My son has recently fallen into a bad crowd. He is spending alot of time with mean otters. They have made him start smoking and i'm worried he is doing drugs.
There have also been some severe mink beating in the area and i'm afraid this group could be behind it. There was even an elk mugged in broad daylight on my street yesterday.
I'm really worried, what should I do?
2007-01-24 22:32:49 · 27 answers · asked by Cheese B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like you're living in a really bad Zoo. Ask the zookeeper for a transfer to another more peaceful zoo.
2007-01-24 22:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say u need to be cruel to be kind, first you should secondly tell your son that while he is under your roof then he has to behave and stop hanging around with that crowd, if you need to then ground him, as for the smoking no one makes your son do it, he choses to! if drugs are an issue then I would contact your gp and arrange an appointment for your son. With his permission they can do a drugs test and depending on the results can offer help and support to get your son back on the straight and narrow. I would also stop giving your son any money while this is going on as if he is smoking and taking drugs then that money will only be feeding his habit. Only you know how serious this matter is but I would suggest that if your son is of high school age that you also contact his school and inform them of your concerns so that they can keep an eye on your son and maybe they can offer help and support. Also if your concerned about your son being involved with the muggings then I would personally contact the police and report it, your son needs a fright, something to make him realise that he cant keep behaving how he is or otherwise he is going to have a sad lonley life in either young offenders or a mens prison. I hope all works out for you, best of luck.
2007-01-25 00:37:04 · answer #2 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you can get some other worried parents together, and collect more information about the animal torment. Ask someone from the Animal Protection Society to come along. Then invite your son, and his friends to this gathering. Sometimes when a third person talks, he/she has more impact than a mother or father.
Another way to get this information to the teenagers is through the school. Mabe they could hold some talk about it...and even suggest groups of teenagers to keep a look out for those that commit these criminal acts.Believe me that works better then if you get on him about it.
2007-01-24 22:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by bluebyou 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to get him away from that bad crowd. Try sending him to a relative in another town for a year, or if you can afford it to boarding school. At a certain age the peers carry more weight with a child than the parents so the only thing you can do is remove him from the peers for a while.
Get him tested for drugs at your doctor's office. If he is on drugs send him to rehab - you doctor will help you find one. The earlier you act the better his chances will be. If you let this behavior solidify into established habbit it will be much harder to break.
Good luck.
2007-01-24 23:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by Queen of Cards 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that you sit him down and have a good rabbit to him about things. Just remain dogged in your approach and don't pus5y foot around the issue or you could end up with catastrophic results.
Tell him to stop aping about and ask him if he is a man or a mouse or why he is being such a rat!!!
Failing to get any good response could result in him being put behind bars at the RSPCA
2007-01-24 22:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by The Dragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very difficult situation for a parent. Peer pressure is very strong.
I think that if you cannot move away from the area then the only thing you can do is talk to your son about where he is headed and where he could be headed if he made different choices and hopefully you will get into his head.
2007-01-24 22:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jolanda C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's the Nasty Squirrel Crew you should worry about, man they are awful. I've had all sorts of problems with them - beatings, robbery, they even attacked my old friend Quackerz the duck. It's a shame. I think you should let your son run wild for a bit then find him a nice sensible mate to settle down with!
2007-01-24 22:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by ★♥ KillerBea ♥★ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you cant do a lot.My niece has fallen in with a bad lot of kids and she is 17.If you are in control of your sons finances say you refuse to give him money to go out then there is not a great deal you can do.Your hands are tied like my sisters.
2007-01-24 22:49:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
To be honest there isn't much you can do, you can't ban him from seeing his mates because that'll just make him rebel even more. He's at the stage where he's trying things, let him explore and soon enough he will realise what he's doing. I was in a situation like this as well.
2007-01-24 22:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make clear the boundaries of your house, so that he won't be tempted to brings drugs into the house or anything like that. The fact is, trying to keep your son in, or away from these people will only make him more determined. He must make his own mistakes, you can only tell him why you don't like his behaviour, it is up to him to change it.
2007-01-24 22:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by Notherenow 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋