i went to a club & when i came out of the bathroom i was gonna ask the bartender for some water & some guy turns around & gives me his beer & says but you owe me a dance. he even gave my friend a beer. Then we went to the dancefloor & danced all night & he kept giving me comments & saying how good i was as a dancer & that i was hypnotizing him. He bouht me a second beer too & we danced all night long. he would even hold my hand while walkin to the bar & putting his arm on my hips like we were actually going out. He said he was gonna ask me to dance earlier but he was scared i was gonna say no. while dancing he would actually ask me questions about myself unlke other guys that just dance but dont talk. He kept sayinthat we should hang out again & that i was a cool girl,and got my number. When it was over he helped me fnd my friends, and walked me to my friends car & opened the door for me too. Does he sound like a player,just trying to get some or do you think hes actually interested
2007-01-24 21:42:24 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy obviously knows his way with women but that does not neccessarily mean he is a player.
The truth is you have to see this guy a couple of more times before you can tell what his intentions are. if he tries to get some and you decline and he still calls you back the next day,then i think he might be a bit sincere.
2007-01-24 22:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by gt3011 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st red flag. Club/Bar.
2nd red flag. Alcohol.
The guy is interested in you sexually. That is all.
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The guys is not shy, he spotted you earlier and waited for you to come out of the bathroom where you were likely to be alone so he could talk to you. The buying of beer seems like a nice gesture, but he is trying to lower your inhibitions, and make you think he is nice for buying your friend a drink. Your friend will have a slight positive opinion about him when you talk to your friend later about him because of his good will gesture.
The touching around the hips is a sexual gesture, even if it is just dancing. He is communicating his interest to you sexually this way.
99% of guys in clubs/bars are seeking potential sex. Clubs/ bars are not ideal locations to find a mate. If you are looking for Mr. Right Now, he's an option.
Be sure you talk to him on the phone and meet publicly a couple times or so, maybe go the same club again with your friends and his friends as a group and see if the chemistry is still the same. Be safe.
2007-01-25 05:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by Net Advisor™ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Players don't spend money on chicks. They see you as a game and if they have to buy you a drink they would sooner move onto the next woman.
Another thing is that he didn't even expect any making out to occur. players look for one night things and the quicker they get play the better. This guy sounds like a pretty decent bloke who, might just want something casual but might not. Chances are he probably won't **** you over and then become a total dick to you
2007-01-25 06:25:30 · answer #3 · answered by normthesamurai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's obviously no 100% sure way to know right now if this guy is a player...however, he walked you to your friend's car, got you drinks, danced with you all night, asked you questions, and (unless you didn't mention it) didn't try to make a move.
give the guy a chance, if he calls like he said he would, then maybe he's a nice guy....otherwise, there are other guys out there :)
2007-01-25 05:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by veggie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLAYA!!! I have dealt with them types b4 they talk sweet all night and get your number but you didn't get his did you? He wanted to get your number so that you will think he is interested and wait for him to call back. And maybe even see if you were easy and invite him back to your place for some "extra drinks" and see what happens from there. I'm not a playa but I have seen it happen b4. Now don't get me wrong some guys who are like that do have good intentions at heart but you do have those sneaky ones that you have to watch out for. Good Luck
2007-01-25 05:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ask Ashlynn!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't like dating a guy i met in a party, cause any boy that picks girl in a party is a player, a gigolo also a girl picked in a party is a slut. party is not a place u go and get ur idea man cause they are funs makerthey just went there to make funs wit either their partner or gf not to get life partner or gf.
so becareful u can't get ur idea man in a party is not genuine
2007-01-25 05:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he's straight up with you and doesn't mislead you, he isn't a player. a player is someone that basically plays with your emotions just to get what he or she wants. most guys are just trying to get some, it the approach they use that makes it look ok to sleep with him without having a relationship or like if you just got played.
2007-01-25 05:52:35 · answer #7 · answered by GR8 ONE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be either, the sign of a good player is that you cant tell the difference. The old saying goes, " you will never know until you suck it and see".
2007-01-25 05:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NetAdvisor said:
The guy is interested in you sexually. That is all
Why would he be interested?In finding out the way she uses her nail polish?Or in her inner world?Oh man get serious!Go and see for yourself!What else could he do in order to express his interest?Ask you in wedding?It's then that he should be called a player.Good investigation!
2007-01-26 15:43:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you thought that maybe he was/is intersted in you? The only way you will ever know is if you take the time to talk with him
2007-01-25 05:54:50 · answer #10 · answered by poutanaki4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋