Okay so my mom pissed me off yesterday by taking my phone just because I SCREAMED AT HER because she wouldn't say PLEASE turn your phone down! So now I just won't talk to her I have nothing to do with my mom anymore! To tell the truth I'm a 100% Grade A Daddy's girl! None of that goes to my mom! She says she shows appreiciation for others and is caring ya right to who her imaginary friends and Kyra(baby sister) I'm just venting sorry I kept this bottled up all night long! So what do you think? Honesty people no lame jokes to be funny! I'm like almost crying so I need your feedback!
2007-01-25 00:27:56 · 17 answers · asked by firebabe1717 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
uhhhhhhhh my mom didn't buy the phone my boyfriend did so it's not my mom's property
2007-01-25 11:55:54 · update #1
Honey, let me tell you something. If I even DARED to scream at my mother, she would have slapped me upside the head. Seriously.
You need to get a grip and learn to not be such a brat. She is your mom. She lays down the rules. You're in her house. Don't forget that.
And stop screaming. It makes you look nuts.
2007-01-25 01:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mimi 7 · 23⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry dear but when you react with anger when told what to do by your parents (who have every right to tell you what to do) you will get anger back. You must realize that you get the short end of the stick when you behave badly with your parents. They have all the power and you don't.
Step #1 If you want phone privileges you will have to use the phone in a considerate manner or the manner in which you are using it will be subject to correction by your parents.
Step #2 When you react to correction screaming then you get punished. You didn't win anything you lost.
Next time when your are told that your phone is too loud for others in the household be considerate and turn the thing down. You are not the only person who exists in the household. Be pleasant, cooperative, do your homework and you will have everything you need and want.
t is easy for the father in the family to be "the good" one because sometimes allow all the responsibilty of raising the child to fall on the wife. Dad will appear to be "the good one" because mom has to deal with all the problems and becomes "the hated one".
I know you may not like this answer very much but it is reality based. Your mother is teaching you how to get along in this world by correcting actions that are wrong. When you get out in the world on your own your actions while at work, college or simply driving down the road will impact a lot more than phone privileges--they will either make or break your life. If this loud phone were an issue in a work place you could loose your job reacting to your boss the way you did with your mother. Each small punishment at your age is a life's lesson. I didn't view it as such either when I was your age and it took having my own child to realize it. Try to be considerate of others or compromise by only turning your phone up loudly only when you are waiting for an important call. You will be a better, more successful person for it.
2007-01-25 00:57:43 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Little Lady 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Hey, chill with the attitude, yes she should say please, but your no angel either. Respect her rules, until you move out. Ya I seen her question...you 2 need some space. You may not like her now, but honestly your being childish...100% grade A daddy's girl. By now you shouldn't be playing your parents against eachother, & you should be able to see that your mom has some good qualities. Give her some respect & see where it gets you, once your out of the mother/daughter roles you might find that your mom could be a great friend. Your old enough to try & help your mom, she needs friends also, be there for her.
Good Luck & don't slam the door to hard on your way out, you might need to go back. Ya that would suck, don't do thing to spite yourself to show her.
2007-01-25 10:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your "daddy's girl" issues are scaring her. Perhaps she thinks you love your dad more, and unfortunately so....you should not be screaming at your mom. The argument was so trivial, all you had to do was just turn the phone down and ignore the fact that she wouldnt say please. At the time, you were obviously talking with someone else on the phone, so.....you needed to save that CONVERSATION not ARGUMENT with your mother's inability to ask nicely for a later time.
Listen, this is not the end of the world. There are things going on in this earth right this minute that would make your head spin. Deceit in much higher realms. You have to WORK at Any relationship, for it to work. I say you talk respectfully to her nonstop, and your "killing her with kindness" WILL IN FACT, CHANGE YOU BOTH. Good luck and God Bless~
2007-01-25 00:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by º§€V€Nº 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to have a good relationship with your mom. She isn't abusing you is she? Doesn't sound like it to me. I don't really understand this whole situation but, she is your mom and if she wants you to do something, within reason, then why don't you just listen to her? After all she carried you for 9 months, gave birth to you, and has taken care of all of your needs since then, and she has given you a cell phone! Even in this day and age, not every kid has their own phone. Be grateful! And I take it you have never been afraid of loosing your mom right? Well I have. Not that long ago either. I was 17, I watched her struggle to breath and stay alive so she could be with me and my brother. I quit school to take care of her. Even though we don't always see eye to eye, I cherish her, and treat her with the respect she deserves. You should do the same as a daughter, as a person. I hope you are mature enough to forgive her and get on with your life and not stay mad over something so trivial.
2007-01-25 00:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Snow 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel but your Mom will always be there for you. I would suggest you sit down with Mom and talk about what happened. I have fights with my son but I Love him more than the silly fights. Life is to short you need to use the time you have with your Mom and Dad even if you are a Daddy 's girl Good Luck
2007-01-25 00:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Gina D 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think eventually you'll find out your mom had a lot more to do with who you are than you think. Daddy probably lets you get away with murder, which is why he's so popular with you. Right? The parent who sets the boundaries, who tries to teach the life lessons, who enforces the rules, is rarely popular. At least until the kid grows up and realises what a good job they did (or at least they did the best they could).
I'm 47 and it wasn't until I became a parent myself at 40 that I understood my mom.
Anyway, it's natural to fight with your mom. Just let it go, give your relationship some time, and relax a bit more.
2007-01-25 10:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah C 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How old are you Honey? I've been through that situation. I ventured too much in contradictions because I was pampered by my Mom that she would not let anyone hurt me from anything. But as I grow older, I realize I was hurting my Dad's feelings. Believe me, an open communication and little modesty would work. After all they are our parents. They deserve to be respected even when they seems forget to respect our privacy sometimes. Maybe your Mom thinks you're too young yet. Show her that you are growing and act like a grown one. That way, you would not end up fighting or yelling each other.
2007-01-25 01:05:41 · answer #8 · answered by Bully Charmer 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay, u might notlike wt im gunna tell u but u want honesty... ur mom seems streesed out already, try not to add more than is needed. i am 13 and me and my mom fight ALL the time, but i know she is still there if i need her. when i get mad , (i learned my lesson the hard way) i just bite my tongueuntil she out the room and keep a journal to let out anger. if u cant talk to her, do like i do and break down crying and tell her how u feel, honestly, what you are thinking abd ask her to meet u halfway to work things out
2007-01-25 10:41:05 · answer #9 · answered by simplicity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
.You are living at your mother's house. It is not very wise of yo to scream at your mom EVER. She loves you and she wants the best to you. Would you like your own daughter to act like you are acting or do you think that it is a time to move out.
Your daddy is in the wrong if he is letting a child to disrespect the mother. Be careful, you are totally capable of ruining your family's peace by dividing your parents. Just think about it. Do you want to be that selfish?
2007-01-25 10:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by SeeTheLight 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is very disrespectful to scream at your mother. You should apologize immediately. You should not demand anything! Your mom did the right thing by taking your phone. Let me guess, your parents pay for this phone, yet you feel it's your phone. Wrong, it's their phone and they let you use it. I have a teenager. If he screamed at me, I'd take more than his phone. Apologize to your mother. Next time you get so angry you want to scream, tell yourself to calm down, say excuse me and walk way. You need to learn to control your temper. Try not to be so selfish. Look at this from your mother's point of view. She pays for a phone and lets you use it, tells you to turn it down and you scream at her. Totally out of line. Be responsible for your behavior and let her know you're sorry. Good Luck!
2007-01-25 00:50:34 · answer #11 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋