2007-01-24 23:11:35 · 16 answers · asked by George 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That depends on if it is a mental or a physical hurt they have caused.
If they physically hurt you.. You go get help & most likely will never forgive.
If it's a menta hurt and you believe that person is truly sorry eventually you will move past the hurt. Try remembering the person they were before the hurt.
For some it is in our nature to be forgiving, for some it is not. Either way it depends on how deep the hurt goes and how often it is inflicted.
Look at your situation & ask if this is where you want to still be in a few years & you will have your answer.
2007-01-24 23:18:40 · answer #1 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to understand why they did it, maybe you've done something similar in the past?
Some things are very hard to forgive, I wouldn't be able to forgive someone for cheating on me- because I would never cheat. But I don't know what this person did. So in the end I'd have to say you just need to put yourself in their shoes. We all do and say things we don't mean sometimes.
Also make sure you communicate with this person, tell him how you feel. And then once you decide that you want to forgive let it go. Don't bring it up anymore or it'll just do harm.
2007-01-24 23:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Paloma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well,lay on your back, close your eyes and release all of the hurt from your toes to the top of your head. Depending on what it is that happened and whether this other person will be allowed back in your life, you will have to talk about it and work through some issues. If this person won't be back in your life then you need to find someone to talk to or keep a journal to work through your feelings and things you can do to feel better.
2007-01-24 23:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the forgiving is giving you the opportunity to heal your heart and move on ; so by forgiving you are freeing your heart and mind of this emotion which isn't healthy for you; look at it as a way to improve your heart to get that monkey off your back and mind. Good Luck
2007-01-24 23:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by sml 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is a decision u make because u need peace within yourself. Bitterness and anger eats at u. Therefore, the person who has hurt u should not be super significant to u. but concentrate on letting it go and realising that whatever happened is not worth losing your peace over.
2007-01-24 23:47:49 · answer #5 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in precious time in your heart you may forgive but you have to have the will to forgive and not hold it against the one who hurt you as we all ask for forgivniess
2007-01-24 23:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by precious_52803 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray about it.
Also, it's not good to dwell on the past. So try to move on---forgive but not forget. n
2007-01-24 23:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time. Basicly ask yourself if you are going to put it behind you and move on, or are you going to stay a victim of that person's actions. It's about your attitude toward other people's actions.
2007-01-24 23:17:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu choose to forgive them- and they need to earn the trust- that is not automatic-D
2007-01-24 23:18:38 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I erase them from my memory. I leave them behind. I forget them. I don't mind them pass by now and then, but nothing will be the same. I don't wanna get hurt again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
2007-01-24 23:21:35 · answer #10 · answered by jarod_jared 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋