My son recently turned 2 and is very advanced for his age. He knows ALL the primary colors, shapes, can count from 1 to 10 (in order), knows his ABC's (in order), can dress himself, talks in full sentences (his fave now, "what did you say"), he recognizes tv characters, knows many kid rhymes/songs, loves to "read", enjoys coloring (he knows how to draw a circle & a cloud), he eats on his own using fork and/or spoon, understands if he did something wrong or right. Can recognize & understand a plethora of other things (I'll be here all day if I were to share all that he knows, he even shocks me). HOWEVER, there's 1 thing he has yet to master, leaving his bottle (that's my fault). Despite all he has achieved in so little time, people look at me as if I'm such a bad mom. I've a Jersey attitude: don't look at me wrongly & don't say anything stupid! Trying hard to learn to be nice, how do I NICELY tell people to mind their BIZ & stop assuming my child isn't smart b/c he's on a bottle?
2007-01-25 00:46:11 · 8 answers · asked by njboricua78 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Every child is different. And I have had this theory on how kids are for years now. I am a mother of an 11yr old boy, 9 yr old boy, 4 1/2 yr old boy, and 9 month old girl. From watching the 2 oldest ones, as well as friends kids, I have a theory. There are the book smart kids, and the common sense kids. The book smart ones can absorb knowledge like theres no tomorrow, but when it comes to everyday things they dont give in.
For example my now 9 year old, when he was 3, he knew all that stuff you are saying above here about your son. But he wouldnt use the toilet, and when it came to trying to teach him how to ride a bike with training wheels he would run into objects, and just DIDNT get the whole brake thing. Took years to teach him that.
Then with my oldest who is now 11. He could do anything if it had to do with common sense, like giving him boundries and staying in the back yard to play at the age of 4. He didnt test them, because he was told DONT, so he didnt. Also, if you physically showed him how to do a certain type of project and did it with him, he got it the first time. His brain got it, if it was hands on.
Now, my 41/2 year old is the same as the 9 year old. He didnt give up his bottle till just a few months ago. Granted he only had one at night just before bed, but none the less he WOULNT give it up! Same as potty training, he was the toughest so far! He just was set in his ways and smart as a whip, but he knew how to outsmart me on that one for a while. lol (He knew how to spell his name, by age 20 months. He was quick in the learning things.) As well as a test he took for preschool, he outsmarted a puzzle. The puzzle had the primary shapes of circle, triangle, square, and a rectangle. Well, this test was done just before he turned 3, and seems that most 3 year olds will recognize the first 3 objects. But I guess they told me, rectangle is something they dont get till they are 4, cuz its so close to a square. Anyways, when it came time to put the rectangle piece in this puzzle, he attempted it with the puzzle positioning the rectangle lengthwise. But he picked up the piece so that it was up and down long...... he tried to fit it in maybe 3 times. Well, as you can imagine it didnt fit. So, instead of turning the piece to fit the puzzle, he amazed us all by fitting the puzzle so it fit his piece! And seems that takes more thinking processes then the other way around. lol Imagine that. And to this day he makes things fit around him! haha!
But as you can see from the 3 examples I have showed you. Every child has different though processes, and they are just themselves. There are the book smart kids that lack the desire to give up the common sense things. And then there are the common sense kids that just take a little longer to learn the book knowledge that they need later in life.
It will all work out, and if others dont like it... heck with them! You are doing a great job raising your son no matter what others think! Just smile in knowing he knows more then their kids do! lol
Have a great day, and keep your chin up!!! Kids are not a competition, they are the PRIZE all in its own, daily too!
2007-01-25 01:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by ,,!,,baddest~lil~b!tch,,!,, 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think your son using the bottle bothers you more than you realize. Be confident in yourself as a mother and be confident in your child. If people look at you "wrong", just smile and ignore it. Really, you'll never see these people again and their opinion really doesn't matter. You have a wonderful, smart, creative boy and that doesn't change because he likes his bottle. I use this question to decide if it's something to get upset about: "Will this bother me a few years from now?" Of course, when your son is four it so won't matter how long he used a bottle. Some children hold on to "lovies" which is perfectly normal. My son loved his pacifier way past the norm and my daughter had a favorite stuffed animal that looked like a dirty, piece of cloth the last year she carried it everywhere with her. It's one of the many wonderful, funny memories I have and hold dear about their childhood. Remember opinionated people/acquaintances will come and go, but your children are yours for life. If you react to the assumption they think something is wrong with your son, then he'll think something IS wrong. Please ignore it and enjoy your son. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 01:28:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my children were small they got an Easter basket with candy, as they grew they still got a basket and a little candy and maybe a bathing suit or a cd. Some of the things that you mentioned are WAY over the top. You are exactly right. We, as a society are trying to give our kids things that we didn't have and we are hurting them a lot more than we are helping them. They are ungrateful and spoiled and LAZY! (And this includes my own kids). The world is in serious trouble with the kids that are coming up now.
2016-03-29 01:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on if they actually say something to you or not. If they just give you looks in ignore them but if they say something I just nicely tell them that he is your son and if he wants to drink from his bottle still he can it's none of their business. He's a smart boy and every child does things at their own pace. And congrats it sound's like you have a very wonderful little boy! Enjoy him and don't worry about other people.
2007-01-25 01:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the only problem i have with the bottle and older babies is that it causes tooth decay and bad teeth. i suggest u use the bottle for water only. i see alot of children needing dental surgery and thats more traumatizing than taking the bottle away.
your baby sounds very smart. they are like sponges at this age.
2007-01-25 02:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly whenever i see a toddler with a bottle, i don't think the child is delayed, the first thing i think is, Don't those parents know what they are doing to his teeth? i mean really, to me its not the kid, its the parents, so you may be getting dirty looks for you, and not anyone thinking something is wrong with your son. but i'm the same way with a four year old with a binky at walmart, all i can think is, what are those parents thinking?
2007-01-25 02:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by whosaidthat? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my son recently turned 2 and knows all this i'd have to say he's a smart kid just cause he's on a bottle doesn't mean he's stupid.
or something like that i dunno the nice way to go i only know the sarcastic way :D
2007-01-25 00:55:37 · answer #7 · answered by boreddude 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just take the bottle and give him a sippy cup.
2007-01-25 01:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by biscuit 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋