19:18 · 19 answers · asked by Roxxy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Judging ONLY from what you've told me, no, you aren't wrong in looking for more in your relationship. I think the first step for you is to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend about this topic.
2007-01-25 01:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Egghead 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are neither crazy, nor selfish. As you say yourself, you are probably "extremely young".
Just how young you are you don't say. But the younger you are, the greater is the relative age difference between you and your friend. For example, a 20 yr old man may find a 15 yr old girl too young. But a 25 yr old man will be much more comfortable with a 20 yr old girl. Do you get what I mean?
Maybe your ages are not right at present. It's a good thing this is happening now rather than later. Perhaps you should seek company of boys more your own age.
One small point. If you're "extremely young", I don't think you should get into a live-in relationship just yet. Stay with your parents until you're ready for it.
2007-01-25 09:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by wisdom tooth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not you have a right to want the passion and romance there. It's been two years, and already it's like being an old married couple. The two of you need to sit down and have a talk. There will be compromising that has to be done, but if the two of you love each other than it's worth discussing and working through. Good Luck.
2007-01-25 09:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you have lost the spark already, the relationship is over. It sounds like he thinks of you as a conquest rather than a mate, and no, you are not selfish for wanting more from the relationship. you can try going to the gym with him and talking to him but if things don't change, just tell him it is not working out and move out or let him move out, and find someone who wants to be there with you and for you
2007-01-25 09:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not selfish of you to want more romance and sparks in your frlationship. I have been married 34 years and there are still sparks between my wife and myself...So there should be some there for you after only 2 yrs. Tell him he needs to heat it up a bit and liven things up.
2007-01-25 09:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has gotten used to you and knows he no longer has to make as much effort as he used to. I would back off a bit if you can, don't call him, or go out of your way to see him, don't kiss as much or say I love you. Start making plans without him in the evening and at the weekend. He should start to notice you're cooling off and make more effort to keep you happy. If he doesn't notice, then talk to him. And if that doesn't work, then you might want to consider finding someone who appreciates you a whole lot more.
2007-01-25 09:26:19 · answer #6 · answered by Velouria 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Tell him. Say you want to spend more time with him and have some "sexy time" a la Borat. :) When you start living with someone, you see them every day so it's not as "magical" as it is when you pick eachother up for a date. But let him know. And also discuss/ask where he sees the relationship going... Is he marriage material? If not, don't waste your time, love!
2007-01-25 09:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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OK Girlie, you are complaining about what your man is doing in the relationship. The real question here is, "WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO MAKE IT BETTER??" I'm not saying he can't do more to spice it up, but your the one asking. What is it that YOU can do???
Also, instead of asking the question here, talk to the man. Maybe he feels the same way, but don't put the entire load on his shoulders. It took BOTH of you to get where you are today.
2007-01-25 10:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by sm177y 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are in a rut. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, he may not even realize the routine he is in. Take a trip if only just for the weekend. Also, it is very important that you make time for yourself, and time with your friends without him.
2007-01-25 09:25:23 · answer #9 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then you try to put some spark in your Life. Do something that would want him to be Home, more often. You've gotten to think that he's suppose to be home. WRONG! Make it feel like he can only be happy, if he is with you. Sex is not the only way to please a Man.
2007-01-25 09:26:25 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋