past everybody that i have given my heart to has ripped it up into little pieces and i love my girlfeind but i scared that she will do the same i dont know what to do please help!!!!!!
2007-01-25 00:15:32 · 9 answers · asked by anthony 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no my dear not all girls r same... dont think like that... 2 years is not a short period.. i guess she loves u and will not do so...all the best
2007-01-25 00:19:42 · answer #1 · answered by vandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not worry. Believe your fate is always in your hands. Think, if you have not been feeling scared for the past 2 years being with her, why are you worrying so much now? Let me guess, something must have happened or things might be getting a little sour after all the "honeymoon period" in the earlier part of the BGR. Ignore me if i am wrong but. One thing for sure that you are scared of losing her is that she is no longer attracted to your "charms". The quality that she used to admire and loved upon, or has she changed in personality rather than you losing your charming character you used you have? Regardless of which or what is happening. There are few things i want to let you know while dealing with girls. Do not deprive them of freedom. Any sort of freedom. going out with other guys or anything. whats your will be yours. the more you try to hold on, the more sticky you become. the harder it is to keep her. So be calm. cool and most importantly be yourself. Next, dont bother yourself with useless thoughts like she might be the same as your ex gf because if these thoughts are based nothing, no actions from her or anything... The fear of losing her is going to engluf you and you'll start being clingy (Trait that girls hate most). 3rdly, Be in control. girls never love guy who are out of control in life, messy and disorganised, be in confrol of your own feeling, project an image of confidence and boldness a sense of security that she can fall upon in helpless times. This is one of the main reason why girls stick to some guys and last but not least. DO NOT be boring. i'm not asking you to try to be interesting. But if you're a generally active guy, it shouldnt be a problem. On top of that.. surprise you gf, buy her flowers, send her teddies or anything. put a small note in her bag so that when she gets home she finds the note saying "I just sneeked into your bag to tell you i miss you" .. things like that gets her going in a BGR.... remember.. be yourself. You control your fate. Have confidence.. i hope i've been of some help. Cheers :)
2007-01-25 08:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Devoiex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I have come from a similar past and I can tell you you should never let fear of losing someone dominate how your relationship is going to work out. I can tell you it is better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all. And I know that is an old saying but it is oh so true. I was afraid to love anyone or let them get close enough to love me for a very love time... I caused myself nothing but pain and misery and eventually I realized that every relationship I got in I set up for failure because I was always anticipating having my heart broken. Eventually i would cause the other person to hurt me just to justify how I felt or i would isolate my self and prevent the other person from getting close enough to me to even try to hurt me. I say dont worry just follow your heart and go for it. Dont let fear hold you back and if you get hurt then at least you will have the experience to make you a better person. Another saying they have is what dont kill you onlymakes you stronger so be stronger than your fear and stay with her at least that way later on you have the 'what if' syndrone...
2007-01-25 08:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by curious_2knowme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right to be scared. how many times have these woman riped your heart out. its the American way this is how woman treat men. if you find a good one you will be very lucky. get ready for this. there are woman all over the world that are looking for American guys. i no people flick you **** about mail order brides and all that, but really is it not what a guy wants a woman that treats him good. the way you want to be treated. check it out i am sure you have seen it. young foreign woman with some old dude. now don't you think those young girls would rather be with guys there own age ? yes they would. but they are desperate. its time to wake up and realize that its a big world and there are woman all over in other countries waiting to meet guys like you. these woman will confront you, ask you out, chase after you, fight over you. you might think i am laying it on thick but its true trust me. check it out for your self. if you are scared and worrying about this girl you are with its not healthy. remember you are the man and you should make all the decisions, and protect your money. and start living not worrying. if you lose this chick there are 50 to take her place that will treat you really good. if you decide to get married just have a prenuptial agreement and nothing can go wrong its just all fun and games dude. good luck.
2007-01-25 08:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a natural feeling if youve been hurt in the past, but look at it as making you stronger and ready to expect the unexpected this time around. Trust been there done that
2007-01-25 08:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by ms21lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u are just imagining stuff. Be good to her, trust and love her truly.. Everything else will be fine. No worries.
2007-01-25 08:19:49 · answer #6 · answered by th1608 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be scared! Just be yourself, be the same You as before!!!
Good luck.
2007-01-25 08:23:04 · answer #7 · answered by Shun-Ei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mate gte to grips and pop the questiona and see what she says
2007-01-25 08:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by joshua t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go have a threesome with her!! =D
2007-01-25 08:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by t_empire2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋