how do i find a man who will genuinely love my flabby bum?

Question

i mean, he actually finds it more attractive than a small pert one?
my bum is not big and round, it's kind of long + saggy. i just can't help thinking there is no man alive who will actually like to look at such a thing.
ok, they might love my personality but they will always be secretly admiring the "perfect" butt, which makes me feel kind of "flawed / damaged" goods

Answer 1

we all admire that perfect bum, as i'm sure women do on men. there would be something wrong with the world if we didn't. but most of the ones we see are owned by those in the unattainable
bracket and remain just nice to look at. and anyway perfection is boring

Answer 2

I think you will find that it is you that is worrying about it more than a man who genuinely loves you will worry about it. Despite the stereotypical "perfect babe" found in the likes of FHM and Maxim, a great deal of men actually do not find that look particularly attractive.

On a purely sexual level, there are a lot of men that love women of physical substance - some men will absolutely love having sex from behind with a girl with a large bum (irrespective of its shape).

That said however, there is much more to life than physicality. Find a man that will genuinely love you for who you are and the rest just follows naturally. After all, love should be about affections, not just erections!

Hope this helps!

Answer 3

a guy with a flabby bum, himself, may be less critical... aww, but we all know of guys that aren't perfect but get irritated if girls around them aren't.... there are some unshallow hals out there, btw.
Some of those super models that we hear about & their husbands cheating on them with Waaay younger gals with the firmer, younger, smaller goods. I babysat for a lady that was a size 12 or so & her hubby left her for some "skinny ugly beach" as she'd say. But then there's other couples that grow old together & stay together.
Then I also knew another couple where the lady was pretty (& bigger) & her & her hubby were seperated & he was seeing some gal that was athletic & almost boyish in face/hair compared to his estranged wife. My Dad use to laugh at how a past prez & his wife were George & George. He'd go, "there's George & George." Well, she kinda looks like George Washington. Personality should be where it's at but we can all admit that we all like the icing on the cake.... :)))))*!
plus, I don't agree with a healthy love life if it doesn't mean in a marriage. It shouldn't be eye candy for s-e-x, It should be called love making. And that shouldn't be superficial. You love that person & if they change as they get older, you should still love them cuz by then you should be emotionally attached & it's more out of love making then it is youthful lusts & s-e-x. Dana Reeves is an admirable lady that stayed beside her husband faithfully even tho she had to give up 10 years of her life in probable abstainance becuz of his disability. Mind you none that she was probably at an age where most people are still very active in that area. She loved him so it didn't matter as much. Best wishes! Also remember all the young Perfect gals out there like Jessica Simpson & she is alone right now. Most gals would love to have or kept their figure like hers. But that doesn't guarentee true love or a lasting relationship if you get in with the wrong type of guy.

Answer 4

Trust my luv there is always a man for every woman no matter how u look it's just that way, but if u want my advise i think u should look better at u as a preson i mean u have to love urself before u can or expect anyone to love u pls try to change ur attitude towards urself it will definately go a lnog way to help u out in ur relationshipes.good luck

Answer 5

If, you have a healthy love life, why worry about whether or not you have a perfect bum. There are plenty of men that have saggy bummed wives. If, you think it is affecting your love life do something about your bum.

Answer 6

I always feel the same way about my body and my Boyfriend.
I'm only just 5ft, and i wear size 12 clothes. I know I'm not fat but I'm definitely flabby. My stomach and bum especially, he says that he loves my curves, that there is more of me to love and cuddle. I know he's not exactly Mr fit himself and he keeps complaining about his stomach, but it doesn't change the way i feel about him, so why should my flabby belly change the way he feels about me.
guys can be a lot less critical than we give them credit for. lot of guys out there are looking for the same things us women are, just we don't seem to look in the right places for them.

Answer 7

I for one usually am attracted to the bum you describe. Guys like me are out there. You'll find one soon enough.

Unless of course you're in western Pennsylvania, than I'm already here and you should e-mail me: [e-mail]

Answer 8

We all are "flawed". The guy who digs you will dig your bum as well. The "perfect" bum is a matter of beauty in the eye and heart of the beholder. Relax...........just let things happen.

Answer 9

Dont put urself down. At the end of the day it is you who is improtant nothing else. If some one really loves you they wont be bothered about anything but you and certainly wont be looking at everyone else!

Answer 10

my man loves my bum and my saggy tummy at first i thought that he was just saying it to pretend but during sex and foreplay he spends just as much time and pays just as much attention to them as he does to any other part of my body. it depends on the individual maybe they wouldn't love it as much if you already had it when you met them. if it was a gradual thing