What should I do about this complicated situation?

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What should I do about this complicated situation?
I'm kinda enduring an awkward situation at work. One of my closest guy friends works at the same place as I do and I began to develop feelings for him though he has a gf. I told him I liked him and I felt it was best that we ignore each other for awhile so I can get over him. Anyway he asked me if I wanted to hook up with him, i said i did, but then he said i should do it with another guy I like. Anyway during all of this, I got mad at him for jerking my feelings around and I ended up calling him a dog, but then I apologized. The thing is I said all of this via text. The next day I wrote him a letter saying how sorry I was for how I acted, and that it was better that we treat each other as professionals since he has a gf and I need to move on. The thing is that he ignored me. So far, we've been ignoring each other for the past 3 weeks and now it is awkward and i miss talking to him sometimes. Whenever we pass each other it is awkward. What should I do?

Answer 1

His pride is injured, and his feelings were in this whole situation as much as yours. And, as you said, he does have a girlfriend already. Plus, if he asked you to hook up, but then pushed you away, maybe his feelings run a little deeper than you thought. Since he does have a girlfriend, his ignoring you could be his way of respecting her by letting his feelings die down a bit. He knows something you don't know: how he's feeling about all this. Knowing you like him, how his girlfriend feels plus his own feelings truly complicates things. Let him fight the war inside himself and take this time to kill your attraction to him.

Answer 2

There's nothing much you can do now. He is being a moron and childish and until he grows up a bit, he will continue to do this. Men think that if they have a spat that if they ignore it, it will go away. If it isnt discussed, it doesnt exist. Its sad.
Let me explain something to you. First of all....u had every right to call him a dog because he was playing with your feelings. He was wrong in doing so and you shouldnt have apologized for defending your heart. He is now reveling in the fact that you like him and even though he has been a jerk, that you still wanna be around him and talk to him.
I would ignore him from here on out. Dont feel awkward about it, he was the jerk, not you.
Find you a real guy that will respect your feelings no matter how small. You deserve better than this jerk.
Good luck

Answer 3

First of all you broke rule # 1 as a professional! You never devlop or pursue relationships beyond the off ice with co-workers. In all honesty you have brought this entire situataion on yourself. I would advise you to politley nod as you pass and forget it entirely. I think that if he was interested in you beyond the office he would have let you known that. In some ways you sound a little like you are stalking him which because you did all of this in writing culd put your job and chances for advancemnet right out the window. Let it go he is not the man for you or he would have broken things off with the g/f and went off into the sunset with you.

Answer 4

It very simple...he is taken and you are still hung UP on him, so leave it alone...it best that you two don't talk in time....he might be open to friendship and you might be ready for it.

My ex-boyfriend was my best-friend then he broke my heart by dating and calling a girl a month before we officially broke up, even still I tried to be his friend.

But whenever I mention something new in my personal life he would get jealous and try to make me jealous....So I took control and told him we could be friend after 6 months have gone by.

In short, try to be his friend in 6 months from today without even telling hi and that will be good for you both. If you see him in the hall say hello and act professional....Good luck.

Answer 5

Make eye contact with him and give him a little smile. Then if he continues to ignore you, text him and let him know you miss the friendship and just want it to go back to how it was before all the revealing feelings came out. Keep it platonic. Then if/when things don't work out with him and his gf, add a wink when you smile at him!

Answer 6

that's no longer complicated thirteen isn't yet a woman she remains a splash lady who needs to be taken care of. in case you cared approximately her lots you're able to do what's suitable for her and get her out of that homestead regardless of ways a techniques away it is. different clever you will get to work out her standard after she gets crushed how does that make experience to you? Get this lady some help.

Answer 7

First off, never text personal stuff, at work. Since this has already happened, you should just carry on with your work. You asked him to ignore you, which is what he's doing.
If you feel you really need to talk to him, keep it about work subjects.

Answer 8

You did all you can. You apologized. He chose ...a t least for the moment . .. not to accept it. He may never accept it, then again he might eventually. Be patient.