What do you think about Gay people adopting?

Question

I personally think that the child has been through enough. It has to deal with the reason that it has been adopted in the first place (parent's died, parent's were junkies e.t.c.), then it has to deal with the stress of actually being adopted and then it has to deal with having same sex parents.

It's too much for a child to handle.

Let's get some things straight:

I have nothing against gay people.
I am not religious and definately not a bible basher.

Some people are saying "what would you prefer, a straight couple that are junkies or a loving gay couple?", to be honest. Neither.

I just think that children that are up for adoption have already been through so much and don't deserve to be put in a situation where they could be teased for years, especially if they are young. And no, I personally wouldn't tease somebody for having gay parents, but there will always be racist and homophobic people in this world.

And yes, I think it's fine for single people to adopt, as long as they have enough money, a big enough house, can support the child properly e.t.c.

At the end of the day, lots of women bring up children by themselves and yes, there is proof that these children are more likely to be criminals and be uneducated, but lots of children are better off without a Dad.

These women make the best of a bad situation and most of them never planned to bring their kids up alone. It's not an ideal situation and neither is having a child in a gay relationship.

Answer 1

First of all you are calling a child an "it" when a child is not an "it", they are human beings.

Second of all, two gay parents are 100% better than the crack-addicted or alcholic single mom who left her baby in a dumpster in the first place so UH YEAH....I don't see anything wrong with two GOOD gay parents or two ANY kind of parents or one good gay or straight parent adopting.

If something happened to me and my daughter was adopted by gays, I would NOT be worried that she would "turn gay".

Two gay parents DOES NOT EQUAL a gay child. Duh.

Those of you who say that are ignorant for even suggesting it. What is wrong with you people? Being gay is something one cannot control....unfortunately there's nothing we can do about all the ignorant retards in this world either!

Answer 2

It doesn't sound to me like you are too educated on the adoption process and why children are adopted. Not ALL children who are adopted come from families of junkies, etc., Some, may already have 3 children, and simply cannot take care of another, some are little girls, 13 who's parents did not educate them or care enough to tell them about safe sex or abstinence. Some, are in college, and are looking to become professionals and are not prepared to be parents............Homosexual or not, and adoptive parent wants ONE thing........to be a PARENT. It makes no difference what your sexual preference is when it comes to wanting to be a parent and give a child an opportunity at a much better life than one he or she may not have had in the birth family. Most adoptees do at some point and time wonder "where they belong" or if they really "belong", it's a part of the process, however, I think you will find that most, once they are educated, and go through any and all types of support available, know that their adoptive parents wanted only the best for them, and in most cases, the birth parents did as well.

Answer 3

I have a lot of gay friends who would be heartbroken over this. You seem to be forgetting the human in a gay person.
Isn't it at all possible that a gay person may be able to offer more love and acceptance and support than a straight person?

We preach about tolerance and acceptance and equality, but we don't show it. Our words are never made into actions. Any person should be able to adopt a child, PROVIDED that they can provide a safe, loving, nurturing home to the child.

I find it ludicrous that someone could say:
"There are two options for this child in their adoption. Person 1 has moved 17 times, is an alcoholic, and is awaiting trial for assault. Person 2 is an amazing volunteer, holds a stable job, has time to spend with the child, is sober and can handle the needs of the child. But person 2 is gay, and therefore we should give the child to person 1."

People cannot help who they are. Their personality extends beyond their sexuality. Stop thinking of someone as being gay, and begin to recognize that they are human too.

I know a lot of gay people who will make excellent parents. They pay attention, they are great with kids, their tempraments are awesome, they have patience beyond the world, and don't you think they'd be more empathetic to the sufferings of the child?

People who are gay have to put up with predjudice and hatred every day of their life. They have to watch what they do so much more, because we put them under a microscope.
Perhaps, just perhaps, a child who has felt some of the same scrutiny, felt alone, felt unwanted, would find a more comforting ear, and a more stable shoulder because of how much their gay parent(s) have gone through.

Who cares on whether its "my dads" or "my moms" or "my parents" as long as it is followed by "care for me, love me unconditionally, and give me opportunities"?

As we advance further into this era, being gay is not unheard of, and should certainly not be shunned. And if they can give the child a stable and loving home, all the better. There would be less children who don't have loving parents and a loving home to belong to.

Hatred and intolerance have no place in this world, and should not be propagated through thoughts and ideas like this.

Answer 4

My opinion is that it doesnt matter who adopts a child, its how they are loved. Whos to say that because they choose an alternate lifestyle then the norm, they cant be great parents? Every child deserves a chance, and if a gay couple wants to give that to a child, so be it. I think these children will be more open to life, and not be so judgemental of others. Just because someone is gay doesnt mean they dont have the needs, and rights of any other human being.
As to what the child went through. They dont know at birth or a young age what happened or why they were up for adoption. When they grow up, the adoptive parents have the right to explain the circumstances to them. And as a friend to quite a few of adopted people, they are more grateful for the fact that they were given a chance, and that their real birth parents knew they wanted better for the child. Thats what matters most to them.
Adoption doesnt seem to be an option explained much to unwed, single women. Which I think it should, look at all these young girls having children. Back in the 60's and before if their was an undwed mother, they were forced to give the child up. That honestly seems fair to me. There is a 13 year old that my oldest son knows of from our neighborhood. She just had a baby, and her parents took custody of it till she is 18. Whats with that!? I would have tighter reigns on my daughter then that. And I just learned this week, that there are 2 possible fathers that are both over 18. The parents plan on pressing charges on the boy that is not the father, but letting the other one off scott free to help provide for the child. Come on now! How is this fair!? You talk about something like this, when there is so many more outlandish situations in the world. Like the movie stars that adopt children from other countries, but hell with the children suffering in the country they live in! Thats more of a moral story I would like comments or answers from the others on!

Answer 5

I see no problem in anyone adopting a child as long as they will give the child a good and loving home. Otherwise these children would be tossed around the foster care system, and end up with who knows what kind of people and never form any bonds with anyone. Then they get tossed out of the system when they turn 18, and have no support at all. I think gay couples/ single people who will give these children a lifetime of love and support is much better than the alternative. I also know a gay couple who adopted a girl child when she was 3. This childs mother was a druggie and the girl was left alone in a motel for around a 3 days to a week, no one knows for sure. The hotel manager heard her crying when he went to give a notice to evict the room. She had not eaten and drank toilet water to stay alive. She was completely naked and had went to the bath room all over the place, because she was not potty trained. She was 2 when SS got her and she weighed 13lbs. She is now a bright and healthy 9 year old. Her daddy works from home, and is always there when she gets out of school. Her papa goes to work, but is home at 5pm everyday. This child makes straight A's and is a very well liked girl in her class. Her dad is on the PTA, and comes up with some great ideas. She gets to go to dance class, play sports, have sleepovers, go on vacation, go to college, and she is the most important thing in the world to two wonderfull parents. I say that is a lot better than running around naked, deficating on yourself, and drinking toilet water all by yourself in a filthy nasty hotel room while your mother is off chasing the dragon.

Answer 6

Solely based on your statement about a child having to deal with issues from their birth parents, do you think that a loving and caring couple(of any sexual orientation) could do any worse? As a heterosexual, would you inform your children of the intimate details of your sexual actiivty,of course you wouldn't! Why is it people cannot see beyond the sexual aspect in a gay relationship?A successfull relationship is based upon so much more than the physical and sexual.Obviously the birth parents(who were heterosexual) were not good parents.Do you think that the child can handle the fact that the parent loved crack more than their daughter?Do you think the son can handle the fact his dad beat him at night just because he could. I am strongly in favour of children being loved and wanted.If the birth parents can't dothe right thing then why deny the child a loving home based solely on your fears and biases? Just curious ,have you looked into adoption to prevent a child going into "the wrong home?"

Answer 7

What about a kid being brought up by two cousins, their brothers, sisters, parents mates?

What stress ? Bullying? by folks like you?

Dont bully and teach the kid to batter bullies for not being nice.

Its the church and islam thats immoral...

with child abusing priests and nuns with the full support of the pope. Or muslsims murdeing sorry executing 13 year old girls and 16 year old girls for having sex.


How would gays influence children?

How about healthy eating and exercise.

Gays often have 6 packs, are vege eating quailty food, are often middle class, creative, in good educated jobs and highly creative.

The also tend to have many girl mates who could give a boy good pulling tips as would their common skills at telling jokes, social skills, cooking and hairstyling.


Oh and then there is te pulling trick were a guy may pretnend to be gay but confused and maybe just maybe if all the girls snog him and show their boobs the boy (sneaky git) may turn straight.


Or if the girls think hes gay maybe they wont mind inviting him over to the pyama party with the see through nighties.

Whilst he says to the lads in school... Bad luck lads you should have seen what Simone was wearing...

Answer 8

I can't believe I am actually reading some of these answers. I am in awe that this level of ignorance and hate is still abundant in this county. Who cares as long as the child is loved? Two gay parents can be better parents then 2 two straight parents. In today's age we should be happy that these children have the opportunity to have a loving and stable home. I know a few kids that were raised by gay parents, they are well established, loving,straight people whom are more grateful than most. Your answers come from a place of hate instead of reality. You are what is wrong with this country. We clearly have more problems to deal with than gay parents. And it is so funny to me how all you bible thumpers twist the bible to fit your own beliefs. Go and get some education on the actual bible then come back and preach, your answers may change a bit.

Answer 9

Most people don't "stress out their child by telling them they are adopted" until they are old enough to handle it.

If you grow up from infancy with the same two people, or ANY people (brothers, sisters, etc) it is not "stressful". The only "stress" comes from idiots like you who make them feel bad about their lives. You love and know who you grow up with.

I assume you love your parents? Now, how would you feel if people were beating them up or making fun of them on radio and television, and making laws against them, because, oh, say they were black or foreign? A little stressed, maybe?

If you really cared about how 'stressed' children are, you wouldn't make a big deal out of it.

Answer 10

I think that as long as the child is properly cared for then there shouldn't be a problem who the parents are regardless of race, sexuality, etc. There are some bad adoptive parents out there that heterosexual couples that can't cope. I also think that the long waiting lists of children waiting to be adopted is sickening. Social services and other adoption organisations are far too picky about who's right and who's wrong.

Answer 11

Lets see, so you are saying that as long as a couple is a man and a woman they have a right to adopt children. But a gay couple doesn't. All because they are the same sex.

I would much rather a child be raised by two loving adults, whether they both have vagina's or penis', that are going to show them the love and nurturing needed to grow up healthy and strong.

It is a proven fact that gay couples have less of an instance of familial violence then straight. And for those who argue (and they do) that gay couples will molest or sexually abuse kids, check your facts...most pedophiles are straight white guys.

It is sad that in this day and age of differences that people continue to be so close minded and judgmental. sexual orientation should not be the defining factor in whether a child should be loved or kept in a foster home.

Have you seen that bumper sticker....

"if your not outraged, then your not paying attention."

someones not paying attention.