Has any one got any ideas on how to get my daughter off of her dummy?

Question

She will be 3 in march,i tryed taking it at xmas told her to leave it for farther xmas and he will leave her presants but that didnt work, and i felt guilty with it being xmas day.

Answer 1

tell her that when its broken you are not going to buy another ,then put a pin hole in it you will find she wont want it any more

Answer 2

My daughter is 33, living on her own, a college graduate, no kids, and quite successful. Her cousin, who is almost exactly the same age, is a high school dropout, has two kids, not living with either dad, and was still living with her mom when her mom died of cirrhosis.. If she'd become pregnant in high school, though, I would have supported whatever decision she made. If she wanted an abortion, I'd help her get one. If she wanted to carry the pregnancy to term, I'd help her with that, and then help her with whatever she decided to do with the baby. Then I would have asked if she needed more condoms, or wanted another method of birth control. When she was a young teen, I taught her how to put a condom on a broom handle, and made her demonstrate that she had paid attention. I gave her the rest of the box of condoms, and told her that I'd always get her more, if she didn't want to buy them for herself. I also told her that I'd help her get other birth control methods, but that she needed to have any boyfriend use condoms if she had sex, because condoms prevent disease as well as pregnancy. And, by the way, she had her hepatitis shots, too. Her cousin's mom told her cousin to just say no. My daughter has never been pregnant, her cousin has been pregnant about half a dozen times, sometimes she aborts, sometimes she keeps the baby. Her cousin is in a dead end job. Another person says "A lot of people here are saying it's not the parents' choice. Which is legally true. But, here's how this works in MY house: my house, MY RULES! So, IF I say she is or is not going to abort the child and she goes against my will, whatever that will is, then I have the option to emancipate and throw her out. If she's too young for emancipation, I'm only required to give her food, shelter, clothes, and a place to sleep. There is no requirement that any of these things are of the highest quality or that they are what she wants." Wrong. Can't emancipate a teen who doesn't want to be emancipated, and in any case, it's very nearly impossible for a pregnant teen to get emancipated even if she wants to, as SHE would have to be able to completely support herself and her baby. What's more, when a minor asks for emancipation, the judge will consider whether emancipation is in the best interests of the child. In many states, emancipation requires parental consent, but a parent cannot forcibly emancipate a child. Throwing a child out of the house, or providing inadequate resources for the child, can result in criminal charges for the parent.

Answer 3

When shes not looking, or asleep try this trick. Cut a little slit in the side near the base of it. When shes pulling on it, eventually it will rip the top off. Since shes older this is safe, and she will be clearly upset. But, from that point on, when she wants it, offer the broken one to her. Dont give in, and get her another one, make sure you stick with it, and within a day or 2, she will see that she only has this broken one, and wont take it anymore.
My now 4 1/2 year old had a favorite "binky" as I call it. When he was 2 1/2 thats what happened to his. I just kept offering the broken one to him, since they didnt make his kind anymore. So, he would take it, put it in his mouth then spit it out! And within a day, he realized if he would get this broken thing every time he asked. So, he stopped asking.
I have learned this time around though, to take it away sooner. My now 9 month old is off hers, and its because we lost it somewhere in the house this past weekend. I tell you it was a lot easier with an infant then a toddler!
Good Luck, hope this idea might help out!

Answer 4

Try and find something that tastes horrible but safe to use for your little girl, she will soon get the idea that dummies taste awful and wont want it no more. Just be careful what u put on it.

What we did was told our kids that the dust bin men have taken it away and that he didnt need a dummy as he was a big boy now, we got our off the dummies around the 18 month mark and no later.

For u americans a dummy is what u guys call a pasifier, and bin men is trash truck guys or what ever u call them, I didnt want millions of u guys emailing me what a dummy was.

Answer 5

Is that like a pacifier? Try having ceremony. Talk to her and remind her that she is a big girl and doesn't need such things anymore. My husbands aunt has triplets and it worked like a charm. Take her out to the trash cans one day as the trash man is coming. have her throw the pacifier in the can and tell it bye or whatever and let her watch the trash man dump the cans and take it away. Explain to her that it is gone and there is noway to get it back of course. Once she see's it drive off she should be over it. Another good thing is to collect all the pacifiers and put them in a bag or something and explain that the pacifier fairy needs them for the babies, and talk to her about being a big girl and helping the babies that need them....help her tie the bag in a tree or but it somewhere outside before a nap or something. While she is napping throw away the pacifiers and put a toy or some type of treat from the pacifier fairy in the bag for her. When she wakes up take her outside to check and see what the fairy brought her. I hope these ideas help. Good luck.

Answer 6

I would simply just throw it away, it may sound harsh but unless you want mths and mths of stress and strain over her dummy then its the best way. If she likes having something at bedtime to comfort why not tell her now she is a big girl that mumy is going to by her a big girls teddy for bedtime and take her to the toyshop, once she is there she will so busy and excited that she will soon forget about her teddy as she will have her new toy to keep her occupied. Also alot of positive feedback to your daughter will encourage her to feel grown up and not have the need for a dummy.

Answer 7

The Dummy Fairy! The dummy fairy comes and collects all the dummies and gives them to really little girls and boys who don't have any. (because your little girl is a big girl now who doesn't really need one - I'm sure she would like to help the poor little babies who don't have any) And she leaves you a present.

Bag them all up when she goes to bed, take them in the night and leave a present. They all have to be got rid of at once . If she asks for it again you tell her you don't have them any more, the dummy fairy has them, and she has her present instead. Couple of days of moaning then it's OK

The dentist told me I had to get rid of my sons dummy around age 2 because his bite was out of line, I did and its back to normal now. The dentist told him the dummy fairy was coming too. So the combination of telling his his teeth would stick out (and the dentist said it not just me) and the poor babies with no dummies worked a treat!

Answer 8

You could tell her the dummy fairies need it. Put it in a box for the fairies and the next morning there will be a special big girl present in there for her. You have to be firm and just do and stick to your guns. It might take a couple of days but she won't ask for it after a while. Good luck!!

Answer 9

Hello Paula:

Here is what worked for my daughter.(Not in front of her of course) I cut all of my daughters dummy's in half with a scissors. On her birthday- at the age of three. I told her that all dummy's brake at three years old. She wanted it, so I gave the dummy that was broken in half. She tried to put it in her mouth. She looked at it. Then she said to me buy new dummy. I told her OK, but it will brake again cause your three years old.
Paula, it WORKED!! You see I did not take it away from her, she was still seeing the dummy and it made her understand that all dummy's brake in half at the age of 3.
A mother at the park told me to do this and it worked for her as well.

From that day on, my daughter did not ask for any dummy's, LOL!!
She is now 17 years old.

Waving from Toronto, Canada

Answer 10

honestly, if you find a way then please tell me.

I have a 2year old and he wont get off the dummy. its harder for me though because i also have a 9month old so i have to keep dummies around the house for her but he takes hers and he'll hide it. Also with bottles, he takes her bottles and he'll hide somewhere and drink it.

I suggest that if you dont have any younger children to get rid of the dummies and dont buy anymore. She'll scream the house down but just ignore it and try to keep her occupied with drawing or something.

You have to remember too, that if she carries on using a dummy, it'll affect her speach and this is definately the best time to get rid of it. Just have to take no notice when she screams and screams

Answer 11

It,s really hard i know and you do feel cruel taking the dummy off them, but it has to be done.
I told my little boy that if he planted his dummy in the back garden then a tree would grow with millions of dummies on it.
It worked and we went outside and i let him dig a hole himself then put his dummy in.
I did feel horrible when every day he went to check if the dummy tree had grown, but eventually he forgot all about it.
He still gives me stick now and asks me why his dummy tree never grew. Bless him.
Good luck.