I'm involved with a guy for over two years who has definite intimacy issues. He can't express his feelings with me, he can't cuddle and just be affectionate. We have a wonderful time together and seem to be on the same page with everything else in the relationship, but he just can't seem to reach out to me. We don't have bedroom problems - in fact, that's the only place he can seem to be demonstrative. He's a recovering and is still dealing with addictive acting-out behaviors and is also in therapy. I'm wondering if it's worth the wait (and the very fact that I'm asking is probably my answer!).
2007-01-25 00:49:37 · 3 answers · asked by Becca 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should've mentioned that he moved in with me December 2005.
2007-01-25 01:01:40 · update #1
Those that have addiction problems often have self-control issues and have had a few failed relationships in the past due to them. It can be hard to open up to someone after being hurt or rejected repeatedly. This can also cause some self-esteem issues to where they don't feel worthy of affection or of being loved and they may tend to have stopped wanting it and find it emotionally safer not to open themselves up to you.
Sometimes men are simply that way anyway. They could care less about the cuddles and emotion as long as you give them sex, do your jobs around the house and make their lunch everyday. It could be either and/or both in this case.
2007-01-25 01:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already gave him over two years, if you didn't think it was worth it to wait you would have probably left by now :)
2007-01-25 00:56:46 · answer #2 · answered by melimel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on already....obviously you can do better and you deserve better.
2007-01-25 01:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by flsuave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋